If you catch your spouse on a dating website, do you let them know that you know?

[ariadneR]

[DishLady]

Oh my...

Well, you can hint at it. Like "Oh, sweetie, you know? I was looking for something online the other day and you'll never believe what came up, lol." See what their reaction is. Do they fess up or laugh it off with you?

OOOOR, if you know this has happened more than once you should mention it in a more level-headed context, like "I noticed that you've been looking at... {name of site}... Is there something you want to tell me about?"

[Zack-Bann]

How would catch your spouse if you’re not on the site yourself?


If someone else sent me the screenshots and I verified the person isn’t doctoring them to ruin my marriage, obviously I would let my wife know


She will need to know at least why we’re getting divorced


Because yes, that’s the only outcome


I can forgive “mistakes” human make those often
But I will never forgive any breach of loyalty and commitment, big or small.


I’ve seen my parents be married for 3 decades now. They fight often.
But they are both beyond loyal to each other.
And I don’t think it’s too much to ask in a market

[ohsheeT]

This is a really good question. I dont think I would. Because of all the drama that I would not like

But at the same time, I would want her to know that I know by walking into the restaurant or walking into the place where she's at on a date, did you\nSay, Hey, how are you long time no see? And just walk out

[Amy_Mi]

Yes, honesty and boundaries are non negotiable.

Confrontation isn’t about drama, it’s about clarity, respect, and protecting your standards.

Silent observation allows betrayal to continue, addressing it asserts your values and demands accountability.

How you respond sets the tone measured, firm, and aware not reactive.

[genericname85]

personally i'd talk about it to them. but you should be open and not judgmental about it or else he may be forced to lie about it. sometimes people just wanna feel validated by someone else but their spouse. like see if they still have value on the dating market just to know, not to go and cheat. just for a bit of confidence boost.

[itsannalee]

Play dumb, and get more details.
The question is why would me being on dating app tho, and catch him there.

[Kori1236]

I’m not married but even if I were dating someone and a friend found their profile we’d be having a discussion

[jimbob70]

Not my spouse after that nothing to talk about

[soe11]

• I don't have a wife.
• That's why I don't get married.
• I have a honest, sincere, trustworthy, loyal girlfriend.
• We both open and transparent we say everything without concealing each other our feelings.

[MisterPandemonium]

Maybe let them know after you've met with a divorce attorney, and you know exactly how you're going to proceed.

No point in giving them advance warning

[UniquelyBasic]

I'll just hit them up on the dating app and ask them on a date lol

[tzdc21]

Yep, and its straight to singlesville right afterwards.

[AgentG111]

Yes I did because I caught her in another lie. It led to a quick and final decision and divorce.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah that’s a problem

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope you have fun with it give them what they're looking for fulfill the fantasy

[Sweety_Torneeya]

No... He will never know that I know...

[jahaims]

You have self respect and get a divorce obviously

[TonyMetal___86]

Yes ofc and things won't be pretty!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Communication is key

[Sebastian100]

Yes.