Im a nurse who makes 120 an hour. 230k, I heard men dont like it when a woman makes more money. Is this true? Would most men low key reject me? Im open to dating guys who make less, just as long as he makes at least 100k with a professional job
Here’s the thing. A lot of men would gladly date a woman who makes more than they do. Where it comes to be an issue is when the female throws it in his face. Especially when she gets that miss independent I don’t need a man attitude. Most men aren’t intimidated by a girl making more, we’re just not willing to put up w her attitude. A lot of women who make money like that tend to have the traits of a man, which causes issues cause men don’t want to date other men. We want to date feminine women. I think your last statement there might turn men away. It’ll certainly disqualify a lot of men as well because most men don’t make that much. You said you’re open to dating men who make less just as long as it’s at least $100,000, which really doesn’t mean you’re really open to dating men who make less. By disqualifying a lot of men like that you’re potentially missing out on the one man who would make a great husband, awesome father, protector, etc. The difference is w men if we’re making what you make maybe even much less, we’re willing to date a female who makes a lot less then that, maybe even nothing. Like my situation. I work, she doesn’t. Together 18 years. The other thing is a lot of men see nurses as promiscuous so that may be another thing that deters men from dating you. You may not think so like my colleagues do who are also nurses, but a lot of men think so. The women who I talk to about things like this always want to argue that no it’s just an excuse, men are just intimidated, we can’t handle them, etc, etc. It’s like wait a minute you’re asking a man, who’s telling you but you’re still trying to say no you’re wrong, this is the reason why men don’t do things. I guess men can’t have thoughts of their own. Crazy how that works. They’re all single as well in their late 30s to 40s, some even in your age range. But they will never listen which is just one more thing that’s going to keep them single cause they’re going to keep doing the same thing they’ve been doing rather then listening to men about how we think, why we operate the way we do.
A woman who doesn't work might not necessarily be feminine. A man is supposed to provide and protect. His job is not only to be a father. Her selecting a man who makes less money is already lowering her standards. Hardworking smart women deserves so e smart and Hardworking, not some lazy guy who is just looking to freeload off of her Hardwork
Yes there ARE a lot of men who are intimidated by successful women. Their egos feel threatened. Dont act like this doesn't exist
Yes that is why I said most men. I didn’t say all. But you know it all so good luck. Just cause a man doesn’t make as much as you doesn’t mean he’s lazy. Most blue collar jobs like plumbers, welders, things like that don’t make $100,000 a year. Doesn’t mean they’re lazy. You’ll forever be one of the women I talk to who wonders why she can’t find someone. But like all women you know what as men think, cause we certainly don’t know how to think for ourselves
@opinionowner
you sound like you just like to blame women.
I know I can always get a man with the amount of money that I am making. Plenty of lazy freeloaders, good for nothing men, who never wants to do anything in life would LOVE TO HAVE ME.
But I have my standards and I can't accept a man who only wants to marry me so he can do nothing before he came into the marriage then do nothing during the marriage, freeloading with my hard earned money
Broke usually means you haven't worked hard in life. No, having a job doesn't mean you worked hard. Everyone has a fucking job. Having a job doesn't make you special
I'm looking for a man who is just as hardworking and smart and ambitious as me. Not the type of guy who does bare minimum, lazy and expects to receive everything.
As someone who has worked hard her entire life, I deserve someone who also likes to work hard to fulfill their dreams. I want someone who shares my values. I can't respect someone who does absolute bare minimum.
lol good luck to you. The men you want don’t want you. It’s nothing to brag about when a lot of men you don’t want want you.
@opinionowner
that is what bitter jealous insecure men, like you, say.
Rich women along with rich men will never ever have a hard time finding a spouse due to the LIFESTYLE they can provide.
this is not called being "arrogant". its just the TRUTH
And I am aware that a lot of men CAN'T STAND this truth.
If you think no man would want this type of lifestyle where he gets to wake up, do nothing, play video games all day, eat the best meals, take the best vacations, life his best life, you're delusional.
I can easily get a husband, but I just won't settle for a FREELOADER
Yes because again you know what men think. I have nothing to be bitter about, jealous or insecure. The crazy thing is a lot of men will say the same thing but women will still say the things you say. If the majority of men said the same thing wouldn’t you think that’s how men are wired? Now if it was just a handful of men who thought that way I might say ok yes I can see what you mean. But it’s not a handful? It’s a lot. And even if it was what you’re saying it is, why does that matter? You have your standards. Men can’t have theirs? What if I said you’re u secure for not wanting to date men who make less then $100,000? I never said no men wouldn’t like that. Learn to read. You’re most likely the one who is bitter who makes a lot of money has it all but still wonders why like a lot of women why aren’t the men I like trying to date me. You’re reaching an age where most men will look past you for a relationship, maybe for fun but that window is slowly closing.
@opinionowner
did I anger you?
you defiately seem jaded, bitter and miserable.
Its just the truth...
if you think no man would want a rich woman who can provide him a nice lifestyle where he would never need to work a day in his life again, eat the best foods, go on the best vacations, play video games all day. You're DELUSIONAL.
so you don't have to insist that no man would ever want me.
because you know that secretly DEEP DOWN, you are jealous as hell.
this is why I never date poor broke guys, they're just too jealous
@opinion owner
[You’re reaching an age where most men will look past you for a relationship, maybe for fun but that window is slowly closing.]
and what makes you think young women won't look past you? you're an old aging man 45+, past his prime. Even women my age, 29, won't want you.
lol I don’t need a woman been married 18 years. Good try though.
@opinionowner
why would you think being married matters?
even if u weren't' married, no woman would ever look your way.
you're losing hair, getting wrinkly , saggy, uglier by the day, your dick is malfunctioning, balls getting saggier by the day, your bad knee kills sex.
what makes you think a hot young chick in her 20s would want you? if she can easily get a man who is tall, dark handsome muscular and fit?
Say what you want I’m not the one who’s passed her peak w no man. You can throw whatever you want at me to make yourself feel better about being single. You don’t like the answers the men have given you cause it makes you realize you probably won’t meet someone. Especially w that attitude. That is what men don’t want to date, women like you, not that you make more money than them. You’ve proven what a lot
Of women who make a lot of money are like.
@opinionowner
women at their "peak" do not want old aging men like you.
sounds like you need a wakeup call.
even women in 30s don't want to date men in 40s. Just the truth.
I'm 29, I don't date men over 38.
Feel better about your erectile dysfunction, old man. It only gets worse with age.
lol ok. Remember that when you lay in your bed alone every night. This will be my last response so whatever you write back won’t be read so write as much as you want.
@opinionowner
I'm 29, still in my prime.
you're 45+, far out of your prime.
A man's prime is 25-35. Anything over 35 is downhill.
The thing is, men that make the $100k + that you want often have LOTS of options, which means unless you look very good, make yourself available to him whenever he wants, prioritize him over your career, have common interests, match the moral standards he wants in a partner, etc. you'd have no chance. The reason why is that men don't care/aren't impressed with how much money you make. Someone working part time minimum wage is just as good if she meets his standards for looks, morals, past, and compatibility.
Women that make good money often try to cope by claiming men are intimidated by them, when in reality the women often don't have the qualities men want. Usually a bad/immoral past, alcohol abuse, don't have enough free time to actually enjoy a relationship together, and even if she made millions, she would often still expect HIM to pay the bills because she is selfish. Life isn't about making as much money as possible by sacrificing everything else. Money is the means, not the end goal.
sounds something coming out of a mouth of a woman hater. I can tell you that none of what you're saying is true. Continue hating... you sound soo bitter.
What I said is true. You are just likely low quality when it comes to looks and morals and hope that your money will make up for it. Too bad it doesn't work that way. Continue living in denial, it is your life and YOU are the one that has to live with the consequences of your decisions.
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Short answer. Yes. Longer answer, some people are insecure about the woman making more money for both some men as well as women out there. Obviously, some people want someone for money women do this but men can do this as well.
Be careful it’s good to avoid people who cannot genuinely connect whether it’s needing someone they can have control over or wanting someone’s money, which can also be a form of control. There are weird characters on both extremes.
It comes down to are you able to connect with someone and build that bond. Firstly, you need someone that you’re compatible with emotionally, spiritually, and everything else but secondarily you need someone who’s able to be there and be supportive. It works both ways but a lot of people who work in fields such as first responders and nursing as in your case live in complete misery. Because they have a spouse who isn’t ever there for them and cannot open up or anything inside their own homes.
It’s hard from an empathetic level sometimes because some people feel guilt by passing traumas to their significant other and children as well as making someone feel bad for them. But I’ve always told people that your spouse should be someone you feel safe around and you have to be strong all day it can emotionally break someone to never be able to express anything. Not saying that having mental health is bad either.
Some people do choose others who are in the same or similar profession so a nurse may choose to date other nurses, doctors, law enforcement, emergency medical, firefighters, other medical professionals, etc. But you absolutely don’t have to do that. Since that comes with its own issues as well.
Yes. My crush turned out to be a doctor. I knew she was smart and would be successful, but I wasn't aware of her career plans. My desire and passion for her wouldn't change if she quit and was working at McDonald's. The biggest red flag is your requirement of 100k. I want someone who loves me for who I am, not what I can monetarily give them. Only 17% of individuals make that, and that number is especially smaller at your age group. I personally make around 60k right now, which is more than enough for my personal needs.
The reasoning for the 100k is that I want someone who aligns with my personal values of hard work and education. As a hard working person who gave up my youth for an education, I am not interested in marrying a freeloader who just wants to marry me for an upgrade in lifestyle (because he was too lazy to have any career goals of his own).
Broke usually means you haven't worked hard in life. No, having a job doesn't mean you worked hard. Everyone has a fucking job. Having a job doesn't make you special
Imagine sacrificing years of your life, just to earn a great lifestyle, only for a lazy freeloader, who has done absolutely nothing in life, just married you for a lifestyle upgrade
I can't respect laziness, its just not part of my values.
Someone who does bare minimum or less than that without a rich spouse, will do even less after marrying a rich spouse.
It sounds like you fear ending up with a bad partner. A good partner would continously provide value to you, regardless of any pay gap. Your values come across not as education and hardwork but greed. There are countless positions that require both hardwork and an education. If I married a girl who made significantly more than me, I would feel need to provide some sort of value to her constantly.
@opinionowner
how is that greed?
my worst fear in life is marrying a man who just married me for a lifestyle upgrade. Decides he won't have to work a job anymore since his wife makes enough money to support him.
Play video games all day, has nothing to do all day, makes a mess then uses my credit card to order a maid to come to clean it. Give her a huge tip cuz its not his money he worked hard for anyways.
Then he gets bored again, so he uses my credit card to buy himself a porn subscription and onlyfans. so he can jerk off all day.
This is why I need to uphold my standards.
It has nothing to do with greed. I don't want a man who is like that.
There are plenty of professional jobs that make under 100k. Would you reject a teacher or police officer simply because they make a lot less than you? You just fear somebody only courting you because you make a lot of money. That is a reasonable fear that men have dealt with forever, so I completely understand it. I personally fear it as well.
You'll have a plenty of time during the dating phase to snuff it out. If they always expect you to pay for everything, that is a red flag. You can see if he values you for the money you have or the time you spend together. You aren't marrying him right away anyway.
Once you are married, you should never stand for any of the behavior you listed. Most of that would seem like he is trying to get divorced, and any decent judge would side with you. The porn thing would be especially insulting. Someone that acts like that wouldn't deserve your love nor your affection.
I'm obviously biased, because my crush probably makes and will make more than I do. I wouldn't ever want to put her in a situation where I'm entirely dependent on her, and I would feel the need to constantly provide appreciation and worth. I think my feelings for her are extraordinarily rare, but you should look for something similar.
I do think its a good idea to reject unambitious men in order to avoid the nightmare that I have described above.
The moment someone who is lazy, does bare minimum see the lifestyle I can provide, he will never ever have any motivation to work again in his life. And I dont want someone to just stay home, do nothing, abuse and use my money like its toilet paper
I want someone who has worked hard for his money, isn't lazy, had ambition
Its an embarrassment to have that sort of a husband.
Ambition isn't just directed towards the pursuit of wealth. I'd rather be poor with the women I love than rich with someone I hate. What you described is just the worse case scenario, which would be extremely easy to prevent. Even if you are married, you do not have to give him money. If he actually loves you, he would want to make sure you are always happy and would constantly try and build and maintain strong relationship. You need to find someone who doesn't value you for what you make, but who you are. You won't be able to do that if you are obsessing over how much your partner would make. If you are embarrassed because you ended up with someone who make less than you, you are the embarrassment. There is nothing less attractive to most guys than a money obsessed women.
@opinionowner
I'm sorry but marrying purely for love won't mean he won't turn out into the lazy scumbag above. Lazy people can be in love. Just the same way hard working people can be in love. If I were to pick , I'd rather marry a hard working, ambitious, money obsessed man than a guy who gets joy out of doing absolutely nothing in life.
Borke usually is the equivalent of lazy. If you take a look at the vast majort
Broke usually is the equivalent of lazy. If you take a look at the vast majority of the broke population, they usually are uneducated, have done nothing for themselves. Or if they did do something for themselves, its usually the bare minimum.
As a hard working woman who has SACRIFICED HER YOUTH for a better life for myself and my family. I don't deserve a free loader.
And why should we not be money obsessed when our cost of living is just so high?
It is dangerous to be married to someone who is not obsessed with money yet can't afford to adequately support our children.
You should be obsessed with money in our current economy.
I have known of women who married for love.
By the time she hits her late 40s or 50s, she realizes she is the one paying all tbe bills, doing all the housework, taking care of all the kids. While her husbands is retired, unemployed and does absolutely no housework.
Yes, she married for love. Look at how HER life turned out.
Stop trying to lower my standards. I deserve someone as good as me. Maybe not 100% same level of income. But I deserve someone GREAT.
Nobody deserves anything. Nothing you said would indicate you are "GREAT". Most guys would run from you, especially those you desire. You chose to "sacrifice" your youth. If you continue to have your mindset, you will never have the family you probably want.
I would never date a women with the mentality you show. If I found out my crush shared your opinions, I would instantly lose all interest. It is extremely important to me I know she loves me at my worst and not just my best.
The example you listed is anecdotal. That women fell in love with a bad man. A money obsessed man will have enough money to not to care about yours. He would rather find someone who loves him for him or he would rather pay for a whore.
@opinionowner
I am aware I would get plenty of jealous male haters who know that they will never ever be as intelligent or hardworking as me. And its clear that you're just another jealous hater.
I'm great because I have GREAT QUALITIES.
I am hard working, intelligent, kind and I care for my children which is why I WORKED SO HARD to make more money to be able to afford them a comfortable life and good upbringing.
This is why I would never marry a successful woman should never marry an unsuccessful man, he will just hate on her passive aggressively since he knows that she will always be better than he is.
@opinionowner
If you are turned off by the fact that I want a hardworking, ambitious, intelligent man, then this alone SAYS A LOT about you.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a hardworking, ambitious, intelligent man.
That isn't what you what. You want and value money. That is repulsive to the vast majority of men. You never refuted dating someone who has a career that describes what you want without the pay. Would you date a teacher or cop? Apparently that is too low for you.
@opinionowner
a teacher or a cop is someone who had done the BARE MINIMUM.
I have multiple degrees and have taken out various loans and dedicated my youth to my success.
does it look like I have done the bare minimum?
you think going to college for 4 years, borderline failing, coming out as a preschool teacher making 45k is called "hardworking"?
if so, your standards are rather low.
Ambitious : a teacher knowing that he won't make enough money as a teacher, so he gets a masters degree (enormously difficult) and tries hard to be the best teacher in the school so he can get promoted to Vice Principal. OR a teacher who starts his own tutoring business or tutoring academy so he can earn more money to provide for his family.
Another example:
a cop. He might not be satisfied with the amount of money that he is making. He might invest more hours, take more exams , work his best to get promoted into a high ranking lieutenant or captain. OR he might start his own private investigator business.
If you think merely working a job qualifies you to be called "hardworking"
you can go fuck yourself. because you have never seen what actual hardworking looks like.
Hardworking means making sacrifices. It means instead of relaxing on a weekend, you go ahead to do your second job or study for more exams.
What teachers and police officers do is is much more impactful and valuable than a nurse. Their everyday is exponentially harder. Both my mothet and sister are tachers, so I know first hand. You work in a greedy and corrupt industry. I went to one of the best universities in the country, and I was disappointed by how stupid and blind the other students were. Your degrees mean nothing to me. You are just a greedy cog in a broken system
And I will tell you this:
No high paying job will ever be easy to get. The vast majority of high paying jobs requires a lot of hard work, dedication, and skill in order to obtain.
Lazy assholes usually never would be able to compete for these high paying jobs.
A lot of those high paying jobs come down to luck and connections. The prevalence of AI has only skyrocketed that.
You seem to only be able to equate hardwork to pay. You are greedy.
Oof. I just saw you already have children. That immediately bumps you down multiple tiers. I'm sorry.
@opinionowner
I actually don't have children.
But regardless even if I had children, there would always be guys going for rich single moms
@opinionowner
[A lot of those high paying jobs come down to luck and connections. The prevalence of AI has only skyrocketed that.]
and what makes you think is easy to make these connections to get prestigious jobs?
its not easy to make these connections.
and its pretty obvious you were never forced to make them due to your assumption that is "easy"
@opinionowner
[You seem to only be able to equate hardwork to pay. You are greedy.]
high pay is equated with hard work
low pay is equated with lazy people.
We all know you are jealous.
This is why successful women should never associate themselves with unsuccessful men. Unsuccessful men get soooo jealous and thus love to hate
You literally said you care for your children. Scroll up. No man you desire would date you with your mindset
@opinionowner
I do care about my children... that I plan on having in 5 years.
People who care about their children will make a point to get financially stable before they decide to have them.
People who DO NOT CARE about their children will have kids despite being financially unstable.
I worked hard to become financially stable, FOR MY CHILDREN
@opinionowner
I honestly feel bad for your wife. And from your terrible attitude toward successful women, there is no way that you treat your wife with respect.
"I am hard working, intelligent, kind and I care for my children which is why I WORKED SO HARD to make more money to be able to afford them a comfortable life and good upbringing."
What does that mean?
@opinion owner
I do plan on giving my children a better upbringing than I have in my childhood.
Nothing wrong with that.
@opinionowner
how jealous are you, really? haha
You just seem to be a delusional liar. Not once did I mention having a wife. I mentioned a crush (who would dance circles around you dumb ass). I would be the slmist supportive and dedicated father to her, unlike you deadbeat baby daddy.
*most
@opinionowner
there is no way that you treat your wife well. Having seen your enormously terrible attitude towards successful women.
I see you as a never ending jealous person who is insecure, has very low self esteem with an inferiority complex and is in enormous immense pain.
@opinionowner
Chances your wife is married to a deadbeat husband.
And the fact that I don't want a deadbeat husband has triggered your insecurities.
lets face it... you do hate the fact that your wife is successful and I'm sure you are passive aggressive to her about it.
You are just insulting me with no substance or validity. I don't have a wife. I've made it clear I would worship and dedicate myself to the right successful women. You aren't a successful women. If you were, the father of your children would still be with you.
Once again, I'm not married. Take care of your fatherless children.
@opinionowner
well I'm sorry that I hurt you so much.
maybe if you were smarter , you wouldn't be so hurt. haha
I'm not offended at all. I just find your enormous painful reactions very amusing
[Once again, I'm not married. Take care of your fatherless children.]
If insisting that you know the truth when you actually don't , makes you feel any bitter about being a deadbeat husband. HAHA
Honestly, I'm having fun trolling your worthless ass. Not a single comment in this thread has supported you. You should be taking care of your kids. After all, they don't have a father. You probably scared him away.
@opinionowner
better than you, nobody would ever want to have kids with a broke loser like you.
you're one of those old men on their deathbeds still hoping and praying that you can still have kids one day.
@opinionowner
[Not a single comment in this thread has supported you. ]
there are plenty of people who supported me.
you just couldn't see it because you're in TOO MUCH PAIN to even read clearly
I'm sorry you're in so much pain. You and your sad, sad life.
I'm in my late twenties. I bench over 300lbs, squat over 400lbs, and I deadlift over 500lbs at a body weight of 220lbs. Women CONSTANTLY flirt with me, hit I'm picky. I wouldn't mind dating single mother, but you are worthless hoe.
*but
@opinionowner
I'm 100% sure you're none of that.
Keep trying, buddy.
the more you try, the more in pain you are.
you won't have kids, hun. you don't have to ever worry about that. no woman would want to procreate with you. You know this. thats why you're in sooo much PAIN
All of those stats could be verified. I'm a high quality man, which why I am so repulsed by you. Please try and reconnected with your baby daddy. It would be best for your kids. Good night hoe.
@opinionowner
high quality men don't shit on successful women.
continue crying out in pain. HAHA
i don't have kids... YET
go cry some more.
You said... "I am hard working, intelligent, kind and I care for my children which is why I WORKED SO HARD to make more money to be able to afford them a comfortable life and good upbringing."
@opinionowner
I dont have kids, loser.
The quote I provided proves you are either deceptive or a liar.
Actually, you provided it.
Im a firefighter i dont make 100k but i would like a woman to actually just care about me all i really i want is that find a good woman with goals the people back in the day didn’t make that and just as happy frontier life when a woman brings up money its like dagger in my heart i can support myself and i think she will definitely leave me if i have a injury then
that is like saying you would marry a 300 pound woman that you're not physically attracted to, just because " prioritizing looks over connection" means you will leave your wife once she loses her looks.
let me ask you : even though love is more important than looks
how many people would still be interested in marrying someone they're not physically attracted to?
So yes Girl each need to be attracted in the first place would i leave no especially if we were married so you want man with lots of money or a money goal im saying i dont care if you make a billion i just want love so start from the beginning if no attraction is there in the first place nothing happens i end up falling in love with women more how they treat me i get what your saying i do so you would reject me and i bring you in people off the street to the hospital and yeah it would hurt but money is getting to be the root of all evil i dont care most women i see i make more then them i notice other things does that help at all?
@ask105
so what? men leave their wives once she loses her looks, all the time.
so isn't it shallow to marry a woman you are physically attracted to?
@ask105
if you're not willing to marry someone you're not physically attracted to, then what makes you think a woman wants a man who would be a terrible provider?
To sum it up don't let a good man go because most women don't see me standing in-front of them i think 60 70 k is realistic but women i see now a days leave me off emotions after first dates or 2 or so and im like freaking i no im not messing up the date so to go back to that it would hurt for me to even give a women a 1000 when she would ditch me and a man would never expect 20 bucks from you or any woman they be like you trying to trap me girl
@ask105
poor men tend to marry poor women. Rich men tend to marry rich women.
its uncommon to find a rich man who wants a poor woman.
@ask105
simply being "good man" is not enough.
I want him to be hardworking, educated, ambitious, intelligent, good moral character,
No disrespect but I am rich, compared to you. I live a completely different lifestyle from you
@ask105
just don't want a lazy freeloader, thats all.
@ask105
money is built by a lot of hard work and grit and pain.
So for you to expect me to respect someone who just wants to do nothing in life or bare minimum in life is very unappealing to me.
I can't afford to change my standards.
it has nothing to do with "not having enough money", it has entirely to do with respect. I can't respect someone who is lazy
Would I? No, because I don't date anyone, since it is too much hassle and I'm relatively fine just being alone.
BUT hypothetically speaking if I was open to the whole dating routine, that wouldn't be a factor.
Sure, why not? It would enable us to afford to do more together.
I'd date you regardless how much money you make. Nurses are kind, caring, hardworking women. Who wouldn't want to date someone like that?
Absolutely. I actually like my job ( most days) and make just over 82k. However, if I dated a woman that made more, I wouldn't care at all. Money in general is not really important to me, so that wouldn't be an issue.
Give me the beer cart girl instead. No man wants to deal with the attitude that comes with a strong, independent woman.
Yes. Not you, but yes.👍😆
I’m good with it.
Why not?
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