Why does lust without any sort of love or emotional connection feel hollow?

[Pearl222]

Not sure if this is a woman thing or just me personally, but it feels more draining than fulfilling if there is no safety or foundation before building a physical relationship with someone. Maybe I’m just not into casual sex.
Do men ever feel this way?

[aaron13547]

I think emotions make thoughts into reality. The difference in love and lust is the thoughts and emotions that go with each. I feel the same as you. I think it's because lust like doing something without fully thinking about it... sure we breath all day long without thinking about it. But when we meditate and try to breath a certain way, we realize there is so much more to it all... So that hollow feeling if you ask me is you knowing there is so much more then just lust. Why lust with a person when you can make love with a person!

[Sal_Monella]

I'm not there now, but I remember.. it was like needing a drug fix. "There's no social protocol. I just have to have it! The only feelings that matter are mine. And I feel that I must have it". Something like that

[Pearl222]

That’s a very honest take, thank you. I feel like a lot of people struggle with it and it’s more for escaping some void or unhappiness within themselves by seeking temporary validation and gratification from others. How did you break that cycle?

[Sal_Monella]

I "fell" in love with someone. At first is was infatuation but it stayed. I just needed to be around her. It wasn't only sex. It could be walking at the mall together.

[AvaRay]

Lust alone is noise masquerading as connection..

It excites the body but starves the soul..

True desire craves resonance minds aligned, hearts synced, energy undeniable..

Without that, it’s just a hollow echo, a fire with no warmth, a thrill with no meaning..

Only when passion meets presence does it transcend into something unforgettable..

[loveslongnails]

If men tell you they feel that way, the majority of them are lying. Yes, it's "better" when there's deeper emotional involvement, but it's sure not a deal breaker. Most men will enjoy sex simply for the physical pleasure of it all without ANY emotional attachment, and yes, I dare speak for "most men" LOL.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what it feels like because I've never done it. I mean I've had probably more than my share of sex, but it has always been in established relationships with women I cared deeply for. Casual sex is not my thing. I don't know how people do it.

[jahaims]

That is normal for emotionally healthy people. People who can have casual sex aren't emotionally healthy.

[Charliefretz329]

It’s not psychologically and emotionally fulfilling

[AngryCarl2]

I'm demisexual so I don't understand men who feel sexual desire without an emotional connection.

[Pearl222]

I think I’m demisexual as well

[AngryCarl2]

Maybe, but I think women are naturally more relationship-focused than men.

[DJB72]

Because it IS hollow

[FenixG45]

Cuz it's just sex