Men, when you are in love or dating someone, how often do you want to see/talk to the woman you love?

[Pearl222]

Is it every few hours, days or weeks? In what ways do you show you care about her consistently, both verbal and non verbal?

[MJVillarama]

It depends on the person, but most guys like regular contact , texts, calls, or little check-ins. Showing care can be small things too: remembering details, thoughtful messages, or just being present when you’re together.

[exitseven]

When I was dating my wife she was living in another state about 300 miles away. We saw each other every two weeks. It wasn't enough.

[MrOracle]

I like to see her in person as much as reasonably possible, which is typically 3-5 days a week.

I want the part of our relationship that happens on the phone (calls or texts) to be as close to zero as possible. I have to be on the phone for work and it's the worst part of my day. As a man, I don't multitask well, so when I am on the phone, I can't be doing anything else, and since by customers are paying for my time, they don't want me on the phone on their time and dime. I have a physical job, and it's often a two-man task, so a phone call means I'm stopping two people from working. Plus, my customers often have a limited window of time that I can be there.

My only social media is a very tiny bit of company promotion. I don't want to be on my phone on my personal time either, at least not in a real-time capacity. I'm only on here sporadically when I need to kill 10 minutes of time waiting on a customer or something. I want to experience my relationship in person, and so that's what I do.

[Finchie40]

As much as possible , if I am in love with her , Not saying I have to hold her hand at all times but I would t go days without talking to her or seeing her , when 2 people truly love and care about each other , they don’t really need space from each other , partners’ that demand space are clearly up to no good , space is t for relationships, space is for astronauts

[HawkPerception]

As often as possible. I still value having time to myself and to have some breathing room at least a couple of hours every day, but when I love my partner, I want to be in their space very often.

[ohsheeT]

All the time anyway possible smoke signals if I have to

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Something like this works warm, honest, and grounded

When a man is genuinely in love, he wants to connect often not in a clingy way, but in a “she’s my person” way.

Most guys I know love a steady rhythm a few messages throughout the day, a real conversation at night, and seeing her a couple of times a week if life allows.

It’s less about the quantity and more about feeling close, wanted, and part of her world.

When a man is into you, you don’t have to guess, he naturally shows up.

[Lliam]

I always dated women who didn't live too far away, so I tried to see them in person as often as possible, no less than twice a week, at least on weekends, and more often than that, even every day if we had time.
If we couldn't see each other, I liked to talk to them on the phone every evening after work.

We didn't have cell phones, so there was no such thing as texting. But I don't like texting anyway unless it is to ask or answer simple questions like "What time are you getting home?", "Do you want to get something to eat after work?", and stuff like that.

I really prefer speaking, hearing her voice, and having a conversation.

[Zack-Bann]

Different between when I’m in love vs just dating someone


Basically the more I love someone the more time I wanna spend with her.


We could start dating before I’m fully invested and in love and so my attachment will grow over time


It sucks though when I’m not with a woman and I catch feelings for her


Which hasn’t happened in over 10 years to be fair


But I know what it does to me

[Pearl222]

Yes, that’s very natural…emotional attachment does take time to develop once you start dating, but during the dating phase do you like seeing or communicating with them often?

[Zack-Bann]

Ah yes.
I do believe a relationship is more than just a facebook status or an instagram story of two glasses of wine

Both partners need to be each other’s first:
First call.
First choice for a meal after a long day’s work
First option for any activity they thought of doing
And so on

Of course it’s good to also have your own friends and find time to socialize outside your relationship

But I dealt with an ex that made her schedule “first come first served” when we were together.

So I had to compete for her time and attention with all her friends
Some were even not so close friends

It put an insane strain on the relationship

As a partner I should have had priority access to her time just like she had with mine.
Not necessarily drop everything at s beck and call
But when you’re planning your Saturday out on a Tuesday it’s good to think “can my boyfriend/girlfriend join for this activity or outing? If so let’s invite them if not let’s just keep another slot of time open to meet up later”

My best friend has been dating a girl for 3 years and thats how they handle it

[Pearl222]

I absolutely agree, even if you are prioritising your friends… you can at least text/call the person you are dating every few hours or call once at the end of the day. Without that, it starts to feel very monotonous

[sawno]

Usually a few hours every day, but there are moments I need alone time if I am feeling really rough and need rest. So with the exception of the days I am really not feeling well its basically spending a few hours together every day which worked well in my last relationship. We had tricky timezones but every evening we could spend 3 to 4 hours together which was really nice and had the timezones allowed could have easily been longer. But I do need my moments during a day where I just do my hobbies by myself to recharge. I may come across extroverted but I am an introvert, I don't recharge when spending time with someone so I need moments to myself to.

[FreakInTheBedroom]

Well id say their is probably a bigger difference in the amount of time I want to spend with someone I just started dating vs someone I love, someone I just started dating and its like whenever but someone im In love with i guess id say most of my free time id enjoy being with her or in her presence as im sure we would want to enjoy growing together and since it won't be someone that I've lived already for a long time that I dont know that ill ever be with someone that I've been with for a long time if that makes since, like I don't know that ill ever experience a long term relationship with someone that I love so much and even though I hope I do i know the chances of getting there are stacked against me I feel its definitely possible and with that being said I dont even remember what I was gonna say

[Anonymous]

More than a sibling I guess, yet balanced in a way similar to being with a sibling. Especially siblings you most mentally connect as you both age, not just simply being people under same situation/condition.. etc.
She is my power source or charger in a way. I can't be overcharged, but need to stick to her for long and need her around.

[slatyb]

Some communication daily, but not hours and hours, and not infinite texting. I have a life and she should too.

[Pearl222]

Not hours definitely, but a few check ins throughout the day are much appreciated

[slatyb]

That's a lot in the middle of a work day. Once upon a time there were only phone calls, and one a day was considered to be enough. A couple starting to date would communicate just enough to agree on the next date.

[Anonymous]

As often as possible, with breaks for work and other activities.

[Pearl222]

Seems like the most reasonable answer so far. I feel the same way

[DJB72]

I married her. Spent 21 years with her. Only regret is she died too soon.

[_Lynx]

Oh 😢

[Pearl222]

Sorry for your loss😢

[DJB72]

Thanks. It's been a year now. Still feels wrong.

[Anonymous]

All of my loves were unrequited, so I never actually had a date.

If I had a relationship, I would want to see her every day.

[Sam1133]

Its both way game i dont put efforts if she is not putting efforts.

[Keyboardkat]

24/7! If you really love someone, why wouldn't you feel that way?

[genericname85]

every day or every other in the beginning and then maybe less as tie goes on and the reationship becomes more stable.

[Nice222]

I would say a least once a day and more likely a few times a day. Talk text or whatever.

[RedInnocent69]

Every minute of every day

[Anonymous]

I could do everyday.

[Crankor]

Depends how much I like them

[TonyMetal___86]

For sure daily...