What is the best way to improve your communication skills with girls?

[Anonymous]

[Effably]

I'll go against the public sentiment here and say to test the limits. Now you can outright tell the gal that you're not so good at speaking to girls and that feedback is appreciated and go from there. It might not help your dating chances but will absolutely help your learning.

I assume you do not need to learn how to treat people like humans and that you actually want to improve your ability to flirt, be interesting, confident and so on. To which I think you should go for it. Play with your voice and words. See what happens if you hit her with a bit of smoldering gaze and drop a pitch. Maybe it gets awkward chuckling, maybe direct flirting suddenly clicks.

Learning to flirt and have chemistry on command is one of the most socially empowering things I ever did myself. And it just took practice. Even when conversation goes well, especially when it does, take that little gamble and learn from it.

Obviously we are all people and there are plenty of treat people with dignity and respect and so on sensible comments to be made, but my core advice remains to practice it by taking small risks. You can't learn something without ever doing it. Even worldclass theory is inly theory until put into practice.

[Anonymous]

Phrases to avoid:

Calm down, relax, is it your time of the month, listen to me, you don't get it.

Mentality:

She's always right and you don't know what you're talking about. Let her talk herself out, then input your thoughts when she tires.

Phrases to utilise more:

You're right, I understand, I was wrong, I'm sorry.

Communication tactics:

Let her talk, do not cut her off even if she's not making sense. Use the time to formulate your rebuttal, it is likely she will repeat her points so notebooks are not required. As she exhausts her talking points then you rebuttal. She will gain a second wind and argue against your point, repeat the process.

Name-calling:

Safe to say, don't name call.

Tone:

Maintain a monotonous tone and stay calm, I think this pisses them off but she'll eventually match the energy.

Winning:

Conserve your energy in the opening stages, calmly refute. Eventually pick up the pace and hammer why your points proving why you're right

[Opinion Owner]

Sarcasm haha

[Nikki1989]

Focus on active listening, emotional intelligence, and genuine curiosity, treating communication as a way to connect and understand, not just to impress or perform. It is just common sense, really.

[Tereza07]

You dont want to overthink this just talk to her as to your friend and be honest.

[Zack-Bann]

Nothing will substitute real life practice on this one


As someone who went from being totally socially awkward with girls to pretty much constantly being accused of being the ultimate seductor I can tell you: I didn’t change anything special.


Of course there are general rules and guidelines.


But you will figure them out as you go
What’s important is you remain respectful, non-needy, and non insecure


If your routine is an isolating one it would he best to change that
Get involved in a hobby or a job (full time or part time) that involves talking with strangers in a setting frequented by women


The second hand practice you will get there will he invaluable

[aaron13547]

You know the way you talk to your mom or your grandma... like you respect them and are grateful they exist, that's how you exist... talk to another women with the same respect. Dont look at them like the girl you know in school with cooties. See a women who would make your life better If she talked back to you. To get you have to give. Learn to love yourself first or it's going to be a long ride.