Is it even worth it to date someone at 18?

Question

I woud love to have a serious relatioship, but it seems guys arround my age just want hook ups.

WindAtMyBack · Accepted Answer

Here's the thing. All guys want sex unless something is broken. But do not confuse that with guys ONLY wanting sex. There is a difference.

Most guys want a relationship. They want a girlfriend. They want someone to do things with. They want someone to hold. They want someone to love and to be loved back. They go to sleep at night wishing they had that special someone.

And yes they want sex. But sex is not the ONLY thing they want. It's just nature. But it is also nature to want personal and emotional ties with someone. At your age it's a very confusing time for both young men and young women. You have all sorts of things you are dealing with, all at the same time. Guys at your age tend to be very awkward. So do girls. It's not easy to sort it all out.

It's easy to notice things that stand out, and ignore the rest. MOST guys want a relationship. SOME guys only want sex. The guys who want sex are far more likely to be outgoing and more aggressive going after what they want. They are more likely to be hitting on large numbers of women. So that's what you are exposed to, not "most guys".

Are you still in school or college? In school or college, you are around a large number of people near your age. If you are in several classes, let's say you have a hundred guys total in your classes. Whatever the actual number is, how many of them hit on you? Probably not many. But you are more likely to notice the ones who do.

Take a look around the classroom, or imagine it if you are out of school. Don't focus on a small select group of guys. Look at all of them. Most of them are not hitting on you. Most of them are not hitting on anyone at all. Either they are in a relationship, or they consider themselves lucky to get just one date with a girl they like. These are the normal guys, not the ones who are only out for sex and will hit on dozens or even hundreds of girls.

MOST guys want a relationship. Yes, they want sex because that's nature. But they most definitely want a relationship. They want a girlfriend and someone to hold.

Yes, it is worth it to date at your age. If for no other reason than "practice". It's a learning experience for both you and the guy. You don't always get it right the first time, but you need that first time no matter what age you are. It's part of the process. It's part of growing. And sometimes people actually get it right the first time. But that can't happen unless there is a first time.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Even at your age, I only dated to find the girl I wanted to marry. There are serious guys your age, but you have to filter well. You're attractive (even if you do look a little fake), so you'll likely attract and be attracted to a lot of the player types that tend to make women jaded and say they hate all men.

Apulu_backagain · Accepted Answer

I am friends with some good guys around my age but tbh every genuine and nice person is super busy studying hard and trying to build a solid foundation for their future and don't have time to manage a relationship. So, in most cases (not all), whoever is actually free enough to go around dating and hanging out a lot is not making decisions thinking about their future, which means they're not even dating for marriage.

It's not the case for all, there can be relationships which were started where both the parties were at late teenage and are pretty solid but this is the general thing in today's busy world. Sometimes you just meet the right person while doing your work without even needing to search for them which maybe is probably one of the best way to start a relationship at this age.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

No, it is definitely not worth dating at that age.

One would think that one has achieved maturity but that is not the case. Mainly guys only have sex in mind and as you rightly say, they are only interested in hookups and once they have achieved what they wanted with you, they discard you and move to the next victim.

You are much better off ending your studies, getting this degree in your pocket and work in your field of studies for a number of years before you start dating.

Get your degree and then only start getting into trouble, not before.

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes guys your age are just after one thing and once they did it they're gone because they're looking for the other person and the next person and the next person

This is the age of their life where they want to have as much fun as possible. I think if you dated somebody it would have been an older person because you would get ten times more than respect and it would be a real relationship where with a younger guy it's not going to happen that way

Finchie40 · Answer

If you are seeking a serious relationship, it’s going to be harder for you to find especially with guys’ your age , Not saying it’s not possible but a slim chance , you are better off going for older guys’ if you want a serious relationship

AviatorTom · Answer

Dating is an important part of socialization. It doesn't have to involve sex. It's the best way for guys and girls to get to know themselves, and each other.

BriamG22 · Answer

I would say it's worth dating a guy as a method of grasping your expectations of a man. It could also help with developing maturity through experiencing things like jealousy, disagreements, attachment, trust and so on. That way when you get into more serious relationships in the future you know better how to tackle these matters.

However, your mentality for now shouldn't be that "this is the man you'll marry" because most likely he won't be haha. If it starts getting toxic or unhealthy just exit the situation.

Of course you can abstain as well at your age, you're still incredibly young. I'm just providing possible benefits if you were to decide to pursue a relationship at this point.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Well, you need to jump in and start gaining experience with relationships somewhere. At a minimum, dating guys your age will give you perspective when/if you date a guy 20-22 lets say. Do they act the same or does a few years make a significant difference?

And every guy is an individual. An 18 year old can be very mature. While some guys can be total man babies at 35.

There are no simple answers. Go slow. Gain experience. Learn from your mistakes reading men. And yes, you will make mistakes. Don't pout, those are opportunities to learn.

Med_guy1978 · Answer

You're right! Most guys between 18 and 30 are not serious, they just wanna have 'fun'. In this day and age more so and women are more so than before. Don't let that put you off guys, first of all set your priorities straight so you know what you're looking for. Then it's important about how you behave. Just remember, easy come easy go. You can pacify the most unmerciful tyrant if you play it right, but advisably you shouldn't take chances and go for good odds. Don't forget, women/girls mature faster then most men so most 18 year old men are still boys or at least don't want to be tied down.

Berethor · Answer

What stops you from dating someone older? being young just adds to a girl's value.

CindyRuns · Answer

I have to agree with you. I didn't start seriously dating until I was 23 and found the right guy a bit after I turned 24.

One bit of advice I'll give if you're in it for a serious relationship. If a guy doesn't seem right for you... end it quickly so you're available when the right guy does come into your life.

KBird · Answer

At that age, hormones are at an all time high for everyone, so trying to find a serious relationship that isn't just based on sex, is hard at that age. I think its absolutely worth dating at that age, because even if it doesn't work out, you learn a lot about yourself and what you need/dont need in a relationship.

emeraldsaphire · Answer

Sure is! I was in a serious relationship at that age. I will say that I wasn't really ready for that kinda relationship back then. We had a messy break up.

My best advice is just take it slow and don't put to much pressure on yourself or your partner.

msg321 · Answer

If you don't want to hook up if you want a serious relationship then do what you want. If you can't find a guy who looks for a serious relationship like you then you don't have to date just because dating game is so popular. You are already too young so don't focus on dating just be a good person and focus on your goals in life and the right man for you will find you when it is the true time.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Eighteen-year-old boys are, well, boys.(Seventy-two-year-old men such as I can be quite boyish about our choice of much younger women.) Girls mature earlier than boys, of course, but since you're one-quarter my age (and two years younger than my great-niece), just have fun with the laddies and avoid serious commitments for which you're MUCH too young, lassie.

jahaims · Answer

It's obviously much more rare to find someone mature at your age but it does happen. My wife was 18 and I was 20 when we started dating. Married at 21 and 23. We had kids young too. It works if you are both mature but literally less than 1% of the population around your age meets those demands for a successful relationship at such a young age.

shortster · Answer

It can be worthwhile if you find someone else who is looking for a serious relationship. If guys your own age aren't serious then the obvious thing to do is date someone older; and at 18 almost all of the single guys are older than you, so you have plenty of options.

LazerBean · Answer

Dating at any age is only worth it if you are mentally ready to enter and maintain a lasting relationship, and have access to the quality of men who can offer the same.

Abbycado · Answer

It depends on your situation. If all you’re finding are guys that wanna hook up, then I’d say not worth it.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, you just have to choose a guy wisely. Pick a guy who wants you around when you're not doing anything for him. Wants to take you out, spends time with you doing fun stuff, and is not just trying to have sex with you.

beenherebefore · Answer

I mean you can just for the experience but at 18 people are not usually looking for long term commitment. It can happen tho but I advise you to stay patient and not rush into relationships.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Well you're 18, so that seems like a good time to be dating. I don't know much about dating but I feel like there are probably guys out there worth dating. You just need to be selective and avoid the fuckbois.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes. I had a good relationship when I was 18 and learned a lot! So it’s worth it with the right person. Have you had experience (positive or negative)?

leahzrc · Answer

Even people my age aren't look for serious , best bet is to be single

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes* * BUT You're so young;!! Your college years & twenties are for finding your bridesmaids!! Not your groom!!!

qwerty2469 · Answer

Um... thats 2 years past the ideal age to date. If you aren't married before 21 your waaaaaay behind.

Anonymous · Answer

If the guy wants serious relationship, then it's worth it.  If he wants just a hook up - then it's not.

Anonymous · Answer

To much drama guys want sex and to move on to the next girl and they repeat

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Give it a try

Awantika03 · Answer

Try with mature

Brad08 · Answer

Your to sexy for them

MeAndYouRightHere · Answer

You should wait for the right person, dont Rush:)

RHK36 · Answer

Focus on yourself

seeyounexttuesday · Answer

Not really.

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