What causes a guy to remain friends with a girl he wants to date or have sex with?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

We are all made from energy. Look at it as if we are a magnet. And when two energy's create a bond a l A connection.

That's is very beautiful. It's like a magnet will Connect with different materials. But it won't with other certain types of materials like gold or silver copper or brass. All of those are energy Conductors but there nit Compatible with a magnet.

I'm sorry I just read that and I know your saying ZWTF. Are you talking about

Ok try this. Put your arm out and add another person with you and touch your 4 AM the inside of your 4 AM together and feel the energy between both people do a test of 20 people and I guarantee you're not gonna have some that just melt you and you will have something you don't feel anything. But when you feel something you feel that connection. That's energy, and we are all made of energy and true honesty. You should be able to Connect with everybody but you have to under stand energy. And you have to know who you truly are. And i'm sure you're saying.

Lol WTF. Is he talking about. So how about this answer? It's because he likes you.
And there's something about you that you really likes. But it starts with energy everything I said is true The Tri.
Be experiments and you'll see exactly what I mean

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There’s a number of reasons for this. One is he lacks confidence. Maybe the men she’s dated in the past far surpass him as far as what he can offer. So he doesn’t feel like he matches up to what she likes. It could also be that he doesn’t want to mess up a good friendship. It could also be that he’s already dating someone. It’s also possible he’s afraid to get into a relationship due to past experiences. Maybe he just sees her as a sister. Maybe she’s always w other men. It’s also possible that maybe she’s been w a lot of dudes that he does like her but can’t get past her past. Maybe he wants to date or have sex w her but maybe she doesn’t feel the same. Maybe he feels inadequate as far as performing in the bedroom. Maybe his manliness isn’t as manly as other men’s manliness. It could also be that he feels he doesn’t deserve to be w her for a number of reasons. Lack of money, career, doesn’t feel manly enough to take care of her. Maybe he’s not interested in a relationship right now. There’s a lot of reasons.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

There are a few possibilities he will hang around and not date her:

He likes her company/personality and values her as a person.
He's addicted to her energy and just needs to be around it even if they can't date.
He's not *sexually* attracted to her.

There are a few possibilities he wants to date her but is stalling:

They've been friends a while and he doesn't know where to start.
They've known one another a while and he thinks too much time has passed.
She's always WITH someone else.
He's with someone else and respects her too much to mess with her.

AnTina101 · Accepted Answer

For me personally I had a guy friend who desperately wanted me, but he wasn't my type. We ended up close friends but he would always ask about details of my sex life, guys I was seeing, how the sex was. Turned out he was getting turned on hearing about it...

Summeroflove · Answer

Number one there could be a genuine interest in her even if he wants to date her or is attracted that’s not to say someone can’t genuinely enjoy the time you spend together.

However, if it’s purely sexual. Some people are just desperate others see it as a game and that is the one that hurts. When you feel like someone genuinely likes you either romantically or platonically but they only wanted to sleep with you.

But you can tell that type because eventually when they don’t get whst they’re wanting they stop talking. Or they find someone else. But some will stick around for a while m

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

For some, it’s purely predatory. He knows she will eventually have a vulnerable moment that he intends on taking advantage of.
For most, it’s that we believed for too long the lies we’ve been told about how and why women choose their mates. We believed that just being the reliable, funny and supportive friend will eventually lead to her seeing the folly of her ways and grow to love us the way we love her.

Finchie40 · Answer

He might still like her as a friend , even though she isn’t interested in him the way he wants her to be. Part of him might think he still might have a chance with her, thinking maybe she will change her mind , I had girl friends’ that I rejected romantically but I liked them as a friend so I still stayed friends’ with them and vice versa. So subconsciously he still hopes she will change her mind but eventually he will move on when he realizes he doesn’t have a chance

OlderAndWiser · Answer

He is desperately clinging to a hope because that feels better than surrendering to reality.

Zack-Bann · Answer

A rare occurrence but I agree with almost every opinion on this

I will add this one: he knows preferences change over time

In many cases a guy ends up in a friend zone because the girl is interested in a certain type of guy

Then she gets heart broken by that type of guy over and over

Eventually she comes to the self realization that “what she’s looking for has been here the whole time”
(By the way Taylor Swift’s song You Belong With Me perfectly illustrates the mentality of the friend zone)

So when she realizes that, she ends up giving him a chance

Or so he hopes
Because it’s worked for others before

But it’s a waste of time if you ask me.
I don’t like the idea of being someone’s last option.
Or wait for my turn while my crush dates another
So I would rather shoot my shot, get rejected, move on. Or get accepted and just have the relationship.

Cormac995 · Answer

In that situation a guy will do one of two things. 1. He walks away 2. He's staying because he's holding out hope they change their mind. If you friend zonned a guy and stayed friends he's not over you and he's probably not ok either. That's why friend zoning does work. Once feelings are involved you either ruin the friendship or you start dating. There isn't really a middle ground once you put a guy there the relationship will never be the same so we man should at least give it some thought before putting a guy there because if they do there's a huge chance you killed the bond entirely. If you don't like them back you don't like them back but you do need to consider the moment you say no there's a very high chance you lost them entirely.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It can be because:

He doesn't want to date or have sex anymore with you
He hopes she'd change her mind over time
He doesn't speak English, so he didn't understand you said no
He's not from this planet, so he wants to study you as a sample

Honestly, given the parameters, I would talk with him to evaluate what he's doing and hoping. Unless he's coming from another planet, in that case, I suggest calling secret service of your country.

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

Maybe he likes you but doesn’t think you feel the same way so, instead of having to face the rejection he thinks he’s going to get, he hasn’t tried taking things further. If you guys have never had sex, I don’t see how he could be using you (like what for?). That answer makes no sense to me. He could be nervous, though. Possibly inexperienced or the type of guy that lets the girl make the first move. If he’s not into you, though, I don’t get why he’d be spending so much time with you.

Bricealan · Answer

I had a friend like that. Very sexual and lusty, and we stayed friend for years, after we once tried dating. Not sure if she regretted our not having sex, but she did really love hearing about my sex life later... and that was a great turn on... We did/do remain friends. Have had female friends like that more recently...

Anonymous · Answer

Well, I have a childhood friend who I wanted to date because I fell in love with.

She didn’t feel the same way , so I respected it and we stayed friends. I understood later on that we were better as friends and glad catching feelings for her didn’t ruin anything.
We liked the same music , tv shows , games and stuff though we didn’t click as anything more than friends which was okay because I grew to accept that also I appreciate their friendship more.

BadApple69 · Answer

Hope.  If he wants to have sex with you… he will keep hanging around hoping you’ll change your mind.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Why do you think? He's hoping against all evidence to the contrary that she'll come running into his arms someday. He's basically an idiot who doesn't want to face reality. So he wastes a couple of years of his life in futility.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Comfort. It's not always sexual. Sometimes you just mesh with people as you would same gender. Just don't want to breed with them. •snort•

NotLongKindaGirthy · Answer

The hope that he will eventually be able to "slip it in" when (a) her preferences change, or (b) she has a weak moment.

CarolinaCutie5 · Answer

If he wanted to date you he would. He's not interested aka doesn't find you worth the investment. Men are visual so he most likely doesn't see you as attractive

Babygirl_S · Answer

Realising he’s inferior and trying to work on himself. Knowing a very beautiful woman who also has a kind heart. When the appearance matches the personality and he is simply trying to come to terms with his inferiority complex.

fonduegirl · Answer

He found somebody hotter. Although he wants to nail you too. Just not now

molonski2 · Answer

He is still pretty sure he is a chance or he would simply cut her off.

Zylos · Answer

Our society glorifies the idea of never giving up, especially for men.

Dargil · Answer

He still waits for an opening. Specific preferences can change with bad experiences.

DrPepper12 · Answer

The very same thing that was left in Pandora's box... Hope to get into hers...

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Hope that one day you will ditch your expectation and see his love lol and the love shall triumph.

dudeinohio · Answer

He's hoping she will have sex with him in the future.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same as what cause a girl to remain friends with a guy she wants to date, have sex with and get free money from.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose it's hope that she will change her mind.

msc545 · Answer

The hope that she will give in and at least go out with him.

WhitneySnow · Answer

He really cares about her

grungeberry · Answer

Him thinking he’ll eventually get there with her.

beenherebefore · Answer

Hoping she’ll change her mind.

exitseven · Answer

hope springs eternal.

stratford · Answer

He is clinging on to the hope

qwerty2469 · Answer

She's more fun then she is attractive or reliable.

Ariesman81 · Answer

It's called the long game. Seldom works.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

He’s hoping that she changes her mind

Anonymous · Answer

He’s trying to keep hope alive

Pterodon · Answer

Hopefully he’ll get to fuck you again

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

He wants to give her his boy joy !!!

Arcadian222 · Answer

Hope of getting it one day.

In_Trance · Answer

The chance to rail her in the future

MasterKS · Answer

He loose the sexual connection.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Hope.

glennos89 · Answer

Hope

jahaims · Answer

Desperate

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Pussy!

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