Guys, Sex on the first date?

[Anonymous]

Guys, is it a turn off if you can get a girl to sleep with you after the first date? Even if you both wanted to do it, do you have more respect for a girl if she holds out?

[Diodoro]

I've had two longterm relationships now that started with sex on the first date. But these were special cases. Sex early is not a disqualifier for a potential relationship, but many guys will not because you had sex.

It's because you didn't already display the traits a guy wants in a girlfriend and potentially you didn't find out if he's the right guy. Because a guy who knows what he likes in a girl, knows what he wants in a girlfriend. He's not gonna pass that girl up because she slept with him after an awesome first date.

If anything it heightens it. Because he found the girl with all he wants in a girl AND they slept with her. All the better. But he also needs to know the sex happened because the vibe was right not because you were a hoe.

That's where displaying girlfriend traits early comes in. My girl now when I met her I had every intention of sleeping with her. Relationship was not even in my mind. I was not looking for a girlfriend at all. A day later after we had sex the night before I wanted to see her again and we just didn't stop.

There was a lot more to the whole experience, her, and the chemistry we have. Great sex helped. Personally I think this is true for guys in general. If you have what a guy is looking for in a partner and you make him cum 3-5 times. He's falling in love.

If you're missing what he wants in a partner and make him cum 3-5 times. He might have a soft in his heart for you but won't want a relationship because of what's missing. Most guys readily catch red flags early in girls.

The ones who get in trouble are the ones who ignore it

[OlderAndWiser]

What do YOU think about a guy who clearly indicates he wants to have sex on the first date?

[JohnDominik]

It's totally fine if she wants to wait with sex because she didn't feel comfortable yet. But if she wanted it really bad on the first date and just didn't do it for strategic reasons (the guy might loose intersest, he will think I'm cheap etc.), it's a bit of a turn off. If you want something, go get it, girl!

My girlfriend and I got to know each other in a night club. There was this instant chemestry between us. We had sex the very first night and it was awsome. We both assumed that the other has done this before. For me the idea that she slept with so many other guys was such a turn-on. After the first hookup, I asked her out for a date. We met in a park and wanted to go to a nice cafe. We started to make out again. It escalated and we went to my place and had sex again. It was pure ecstasy. In the evening, we finally made it to the cafe and figured out that we are both very talkative after sex. We also figured out that we click on so many other levels and started dating. To this day, this strong sexual attraction is still a very important part of our relationship. I'm sure by now that she is my life partner.

So, in our case Sex on or before the first date was a plus.

[_Damien]

I don't have more respect for a woman if she holds out.
If we both wanted to do it and she chooses not to because of some social perception, well then she is a poser.

If you want to have sex on the first date, then have sex on the first date.
If you don't feel like it, then don't.

[Shamalien]

If she’s willing to put out to me on the first date, that means she’s probs willing to do it for other guys and that’s a big turnoff. It means this person sleeps with strangers, which means she would cheat easily. A loose goose. Not to be trusted

[Asker]

So, even if you both have chemistry and both want to do it, it shouldn't be done?

[mobiusforniner]

"Chemistry" is seldom determined on a one evening outing. Truly knowing somebody is not the same as just feeling horny.

[Shamalien]

Do whatever you want kiddo just don’t complain when the guy thinks you’re easy and sees you as nothing more than a booty call for when he’s in between other women, more respectable women whom he’d consider dating longterm

[Asker]

I'm not doing it. Lol just getting a general consensus. Plus our first date was had and there was no sex. Just a hug goodbye and then a follow up phone call to schedule another date!

[JohnDominik]

I don't think that sleeping with strangers means that she is a cheater. If she currently is in a relationship and has sex with you - that's cheating. In this case, I would be very careful. But if she is single and goes home with on the first date: Where is the problem? I know a lot of women with a wild past but they are all happily married now. My girlfriend also had a lot of sexual partners before but so did I. We also had sex even before the first date. It was amazing. We live together now and I trust her completely. On the other hand, my brother got to know a really beautiful girl. She let him wait quite a time fore the first sex. They ware dating for a while until he found out she cheated on him. So, it depends on the person or the character not the time that passes between the first aquaintance and the first sex. I think guys miss out great oportunities when they don't give a chance to women who just like sex.

[Shamalien]

@JohnDominik sleeping with strangers doesn’t mean she’s a cheater, it means it would take her all of one night to cheat though. Someone who needs to be comfortable and trust their lover it would take months to cheat and the issues would have time to be resolved. I want a stable partner, not a wild whore

[Gingerguy33]

I personally would never have sex on the first date and if the women wanted to I’d probably tell her we’re waiting or you can hit the road if you don’t wanna wait

[donnny2367764]

Sex is sec. Enjoy it for what it is. If things get weird then let it get weird... just remember that there are plenty of other people who would always take the chance of it doesn't work out

[VikingWarLord]

I won't date a b-tch if she's an uptight, vanilla, boring PRUDE, so if she won't get freaky on the first night, she's waste of time.

[Luckyman298]

Tbh kinda mess up but it depends on my intention. If its casual I don't care and i judgment. However for relationship i do prefer not too

[Strightwhitrepub]

Depends if you grew up and new each other or just met. If he is a decent guy he won't be trying to get laid on the first date if you guys just met.

[Recurrence]

I would still respect them

[steveRogers12]

Respect is the same either way