Do men fall in love after lust only?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

This\nIs a really good question

When you find out how somebody is in bed, how open they are, what they're into, what they like, how much they get into it through\n Lust, there could be a connection. Because lust a lot of time shows who the person truly is

For some reason I belive love and lust have a lot to do with each other.

I dont mean listing after some one
I mean there is a kink to lust in away where in love you can experience that openness of that kink or form of lust to take her to the peak of becoming one with each other.. I dont know if I'm saying it right or not but I know what I mean lol

[Quigly]

Nope

There are too many situations when I was not initially attracted to a person at all and they won me over with their personality, caring and friendship.

[Amy_Mi]

No.

Men don’t fall in love after lust they fall in love when lust finally meets a woman who can’t be reduced to it.

Lust might catch his eye, but only depth holds his mind, and only grace conquers his soul.

A man may desire a hundred bodies, but he’ll only surrender to one energy the kind that’s untouchable, self possessed, and unforgettable.

So no, love doesn’t come after lust.

Lust bows when love walks in and that’s the difference between a moment and a lifetime.

[DishLady]

This is a really interesting question. Curious to see what the fellows say.

From what I can tell, if a guy's feelings are leading with lust then there's slim chance for something more. When there's a little lust and a general curiosity about the gal, though, that's where the guy's in danger of falling in love.

[Finchie40]

It definitely helps , Guys’ look at intimacy and affection differently than most females’ do , intimacy and affection is I important to most of us guys’ if a girl wants to be by our side , she should look at sex as love and not just some chore. Because when a girl neglects her partner from it , he feels unloved and unwanted and unappreciated by her and sometimes he feels she is just using him for his money , which could lead him to cheat on her or leave her for someone else that wants to make him feel loved and wanted. Intimacy and affection is how most of us guys’ express our love and emotions to a girl we love and care about , if she has a hard time accepting that from him , he will eventually lose interest in her and no longer value her. Most Females’ on the other hand need to feel an emotional connection with her man for her to want sex , if she doesn’t feel that emotional connection with him , she might go spread her legs to someone else as well. Or leave him all together. Most people that cheat , cheat for this reason , if you don’t want your partner cheating on you , then wear his shoes before wearing your own , sadly selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers and everyone has selfishness inside themselves , if you can’t remove it for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you, it needs to go both ways or that relationship will not last the long haul whatsoever

[HawkPerception]

Not for me honestly. However, sex is a big aspect of a relationship and will eventually deepen the bond between a couple physically and emotionally.

But for me, I'm the kind of guy to fall in love with someone when I see how similar they are to me in terms of views, interests, sense of humor, aligning goals, physical attraction, and sexual compatibility.

The closer they are to me in those, the more likely I'll be compatible with them and fall for them.

I could be on the other side of the world and if I'm video chatting and voice messaging someone on the regular, learning who they are inside and out, knowing that I love who they are and that they want to be with me as much as I want to be with them... that's when I'm likely in love.

[sawno]

The reason I also include the lust side of it in my answer is because its both to me. Lust confirms sexual compatibility to the point where being sexually exclusive is fulfilling. While compatibility is what makes me fall in love. Being able to lust after someone is part of that compatibility / attraction.

[Summeroflove]

I’m not saying genuine love can’t come after lust. But more often then not it’s not genuine love even if they may feel love for the woman. These relationships rarely end well.

[AviatorTom]

Sometimes lust comes first, then love. Or sometimes, lust comes first without love following.

[sawno]

Lust + Compatibility i'd say. If there's no attraction / sexual compatibility it doesn't make sense to give someone sexual exclusivity because then your going to sign up for a lifetime of not being fulfilled, have desires to cheat, etc. So the lust part is important.

But just lust won't do it, she can be perfect sexual match but all that would do is encourage sex. Wouldn't make me satisfied in a relationship, there's more to it than that. Her personality matters immensely, I seek someone I can truly level with.

[Zack-Bann]

Not “only” no


But love and lust can coexist


Men tend to be accused of that more often than women


But I know it goes both ways


Honestly if you’re not lusting for your partner you are susceptible to lust for someone else


So falling in love with and lusting over the same person who only have eyes for you is a sure fire way to have a good relationship

[Anonymous]

No, if you mean by the google definition. I don't need "very strong sexual desire" to put the building blocks of love down. I do need to find her attractive, but that doesn't have to be the key factor. Personally, it has been everything else after the initial attraction that has built my interest in a girl.

[Jammannn]

There are many kinds of love but if you’re talking about the unconditional kind, it’s unlikely to exist after lust has already been fulfilled.

I’ve been looking at stories of how people meet, especially those that begin without desire or lust where initial attraction wasn’t really there. They’re rare enough to feel nonexistent.

If you didn’t catch their eye from the start, there’s nothing you can say to change that.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Younger men? Usually.

Older men? Usually not.

When men are young their hormones are crazy and they think with their dicks all the time. By the time they're older though it usually simmers down at least in comparison.

[Anonymous]

I would say yes, but with a caveat. Women shoot themselves in the foot when they have sex early in a relationship. Show you value yourself (and him) enough that you are willing to wait and let him show he values you for more than sex. Trust me, he's going to lust after you anyway.

[BadApple69]

It all starts out as lust for both men and women. Sex does bring both closer together but love doesn’t come until sometime much later.

[Jersey2]

For me this was true.

[BadApple69]

I believe it’s fact. “Love at first sight” is actually lust at first sight. How can you possibly love someone you don’t even know?

[Zionne]

Not always. Some men fall in love after feeling physical attraction, but others connect emotionally first. Lust can spark interest, but real love usually grows from emotional depth, trust, and shared experiences.

[nolabels]

For myself, at least a smattering of lust has to be present as a prerequisite to romantic love.

[jshm2]

Nope. Quite the opposite.

Once they've romped around the room a few times, they will usually lose interest, if lust was the only reason.

[Bricealan]

Hard to answer, as I don't know what followed what. In my case, I think love followed a lusty start on a few occasions.

[DryGermanGuy]

Don't overthink it. It's an ever so slightly different process from person to person.

[Nikki1989]

Real men fall in love. The rest don't know how to love.

[Ironco]

Men are visual, we all know that. So initially a man will imagine and "lust" after a gal. But when it comes time to fall in love, it will take getting to know a lady and communication.

Well it does for me anyways...

[BCRanger10]

What are you defining as lust and how does a man's interest fit that description?

[FreyaRed]

It's not lust, it's the imagination of owning a girl that makes men crazy.

[mysteriousNicholas]

Hard to say 👀😅

Attractive women catch the eye - initially.

[FunkyMonkee]

Not always. I fell in love several times before I got to fuck her.

[Filthy_Immigrant]

no. unlike women, we actually know how to separate them two. this is why a lot of men are able to ghost you after one night of sex

[MJVillarama]

Yeah, it can happen, but true love usually needs more than just physical attraction.

[genericname85]

I would say love without Lust is friendship. So yeah.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not fall in love. I choose to love. Lust belonged to my youth.

[manbehindscreen]

No but men do think they can find love through lust. That is a fundamental difference between men and women.

[Anonymous]

Lust leads into love, that's how love at first sight works.

[warlock83]

No, some of us fall in love with the mind first.

[Theonly2121]

Depends on the guy honestly/// it ca be trucks thinking you’re in love when it’s just just

[Flower7]

Yes, it seems that way.

[beenherebefore]

I don’t think so.

[exitseven]

It happens but it is hard to tell.

[clampfan101]

Absolutely not. Not real men.

[DavyJ]

Of course, no woman ever has……..

[jahaims]

Guys aren't universally the same

[RedInnocent69]

Both are possible. Even at the same time

[MannMitAntworten]

No. Not remotely.

[Anonymous]

Yes they are looking for a saviour.

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope

[yotaman99]

I don’t.