I want to know does love have a portion of lust mixed into it? or is it possible to be completely happy in a relationship without kissing and love making yet still be in deep love with them?
I know a friend who has been dating his girlfriend for over a year now and he didn't truly find her as attractive to begin with but he still loves her and wants to be with her only yet they dont kiss or have sex. It got me thinking about a lot of things.
So is it possible? Could you do it?
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I don't think so. Physical attraction is not the same as lust.
Physical attraction is what draws you to the other person at the beginning. What matters is what becomes of that attraction over the course of time. If it draws you deeper into that person, their life, and their traits, values, and habits that make them who they are, then that's the beginning of true love.
If you continue to be attracted to that person, but you choose to see nothing more than their sexual value, then it's lust. This is possible even after they're a couple.
Sexual-physical attraction is really what makes a romantic relationship different than other bonds like family and friends. It will come and go throughout the course of the relationship. It might not even sprout until long after the guy and girl have met and it won't just show up suddenly. It can develop over the course of time. I knew a guy once who'd been friends with his wife for ten years before they started dating and got married.
Now, if we take highest form of love as defined by the Ancient Greeks, "agape", then yes, it can. "Agape" is an unconditional self-giving, the highest form of love. It may be the highest, but it can be practiced in small ways, like helping a friend clean their house, a parent helping their child with homework, cooking a meal for someone, etc. Paraphrasing Mother Teresa, it means doing small things with great love.
So to answer your question, in the context of a romantic relationship, I don't see how it could. Like I already said, the physical attraction is what makes the romantic bond different.
I'd written an article about this exact thing, but it didn't get featured before GAG switched to this new format. I plan to repost it once GAG restores the article feature (assuming they haven't already).3