Can lust turn into love?

[Apple1996]

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I think there needs to be equal amounts of love and lust to make a relationship work. It seems like most people start out with lust and they make it work. Does the lust change into love overtime? Or was the love always there even when it was just lust?

[Sensmind]

I think an individual's attitude is at the heart of this - The interesting thing for me is that as you say for a lot lust plays a big part in starting relationships but say you are having your 10th Wedding Anniversary, ask yourself what made me settle down with my 3rd, 7th or 9th BF/GF - What I am getting at, was there at a subconscious level saying to you at the start "Is this someone I could fall in love with?"
To your question, I suppose so as you sate your lust, you get to know someone, I doubt there are any people who just have sex without communicating on some level apart from physical. So therefore as you get to know someone you could fall in love. The dynamic you describe of the usurping of the lust/love levels as you go through a relationship are probably by the importance to attribute to looks/personality throughout the relationship

[chriscdi]

when there's a relationship, lust does not exist in that relationship, i think that when 2 people are in love, their sex isn't lust but more of a way to show love, my opinion to lust turning into love, yes it is possible, I've heard it happen plenty of times with friends with benefits, people start catching feelings, if that keeps going with them both catching feelings for each other the lust can turn into love but i dont know how often it happens, usually only 1 person catches feelings for someone in this situation but i dont think its impossible.

[Apple1996]

I'm in a realtionship and there is definitely still lust😆

And yeah I agree with that last part a lot of times one person will catch feelings and the other won't

[chriscdi]

well be still loves you doesn't he? 😂

[chriscdi]

he****

[Apple1996]

Yess he does. I think the difference is like fucking vs making love. Two people that love each other can still fuck just to fuck without any loving happening. That is what I would consider lust in a realtionship

[chriscdi]

having sex in a healthy relationship would be love in my book but if you want to count it as lust you can, but in my religion and believes, y'all are doing the right thing, y'all are having sex in marriage, y'all are married right? obviously, sex isn't just to reproduce, its to make love with your partner too, it would only be love if he had no feelings for you 😂🤠👌

[chriscdi]

lust*

[Apple1996]

Yes we are married but we also had sex before marriage. And yeah sex inside of marriage isn't always because of love. It can be for selfish reasons too

[chriscdi]

well what do i know, you are the married one 🤷‍♂️😂

[chriscdi]

sometimes selfishness does kick in so yep you changed my whole point of view 🤠

[nella965]

I think that relationships need to start with both mental attraction and lust. But if you fall in love due to the lust, it won't last. Its understandable that lust can lead to love. But there needs to be fierce strong mental attraction in order for a relationship to last for years or forever.

[nella965]

Usually you can tell if you're mentally attracted to someone within the first one or two meetings. If you can't feel anything but lust for the first few meetings, then the mental attraction simply isn't strong enough.

[crazy8000]

Depends on circumstances.
Normally does it take a lot more time together unless it get accelerated by situations you two are in together. something players use to their advantage to escalate what you experience in 1 - 3 dates. they manufacture scenarios. many times doesn't most people detect that they do this.

[Sarahr123]

Nah I don’t think so because love is a feeling not a decision. Generally lust being fulfilled leads to loss of respect and viewing the person as an object who is a means to an end. We can’t fall in love with an object used for sexual gratification alone.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

It really depends on how the relationship developes.

[Lliam]

Absolutely. The way I describe it is, a relationship usually begins with infatuation. Two people are first attracted to each other physically and probably like other things about each other, as well. I mean, I wouldn't date someone I wasn't physically attracted to. That physical attraction can be equated to lust. You would like to have sex with them. So, basically, lust comes first.
True love comes later. It builds over time once two people get to know each other very well, once they know all their quirks, flaws and bad habits and how they behave in various situations. Trust grows when they can be fully genuine and honest with each other. And trust is a major component of love.

[TadCurious]

I think you can definitely fall in love with a person after being just sexually attracted to them. This happens sometimes with people who are in fuck buddy or FWBs relationships when one or both individuals "catch feelings." There are biochemical reasons for that happening. Having orgasms with another person releases oxytocin, which among other things it does promotes a sense of bonding. And then are relationships that start out based on feelings and become sexual later.

[TadCurious]

*And then there are. . . .

[Apple1996]

Yeah I do notice this happening to people that are friends with benefits

[MementoMori_]

I think when people are younger, it's all about lust. You can't tell if there is real love there until the lust wears off. Every relationship gets to that point at some point and most of them end up breaking apart because they discover there is nothing beyond the superficial at that point. Mature love doesn't happen in the 20s or even 30s.

[Apple1996]

I think mature love can happen young

[MementoMori_]

That's because you are young.

[Apple1996]

Yeah but I've been married for 4 years and together almost 7 years with my husband so I feel like my love is mature. I can't see how someone's age would change the way they love🤷‍♀️

[MementoMori_]

I hope it is true for your sake.

[crazy8000]

Right kind of love usually creates lust.
The other way around very rare and people of today usually get confused and think they love or are in love when it is just lust. they doesn't realize this until they begin to love someone for first time. the same thing usually happen with in love part for many.

[Apple1996]

I dont think it's that rare

[crazy8000]

When we doesn't know better we tend to think accordingly

[Exorcist_Rampage]

I'm sure it could. I often fantasize about you, miss Apple, and wonder if we were in a relationship with each other if there would be an amazing sparkle of soaring love or if it is just my carnal desires to dig into your righteous rack.

I think lust can turn into love given the right tools and events. The reverse can happen too.

[Apple1996]

Awhh you fantasize about me?😊 how sweet

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Yeah but since I'm only 5 inches taller, you may not like that. You're 4'11" to my 5'4" and if you wore 6 inch wedges, you'd be over me by an inch.

[Apple1996]

Omg your so short, I love short guys😊😊 by the way I never wear heels

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Some Asian men are far shorter than 5'4" also. I've seen some around your height.

[Jjpayne]

It can. Lust brings them in but talking brings them to love. Not to say we won't get distracted and have to be pulled out of a daydream. Aka "what huh.. right" (in head- I was busy looking at those legs, da#n they are so smooth and her eyes are amazing, they also seem to pierce right through me) :)

[Bananaman177]

I think lust can seem exactly like love, especially when you want it to, and you can pretend it is for a long time until the day it all comes crashing in on you that your love was just a pretty little lie you told yourself, and you've been wasting all your time living that lie and now you have nothing to show for it.

[KaiserXVI]

For me, lust will only turn to love when it comes to the right person. Physical appearance is what gets you in the door to begin with. To deny that is wholly disingenuous. That being said, the love, care and personality is what keeps you in for the long run.

[I_Am_Sazerac]

Actually yes it can. a lot of people confuse the two, but after a certain amount of time fooling around, someone or both parties start to catch feelings because you're in a more intimate situation than normal. You're learning each other and also learning how to work with each other.

It is possible of it is mutual. If it's one sided then it's not going to end well.

[Browneye57]

They're two different things. You're trying to make them the same thing - they're just not.

'Making love' is romance, sitting together, holding hands, etc.
Sex is about lust, raw, visceral, wet, orgasmic. If not, you're doing it wrong. ;)

[Apple1996]

They are somewhat similar

[Browneye57]

Uh, no. They're not. Completely.
Lust is about sexual arousal, sexual tension, desire, passion.
Love is about giving, connecting, caring for, providing for.
They're not even close. The fact you would say they are means you're all new at this and rather confused. But you came here to learn, right?

[Apple1996]

I've been in a 6 year realtionship so no I don't need to learn more about this

[Browneye57]

No, you've got it all figured out. But here you are asking stupid questions.
Unfukkinbelievable.
6 years? Tell me how that compares to forty years of marriage. You're clueless.

[NorthShoreCalling]

Believe it or not there can actually be different takes on this since people are complex creatures, as well as men and women having slightly differing feelings towards such things.

[johnieohm]

lust can adapt to a physical love, like you enjoy what someone does physicallg to you. lust in itself is not true love but to people who are younger can assume that true love is lust. once they figure out what true love is they will break this mentality and start calling a want to have sex lust and true love true love

[Anonymous]

I don't think it can. And if people do start dating after lusting for each other, they usually end up breaking up later on. Never heard of anyone who has actually turned lust into love so I wouldn't know. You might give love a chance but if you're reason for seeing someone started with lust it most likely won't turn into you loving so much that you lust for that person but more of a lusting for someone so much that you love em. It feels more like a safe card than a true relationship I guess.

[xkildy]

I agree with the person below it depends on how the relationship does develop most often than not if lust comes first then the amount of chances that you will have turning it into a relationship will be slimmer

[Internarchitect]

Lust is a German word that means “Want”. So yes, you should always “Want” your partner. You may go days without, but eventually you will “Want” her again. How bad you want it is usually a matter of time apart.

[Gstacy703]

Initially it starts with an attraction then as you get to know the person and start caring for each other and spending time together and if your personalities match in the long run it can turn into ❤️ love

[locoloco68]

Percentage that turn into love and last very long I think we'd be rare but then again there is love at first sight anything can happen but majority I would say would crumble in a couple of years relationships these days don't last more than 5

[Cactusqueen]

I guess if we’re talking two strangers on the train or at the gym etc see one another as sexy and imagine sex together then eventually get to know who they are and love forms

[normalice]

If the sex is good, it can become akin to an addiction. And if the addict manages to think themselves equal to the dealer, that's a sufficient description of love.

[cheapshotbob]

if they are old enough yeah but it really doesn't turn into love if there your age its mostly a crush or a fixation which goes away when the other grown up things kick in