Do you agree that a man shouldn't ask a woman out unless she explicitly shows she's interested in him?

[Anonymous]

It would avoid men coming off as creeps and making women feel uncomfortable

Agree

Disagree

[OneViewpoint]

If you're waiting for women to give you explicit answers about anything, you haven't been paying attention for 25-29 years. Hell, women can't answer those questions for themselves.

Stop trying to rationalize your own lack of confidence and inaction. Just take charge and ask her directly. All she needs to say is "no". One time. You thank her for her honesty and leave with your dignity intact. And don't look back.

Or she says "yeah, what the hell" and you both give it a try. Maybe it works, maybe it don't. You takes yer chances and gives it yer best effort. Ya win some and you lose some. It's called life.

[mysteriousNicholas]

True yet it also means no fears of being arrested just for chatting up a woman

[mysteriousNicholas]

If a man withholds unless a woman asks him out :) I voted Agree

[McLlovin]

@mysteriousNicholas 9 out of 10 you’re not going to get arrested for asking a woman out. You’re catastrophizing

[msc545]

Yeah, it's that 10th time that's the problem. It's like playing Russian roulette with your life literally.

[AviatorTom]

A guy should ask a girl out because he is interested in her. Her response will let him know if she's interested in him.

If he waits until he's sure she's interested in him, he may never ask her out.

That also works in reverse. If a girl is interested in a guy, she should ask him out.

[Chazmatazz269]

Only men are going to prison asking women out though. The loss of life and livelihood counters 100% of all arguments to the contrary.

[Chayce]

^^ no one is going to PRISON for asking a woman out

[Dargil]

@Chayce You have no idea.

[Chayce]

@Dargil provide news articles. Asking a woman to go out vs harassing a woman to go out are different things.

[Vevv123]

That would be hard because we don’t usually have interest or show interest. Creeps are usually the ones that don’t know you or that try too many times. I think as long as you can take no for an answer you’ll be ok. Usually there’s green flags that she might accept especially if she's been your friend for a long time, if she has then she would at least be polite if she was going to reject you.

[AvaRay]

I completely agree..

True bonds aren’t won by pursuit, but by recognizing n honoring boundaries.. 🥂

When someone sees the real u, respects your limits, n values your presence, even quietly it sparks a connection that quietly, profoundly, changes everything..

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s 100% true, but less than 30% of people, men AND women, would agree. There’s a reason that this isn’t codified in any sense in any country, and never has been, ever.

[Noredcarpet]

I always struggled with shyness and have heard that the guys who asked me out, they did not know of one another, different periods of my life, tried very hard to read me right. They all basically said the same thing that they thought they were into me way more than me them before they came to realize I changed on them, got shy, and so I did like them, that way, too. Now would they have not taken a chance, win or loose, but waited for me to give them 100% proof I was going to say yes, nothing would have come of it. There are ways not to come off as a creep when asking. I have not experienced any guy ever to become creeps when asking you out.

[RavVid]

The simple fact is there is a better success rate if both the guy and the girl are interested in each other. However men have difficulty in reading female interest signs - for bloody good reason.

Supposedly if a girl looks repeatedly out of the corner of her eye at a guy then he should read that as interest in him, However it could be the girl thinks he is abhorrent and feels impelled to take intermittent checks to see if he is still polluting her near environment.

Body language only works if it is calibrated. It is not accurate with a girl you have just met. She might customarily place her hand to her cleavage when referring to herself or she might be wishing to draw your attention to her firm breasts.

Mostly women don't show unambiguous interest. So the hypothesis fails.

[Staximus]

Some women play stupid games or are just too much if a coward, and will never show you any signs of attraction until you make the first move. Some even could be in love with you and still not show any signs of attraction. If you wait for them to show they are attracted to you, you're going to be waiting forever. I'm pretty oblivious and don't respond well to that mysterious game playing bullshit. If a woman can't be bothered or bring herself to at least show some attraction or interest in me, I will assume that she is not that serious or interested in me and not ask her out on a date.

[Chazmatazz269]

Perfect!

[Staximus]

@Chazmatazz269 another thing I can't stand is the whole thing where women think they are going to look desperate or like a slut if they even bother to call you to ask you to hang out or go on a date

[Staximus]

It's not 1794 anymore

[Staximus]

Puritan bullshit

[Kelley1]

It is a girl's responsibility to make the first move by smiling and saying Hi or otherwise indicating she is willing to be approached. However, I selected disagree because explicitly is too strong a word. She only needs to indicate that she is willing to be approached and that she may be interested but retains deniability.

[aaron13547]

I think what makes a creepy is doing weird creepy shit women like a confident smile and a good attitude we are all adults what makes trying to ask a girl out a problem Is when you do it like a kid and play games. True positive intentions get good results even when they say no if you are respectful about it so are they...

[Chazmatazz269]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Dargil]

If he is appealing, asking her will generate interest. But in todays inverted world, she should approach him and invite him to buy her coffee and talk. Idiot Karens (you know you who you are) think coffee dates during the day that cost an outrageous $4.00 are beneath them. So, Please! Don't invite me.

[justaharmlesspatato]

I don’t agree at all, men should shoot his shot as soon as he sees a women he likes, but that doesn’t mean you have to make her uncomfortable.


You gotta make sure you’re approaching from the front not surprise her from back. And if she is with other people make sure to address them all prior to your pitch.
As long as you’re respectful you should be good. Some women are not good at making eye contact like some men, so you don’t have to loose your chance with her.

[Tereza07]

I dont think so... He should leave her alone when she shows she's not interested. But why can't a guy try to ask woman out?

[Chazmatazz269]

Because men go to prison for asking women out now.

[Tereza07]

Thats bullshit and you know that 🤣

[msc545]

No, unfortunately it is not bullshit. Why do you think it is that men don't ask you out?

[Tereza07]

They do pretty often 😅 and if its not a bullshit then send me a link where a man went to prison ONLY for asking woman out

[msc545]

Do your own research. I'm not your research assistant.

[Steve-the-lion]

Because women today are too much hassle and unapproachable. They're not the respectful ladies they use to be back in the day.

[msc545]

@Steve-the-lion They also take offense at the oddest unexpected things, and then make false accusations that law enforcement takes seriously.

[Flower7]

@msc545 Have you been accused of something like that?

[msc545]

@Flower7 I was falsely accused of assaulting my ex-wife by her, which was so transparent a lie that even the police didn't believe her. She had no marks or bruises and no injuries. I was not charged, but I was arrested and spent a night in jail, where I got some rest and had a good chess game.

That was, of course, the end of the marriage, as I divorced her.

[Flower7]

@msc545 What was her motivation for doing that? Do you know?

[msc545]

@Flower7 If she had some motivation Idon't know what it was other than the night before I had declined to have sex with her because I was just too tired. That may or may not have motivated her. She had borderline personality disorder, which causes a lot of very disorganized thinking and a lot of paranoid persecutory ideation, and some of that seems more likely to have been causative - at least to me.

[Anonymous]

The women that make this claim need to start putting more on the table before they start making these demands. In fact, I encourage them to go and make moves on the guys they like since they keep stacking these arbitrary subjective conditions.

[Anonymous]

LMAO! Most men cannot pick up on the "hints" most women give to show they are interested. If men had to wait for a woman to "she her interest", the human species would go extinct in no time.

[WhitneySnow]

No. She might be too shy to express interest. Or she might like him and that makes her shy just around him.

[mysteriousNicholas]

I said opposite to you / voted opposite to you

[WhitneySnow]

@mysteriousNicholas as long as you ask her politely and don’t push the issue if she says no and don’t dump her as a friend if she says no she won’t be offended.

[spartan55]

It will never happen. Women are completely terrified of even the possibility of rejection.

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I'm sorry, but guys are the ones who should take the initiative. I think with most girls, myself included, if they had to take the initiative, it would never happen.

[dwreborn]

Why what if she isn't at first and then he keeps asking and she eventually does

[blackeagle007]

I do think females need to give signals. In this day n age, making moves can be trouble for us

[DexWest]

Fully agree. Men should not approach women unless she does it first. Avoids the possibility of ending up on social media being labeled a creep or feral.

[msc545]

Ducks it reduces the possibility but it doesn't eliminate it just because she's interested in you initially doesn't mean that 5 minutes later she's not going to be making false accusations.

[exitseven]

Disagree. Th worst thing that can happen is she says no. How else are you going to find out?

[msc545]

No, the worst thing that can happen is that she can claim that you molested her or stalked her or did God knows what to her and you get arrested and tried and go to prison. Don't think it doesn't happen. It does.

[exitseven]

@msc545 I imagine it happens but i usually just took no as an answer.

[msc545]

The thing is that there are guys that don't take no for an answer and persist in asking a woman out even after she has said no. This is annoying but it shouldn't be a reason to arrest and prosecute someone and yet it is if it's a man involved.

[Anonymous]

I agree, in fact, I think a woman should ask a man out, I prefer dominant girls who like to take initiative.

I'm too shy to ask a girl out.

[AgentG111]

No idea unless you ask. So jump up ask away! Only one life and it's short live it up!

[LiamJHayden]

No. I cold approach if interested and she seems to be single.

[zagor]

Disagree. She may be ambivalent if she doesn't really know anything about him.

[Lipsandhips]

How would she knows you're interested in her then?

[mysteriousNicholas]

In this day, I'll have to say agree

[Tangxiaoxue]

It doesn't matter, I trust my partner.

[chenyu]

A bit direct.