Why do a lot of girls’ in relationships assume it’s ok for her to hook up with another girl behind her partners’ back?

[Finchie40]

I always hear girls’ say we are best friends’ forever and guys’ don’t understand the connection us girls’ have for each other , basically acting like it’s no big deal that she is clearly cheating on her partner with this so called girlfriend of hers. How would you girls’ feel if your man was making out with another guy behind your back and his excuse is he is my best friend forever , females’ don’t understand our connection together? Like where do these girls’ come up with this stupid logic , they are clearly a cheater by doing things behind your partners’ back, you can try to sugarcoat this all you want , but it’s Cheating period. When you can keep secrets from your partner , you are a cheater plain and simple , what’s your thoughts on this? Now if your partner is ok with it , then this is no big deal because you were honest with them. But when you aren’t honest with your partner , you are cheating period

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2 mo

Ok not A lot , use the word Some instead lol

[BullShark]

Couldn't agree more. Maybe it's because for a lot of women, getting all touchy feely with your other female (and sometimes even male) friends, like, kissing them, cuddling, heck, even doing other risque stuff, like touching each other in certain places is considered completely fine and normal, as long as there's no "feelings/attraction" involved.

Doesn't matter what they think though, doing all those things with anyone besides your partner is still considered cheating. Sorry ladies, but there ain't nothing justifying this behavior.

[OlderAndWiser]

If I discovered that and was told 'it's okay because she's my friend,' I would respond, "Is it okay if I have sex with her, too?"

Yeah, it's cheating - cheating with an excuse - but EVERY cheater has an excuse!

[Crimsyjo]

🤮 ugh. Well I don't like women sexually at all so never gonna be an issue with me!

For some reason u gotta stop being attracted to bisexuals. Most bi-people use it as an accuse oh cos they like both sees how can they possibly choose? Yh. Being faithful means choosing one person. Don't matter if you choose a girl or guy. Commitment is commitment.

[WhatIsYourZodiac]

I definitely agree.. commitment is a commitment, no matter the gender. But I have observed that women are generally bicurious

[Crimsyjo]

@WhatIsYourZodiac I don't understand it tho. Not at all. Not a bicurious bone in my body lol.
I think maybe it's because men like it and encourage it.

[WhatIsYourZodiac]

ROFL.. I liked the comment - Not a bicurious bone in my body 🤣

[Jennz6]

@Crimsyjo
You should try it

[Crimsyjo]

@Jennz6 I really can't. No disrespect. But it's like asking a vegetarian to try meat. I just have no desire at all.
Just curious but do you think all men should "try" a man too? I only ask as usually people see it as very different to ask a man to be gay compared to a woman. ?

[PeachyPie93]

Lez be honest straight woman don't fuck their friends lol. If a person does that they are just a hoe in general and I would never let some skank gaslight me, they'd be out..

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately some people claim to be straight when really they aren’t , it’s just how some people are. Because they don’t want to be judged or criticized for being Bi sexual or Gay. Back in the day Gay and bi sexual people weren’t accepted like it is today , I knew a few gay people that were afraid to come out of the closet for that reason. So unfortunately it still happens today to some. I dated 2 girls’ in my lifetime that both said they were straight but really they weren’t when I busted them hooking up with another girl. Of course I dumped them immediately for it because they cheated on me , but if they were honest from the very beginning I probably would of been ok with it , I just don’t stay on relationships with liars period

[katiesmuff]

First of all what is this "us girls"? You lose your dick and grow a pussy? Secondly most all girls have a best girlfriend where they do a great many things with, but sexual things are generally not one of them. It's nothing more than like it says JUST FRIENDS and nothing more. For the very few women who might be having a behind the scenes affair with another women that certainly would be called cheating, but it is very rare.

[Finchie40]

LOL no I was just saying what the girls’ said

[slatyb]

A lot? I think it may be a few. Probably a lot fewer than people who cheat with the opposite sex.

[Finchie40]

Ok I used the wrong word lol , Replace it with Some

[slatyb]

Perhaps because they can't get pregnant and are unlikely to contract an STD, so they aren't risking their partner's health. It's sad that people are reluctant to tell their partner what they really want. They might be surprised to learn that their partner is supportive, but they will never know.

If you are afraid to tell your partner something, you need to learn to talk to each other. If your partner can't listen and accept you feelings, you are with the wrong person. Much of the work of relationship counselors is to facilitate honest communication.

[AgentG111]

People cheat it's that's simple. That complete statement of what she said or reportedly said simply means she'll be fucking around on you and whomever she pleases.

So if you want the reportedly one man women for a one woman man she's not it.

[LazerBean]

I've never known anyone to do something like that. Sounds like you hang out with some real weirdos

[Finchie40]

Unfortunately some of us end up around weirdos all the time , when we go out in public lol

[LazerBean]

Lol my condolences. Sometimes my husband and I go out of our way to look at weirdos

[lyrem04]

Wth… people do that? Disgusting 🤢 didn’t know that !

[DreamCrescent]

people don’t. i think it’s one person’s experience

[dwreborn]

We have similar thoughts and opinions about a lot and we are about same age we should exchange numbers and talk sometime

[Meatballs]

Dude you really must have had some really messed up relationships... No offense

[Finchie40]

No offense taken , why this time around I am doing my best to play my cards right

[MannMitAntworten]

I have NEVER known women to behave this way. Nor have any of the women I was ever involved with ever remotely desired to clam jam with their best gal pal or with any woman for that matter.


Where the heck are you meeting such women, French? Stop it! Look elsewhere…

[MannMitAntworten]

Finch*

[Kori1236]

Straight women do not fuck their friends. I love my best friend dearly but I don’t want to fuck her.

[msc545]

Some women are bisexual and enjoy this. There is no harm if there is no lying.

[Kori1236]

Bisexual isn’t the same as straight go back and read what I said

[msc545]

Some women who you think are straight are bisexual.

[Kori1236]

I’m aware but I wasn’t speaking about gay or bisexual women I was speaking solely towards straight women. Straight women do not fuck their friends

[msc545]

If someone is straight by definition, they do not do this - that is obvious.

[HighValue]

Don't date liberal women. That should solve most infidelity/immorality problems.

[Speaking_Frankly]

I don't think this is a gendered or sexuality matter. Cheating is only done because those engaging in it know it's wrong deep down as they don't want to be caught or they want an excuse to end a relationship.

[DrPepper12]

I've had this womensplained to me several times but I still don't get it. Following

[Anonymous]

You really need some therapy or something. You have serious issues that you project on others, and you clearly haven't dealt with whatever is troubling you.

[Briennette]

I think his social circle is so messed up, he believes this is normal behavior.

[Finchie40]

Yea I need therapy for these selfish girls’ that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. I’m not saying all girls’ are this way , my question is just related to what I witnessed a lot of girls’ doing behind their partners’ backs , which to me is clearly cheating , but they try to sugarcoat it that it’s not cheating , so that’s why I asked this question to see what other people think about this?

[Briennette]

Where did you witness this? From your own experience? Friends, Family?

[Finchie40]

Usually at party’s or bars

[Opinion Owner]

Oof, you're just making it worse... You need help...

[Briennette]

At those parties and bars, are they your friends?

[Finchie40]

Yes for the most part

[jahaims]

They know it's not. They just justify it to escape guilt

[msc545]

A lot guys, myself included, don't mind this. It is the lying that is the problem if it occurs.

[Jennz6]

Sure, it’s better to have a 3-some

[Anonymous]

I think it's a bit strange indeed.

[Briennette]

Da fuq?

[bunniesrcute]

Dude what?