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hi guys,
my boyfriend and i used to do a lot of things together and used to go out on a lot of dates now we barely do anything. why? because all i do is complain. i’ll be very honest i’ve recently became very insecure with myself and my body. so i complain a lot about his social media. he stopped hanging out with me more, he spends more time with his friends, he stopped taking me out on dates, he used to call or text me all the time and now he doesn’t do that. i know for a fact it’s because i complain and i’m not good company to be around with. im trying to change to become better person. my question is when i change will he start doing theses things again?
my boyfriend and i used to do a lot of things together and used to go out on a lot of dates now we barely do anything. why? because all i do is complain. i’ll be very honest i’ve recently became very insecure with myself and my body. so i complain a lot about his social media. he stopped hanging out with me more, he spends more time with his friends, he stopped taking me out on dates, he used to call or text me all the time and now he doesn’t do that. i know for a fact it’s because i complain and i’m not good company to be around with. im trying to change to become better person. my question is when i change will he start doing theses things again?
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The sort of changes you’d need to make take real time, and by then the damage may already be done if it’s not already. Your actions drove a wedge between you and sometimes there’s just no turning back from all the damage you’ve done. I know it hurts and it’s sucky but it is what it is, you were a broken woman that should’ve worked on herself before trying to be a girlfriend again.
i don’t think the damage has been done. because if i don’t call him he calls me, if he doesn’t hear from me he calls my sister asking where i am, he texts me i love you, when we are together we do have fun (the past few days anyway) even when i am in a bad mood he tries his hardest to make the best of it. so i don’t think it’s damaged
“My boyfriend and i used to do a lot of things together and used to go out on a lot of dates now we barely do anything”
Damage.
“why? because all i do is complain.”
This to me is you taking notice of damage.
“he stopped hanging out with me more, he spends more time with his friends, he stopped taking me out on dates, he used to call or text me all the time and now he doesn’t do that.”
More damage.
“i know for a fact it’s because i complain and i’m not good company to be around with.”
Damage.
Like I said, by the time you make the changes necessary, damage is already done. That doesn’t mean your relationship is irreplaceable but again, you’ve driven a wedge between you with your actions. I never said he doesn’t care at all, clearly there is some level of concern. But caring about you doesn’t always equate to wanting to save the romance and love within your relationship.
Keep an open dialogue with him and let him know that you have some issues and are trying to change. Ask him for his support it will help. How has your sex life been with him? Any changes good or bad?
i’ve tried to change before so he’s not going to want to hear that from me right now because he’ll probably think it’s a lie. we used to have sex all the time and now we barely have any.
maybe he's tired? i mean going to dates every day is very tiring mentally phsyically and financially to some people. let him breathe