How to deal with a toxic person when you can't cut them off completely?

[Alexa18]

I'm 25f and I had a "friend" that is toxic and I want to completely cut out of my life. we started off as friends, gotten really close over the past few months, ended up having casual sex a few times, we'd hung out 2-4 times a week playing volleyball. It got to the point where we would argue over small matters, and he would get jealous or mad at me when I don't respond.

I got pregnant, it was 7 weeks, and I had an abortion. We mutually decided it was the best option since we were both not ready to be parents, and we were not even in a relationship. I know it was dumb of me to agree to not use protection knowing I'm not on pills. I have learned my lesson, and I took responsibility for my mistake and dumb choices.

He completely ghosted me during the whole process. He bought me the test, and when we found out it was positive he started being mean to me, cussing me, and eventually ghosting me. He didn't help with the fees or even offer to drive me to the clinic. I underwent the process by myself, which was a 4-hour drive from my place and I don't have a car with me so I had to take a Lyft. It was a traumatizing experience for me, plus the cramps and bleeding. When I texted him it's done, he only said "okay that's good. I don't wanna see you for a few weeks tho because seeing you reminds me of the problem. I need some time".

This guy is a close friend of my sister's boyfriend and our cousin. All of us spend a lot of time together. This is where my problem comes in. I don't ever wanna see him or talk to him, but he is a family friend and I don't want to be the person who'll decided who he can/cannot hangout with because that's not my place. But this guy comes back in my life like nothing happened. I don't want him to think that I'm okay with being disrespected. When I completely ignore him, he's nice to me. But when I acknowledge his existence he's mean to me. I want to cut him off, but how can I do that when he's a family friend?

[ohsheeT]

This is when you grow as a person always remember You are the boss you are in charge of you and your destiny. He showed you what kind of a man he is, he showed you who he is, as a human being. He showed you how fake. Yes because he walked away from something from somebody that he said that he loved
Because of something that he helped create

You have to Learn discipline and control Of yourself and I would not let him in my life again He wants his cake and eat it too

He's not even close to being a man. And if you let him back in to your life it will never work I would never trust him again. Because no matter what he says, when the going gets tough, he leaves. He disrespected you so much and himself you just need to find your inter strength and become it master it. He fake and weak.

[Alexa18]

Yes I don't trust him anymore and try my best to ignore him. Treat him like he's non-existent.

[ohsheeT]

My mouth wantvtp sayvso many things about him right now. And they are not good. .. I mean, if I were your brother or friend . He wouldn't be coming to my house and am afraid of what I would do

[Alexa18]

should I even confront him? ask him to stop hanging out with us and my siblings since ignoring him doesn't work? I don't think he sees the sign...

[DannyUk2017]

Ignorance is a Bliss... but from what i've read sounds like You Dug your own grave, from best friends to sex to abortion... hmm... the main thing niw is that you might just "created yourself" a Stalker! Just watch yourself out there...

[DishLady]

There's a point where you just have to bite the bullet and cut the person off. Just do it. You'll feel much lighter and be able to go about your business. Nice people tend to let toxic drama linger for too long. Don't be one of those people. Stop making excuses for this person to stay in your life. You're only bringing yourself down.

[Flower7]

I love this advice.

[DishLady]

@Flower7 Thanks. It comes from experience.

[Alexa18]

should I even confront him? ask him to stop hanging out with us and my siblings since ignoring him doesn't work?

[DishLady]

You could. I tried ignoring the guy who was like that in my life and he kept trying to say hi etc — very persistent bugger — till finally I insisted we have a talk so we’re clear on the fact that we’re not friends.

[Flower7]

Just stop talking to him and chatting with him, regardless of whether he’s a family friend. Stop hanging out with groups that you know he’ll be a part of. Ignore him from now on. He definitely deserves it.

[Alexa18]

how can I stop hanging out with those groups if they are my siblings?

[Flower7]

Don’t go places with your siblings when you know that this guy will be with them.

[Avicenna]

Ignore as much as possible then

[petitedollbabee]

Pretty easily, you still cut them off and you stop hanging out with the family or friends who spend time with him when he’s around. If you’re someone want to cut him off that desperately then just do it.

[petitedollbabee]

If you’re wanting to cut him off* stupid autocorrect.

[Anonymous]

I ignore them until they take the hint and go away. And if they don't, we'll I keep ignoring them anyhow and... well it's not my problem, it's thiers.😆

[RHK36]

Stop looking for excuses and cut him off. If you can't then stop complaining.

[Staximus]

The guy sounds like a shit bag. Just don't contact him anymore.

[Staximus]

And don't answer when he calls or texts

[Anonymous]

Coward killed her baby and sleeps around.