Men that want more money, would you date & marry a woman just because she earns a lot?

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FictionalCharacter · Accepted Answer

As a woman who signed up on so many dating apps.

I got guys messaging me and asking me questions like: “so, what do you do?” “What are your hobbies?” And I give simple answers like “I mostly clean and cook and I like outdoor activities. My hobbies are reading and listening to music. Sometimes swimming and painting.” Then I ask the guys the same question back “what do you do?” And they say “oh I’m a field operator and I work 10-12 hour shifts. That at times I go visit my son and ex wife.”

Then out of nowhere, the conversation becomes awkward when the guys ask if I work and I answer politely by saying “no, not at the moment.” Then they freak out and start asking me “what? How do you live and support yourself?”

So I move on to the next guy

The foreign guys

Who all have told me “You’re an American and you don’t work? Or have a phd? Unacceptable! There are women in my country who sell tea in the streets with phd!! I must come to America and you and I get married so I could get a working visa and become rich like bill gates! The land of opportunity is there! And you as woman are nothing!”

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Nowadays men are very greedy. They run after money and beauty. Nowadays, if a woman does not stand on her own feet, then the man only keeps her as an option. He runs after such women who are in a high position. I loved a man immensely for three years, but he always preferred that woman who was well established over me. I was a student at that time. He left me for that woman. He was a very greedy and arrogant person. I became closer to God because of his deception. I really loved him but he did not value me because I was not in a high position like that girl. It broke me so much that i cried so much, it badly affected my health.

BungusHighFivePizza · Accepted Answer

I think most of us guys are driven by the idea of being able to make money on our own. It's not about having money, it's about making it. So it's not so interesting to most of us to just be handed money. We want to know we can make it ourselves.

It's like this idea of participation trophies. I can only imagine that women came up with the idea, since it's so antithetical to the way a guy thinks. We don't want the trophy when we finish in last place. We want the gold trophy but not for free. We want to earn it by being the fastest on the team.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

No. Women's income is not a factor for men in selecting a romantic partner, except in extreme cases when she has so much money that it's a problem that will dissuade a man completely.

Women care about men's income, but men want entirely different things from a woman, and her education, degrees, career, and income are all irrelevant to most men, or are even a negative.

The things men want in a woman are not improved by money or status.

Genie23 · Answer

I know some men like that. Sadly one of them got married to someone who's very close to me and she's really heartbroken since she found out. It's terrible thing to do. Thankfully, there are very few guys like that

Anonymous · Answer

Men really don't care about what a girl makes... like sure, it's always good to make more money, but men are much more concerned with a woman's looks, personality, and whether or not she's a pleasant person and mother figure, than if she makes a bunch of money... It's just not in a man's list of priorities.

You'll hear stuff like a girl can work at McDonald's but if she's got all the right things going on, guys are going to want to get to know her and be with her regardless.

Sometimes us guys wish women could just see us for who we are too, outside of the whole money and career thing. I know it's important, but still... frustrating when you like a particular type of woman and it's like she's out there just expecting the world and then some from a man. Like the extreme percentile of expectations.

Sure it's something to strive for, both men and women, but is it realistic? Just wish people were more self aware, at the end of the day I guess.

Unit1 · Answer

It is not a very impactful factor in my decision, however I do see that a career lady and I will have a lot in common.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

I have plenty of money already, but even if I was strapped for cash, I wouldn't date and marry a woman just because of her financial situation. That's not on my list of desirable things for a partner, and I consider it quite shallow.

You should marry someone because you are in love with them and wanna spend your life with them. Not because they'd be financially well off or have a high social status.

Anonymous · Answer

No not at all. Men aren’t driven by that. As much as women would like to think we are, it doesn’t make a girl any sexier the more she makes. Now when it comes to women dating men who make money, they’re more willing to look past his looks if he’s got money. A man would take a girl working at McDonalds if she was hot over the CEO of a company who was ugly. Honestly men don’t really care about how much a girl makes or her career.

Reorx · Answer

Depends what she wanted vs what I wanted. I could care less about what she makes, much more concerned about building something real. Usually relationships like this are doomed to fail for biological & traditional factors as a woman usually wants a man that's financially her equal or better. Finances is the main reason I never started a family, I have others I refuse to abandon that depend on me.

shades777 · Answer

I think its more about if she is a team player then anything else. I've made the mistake of paying for everything when she was perfectly able to pay her part.

In my experience women who do make more will still not pay their share and have unrealistic expectations.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

No thank you. I’ve spent enough time in life around people who think they can tell me what to do because they have money to have any interest in that. Women control sex as it is. Letting her control the money too is just asking to lose any autonomy I have in life lol

desidoll · Answer

I know quiet a few men like this. My sister is that one woman who earns more than 70% men around her. I have noticed that they are just waiting for the right time to grab that opportunity.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men don't care about womens money.

If you put 2 women that looked exactly the same in front of a man, one woman with money, and the other with home skills, and he could pick whatever girl he wanted of the 2 to make his wife he would most likely pick that woman with home skills.

In my opinion, I think you are projecting whats most important to you. If you think men care about your money it's probably because you care more about a man's money then you do the actual man himself.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. 1. Because I didn't earn it. Yeah I wanna be rich. But half the joy is knowing that I DID IT. 2. I don't own her, and nobody owns me. I don't have a problem with her having more money than me because I know who I am. But whether you got 1 dollar or 1 million dollars to your name a better person it does not make you. You still put your pants on 1 leg at a time like everybody else.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

I dated rich girls. One got boob and nose job at same time as their mother and sister when she was in grade 10! After dating them briefly I was unable to overlook their spoiled entitled behaviour.

The rich really do live separately from the rest of us. On a whim deciding to fly to a ski resort for the weekend, parents buying them a house at 18, just few things I witnessed.

lightbulb27 · Answer

of course not.  Women, would you take in a poor homeless guy just because you have money?

Kaamraj · Answer

No, a woman's income is not a factor in her sexual attractiveness. As the old adage goes my money is our money but her money is her money. I do not have access to her money. So why should I be attracted to something I am not entitled to socially or legally.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would not date a woman for her money. I am happy with what I have and how I life/exist. The only thing I need her for is to be my best/most reliable friend, that does not require her to earn a lot of money.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I would not date & marry a woman just because she earns a lot. That is how women think.

That is not how the majority of men think, The Chad & Tyrone types think that way because they will use women to get what they can.

Christoff92 · Answer

Why would I want to date someone who earns a lot. Knowing a bunch of horny men made sure that she gets the best of life.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, income is not a factor in choosing a wife. I would pick a woman who earns more money if she was otherwise compatible, but she could be living paycheck to paycheck and I'd still pick her if she's compatible.

Equi2ube · Answer

Hell yah. I don't have any money. But I won't date a broke chick. Why should I? Broke broke = more broke.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I would. Broke young girls seduce older men and marry them. I am seriously ready to do the same, seduce an older woman and a marry her. If girls can become golddigger them I am ready to become a male golddigger. You know girls / women talk about equal rights. Prove me wrong?

Anonymous · Answer

Well if I live in my mom's basement, any woman seems rich to me.

OfDeath · Answer

No. I have to like her. Money is nothing if you hate the person.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Why does it seem like women only date men, one they realize he's "got money"

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Nope cause women in my country are more apt to keep theirs and take mine.

Shy_Steve · Answer

No, She would have to be Attractive and nice to me aswell.

Vegasrunner · Answer

No. Men don't care about a women's income. When men make more money they think about providing foe themselves when women make more money they think about being independent.

Anonymous · Answer

No, mostly because high earning women statistically won't date a man who earns less than them.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not but maybe there are some guys out there like that

1123581321b · Answer

Well, men naturally have a primal instinct for not only independence but also to impress females. Only the manipulative narcissist category really does this in my not-expert opinion. I despise these types of men.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe but I doubt they would be interested in a guy that earns less than them

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

No, I ain’t a gold-digger. Marriage is for love, not for money. People pay to get married, so why would I?

RockyHammock · Answer

Personally, I don't consider networth as criteria for whom I date and or marry

TheFlak38 · Answer

If she earns more than me then I will barely start considering it. If I can be assured that I can take half her shit with the divorce and not the other way around then it's totally worth it.

David4358 · Answer

No how rich or poor she is does not matter to me in the least

Anonymous · Answer

No, I have no use for a woman who earns a lot of money. I need a woman who can be a good mother and wife.

Keishio · Answer

Nah, I'd rather work a second job than marry for money

justabuddy · Answer

As long as she has enough gumption to earn her own money and live within her means. That's all I care about.

alearningboy · Answer

I would love to date & marry it doesn't mather for me how much money she has. The real thing is the parents must accept me.

clampfan101 · Answer

Not me. Marriage is supposed to be about love.

jamesgoldman · Answer

No, they'd have to be mentally stimulating as well

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, male gold diggers exist.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what their motives are.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Sure I want more money. But I'm going to EARN it!

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Integrity is more important than money.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Men don’t do that

BeMuse · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

never gave a damn about her money

Exterminatore · Answer

Nope.

Anonymous · Answer

Men don't care how much you make

Pohjolan · Answer

Nope.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn’t

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