Girls, Do you have rules for a first meeting with a new guy? No kissing? No sex? Do you keep or break?

[lisaleib]

[shygirl19988]

I love sex, so in the past i didn’t mind putting out when i first met a guy (i used to sleep around a lot), but that thaught me, that if you sleep with a man when you first meet him, that’s all he’s going to see you as - easy sex for which he has to put in zero effort, so ofc they never put in any effort and i always became only a booty call. Really fucked me up in the end that everybody only saw me for my body and nobody wanted to see my soul or better yet take care of my souls needs. So i stopped. I actually stopped not only sleeping around but dating and everything. If a man doesn’t put in effort for me to look his way (say something funny to get my attention, be nice to me etc.) i won’t even look his way no matter how hot he is. Not really best for me because i have a very high libido, but hey, there’s this great invention called a vibrator that never leads me on like a man and makes me cum every time :)

[Zionne]

Most of us set “rules” like no kissing or sex on the first meet, but it really depends on how safe, respected, and comfortable we feel in the moment. Some stick to it, others break it if the vibe and trust feel right. It’s less about the rule and more about how the connection feels.

[Genie23]

I don't date someone I don't know. I only go out after getting to know them as friends. So, I'm quite confident with them by the time we go out.

[Anonymous]

I won’t kiss them on the first date, and I definitely won't be sleeping with them on the first date. I won’t even sleep with them until probably a couple months into the relationship. Why? Cause guys like to lie to get what they want and will play the part until they get it. And as someone who isn’t jumping up and down to have sex, I will wait and those dudes? They won’t ever be able to out wait me

[Phantomshadow77]

I wouldn’t have sex on the first date. I need to know that they are a good person who wants the best version of the universe for me and who protects my vulnerability rather than use is when it benefits him and reject it, suppress it, or hurt it when it doesn’t benefit him. He needs to consistently accept me, protect me, and be attentive when I’m vulnerable in a way that doesn’t benefit him or even inconveniences him if he wants me to be vulnerable in a way that does benefit him.

[Nikki1989]

None of those rules. Life is too short for that.

[beenherebefore]

No sex and no kissing for sure. Also do not touch me and do not put your hand behind my back.

[Jennz6]

It depends on the guy but I usually let him set the pace

[WhitneySnow]

No sex for quite a while. No kissing on the first date unless I really like him.

[Justneedtokno]

Don’t do too much don’t like them more than they like you. No sex the first date unless you will not see them again

[RedWine9]

No kissing the girl or sex. If it’s sex on first date It’s probably not going any further.

[Kelly6]

@lisaleib No rules

[Anonymous]

If they're attractive and interesting, i would have sex.

[Swixka]

No sex. No getting naked. Keep it.

[bunniesrcute]

i dont really date, so no