When you’re in an exclusive relationship with someone, how often would you prefer to see each other?

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You can answer regardless of if you’re single/taken.  #WhatsTheScenario  Say you guys haven't moved in together yet because you’re still in the extremely early stage, maybe a month or two in. How often are you trying to go see eachother? Daily?  For me personally, I’m not trying to see the person daily. I’ll deal with that when the time comes and we’re sharing a place lmao. I’d like to see each other maybe 2-3 days a week but not every week, maybe every two weeks unless we just miss each other too much. I value my space/alone time but if the person would like us to see each other more than that, like if they wanted to see each other daily/weekly, thats do-able so long as I have at least 2 days to myself. My exes here were often my neighbors, coworkers, or classmates so we not only saw each other daily at work/school/around the area, but then again right after when we got home. It was a bit exhausting. And then the LDR’s we saw eachother like every few months which was a stretch but not the worst. I can make time for the guy but I don’t even like being around people for more than 2-3 hours a day, so to see someone every day double at that is A LOT. #FeelFreeToList

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

My partner and I used to see each other Friday to Sunday when we weren’t living together.
I worked and lived in the North West of the city and he lived and worked South East. So completely different directions. We tried to meet halfway through the week and have dinner somewhere near the both of us.

California_Poppy · Accepted Answer

I couldn't get enough of my SO after our first date. We both worked so we saw each other in between pretty much every day or every other day.

I'm not sure if that makes for a 'healthy' relationship but it felt right, so I have no regrets 💕

Anonymous · Answer

Damn, I really wonder what  would answer to that! Nice question by the way.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Well I'd have iked it to be once a week but I couldn't have it so. But usually to develop feelings it would mean we were seeing each other daily or weekly at first. Distance is good to miss a person, is beneficial... sometimes I'm worried we don't get too comfortable if we marry and move in. But im sure with us having busy lives and different duties we will still always miss each other and having a whole day together would still be a bit rare and much appreciated.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Ideally we're sleeping together or at least going home and snuggling together before retiring to separate bedrooms (I'm conceptually ok with this but haven't tried it, know several couples for whom this works great).

But I also have individual hobbies and need time alone, so if we're living apart, seeing each other at least once a week is necessary. And more frequent is needed to progress the relationship.

Lliam · Answer

If we're exclusive, that means that we are into each other. It's not just casual.
We're infatuated and can't get enough of each other. At that point, we're into sex and romance.

We're best friends. We like going places and doing things together, holding hands, walking with our arms around each other, kissing, chatting and confiding.

I assume we both have our own places, so we can stay at each others places and spend nights together if we want to. We crave sex with each other as often as possible.

Nothing clingy. No texting all day. No desperation or need for constant reassurance. Just a mutual desire to be with each other as often as our schedules allowed.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Typically once a week until the exclusivity starts. Once exclusive, I would be cool with twice a week. Gives us time to focus on other things we need to deal with and give each other space.

Over a week of not seeing each other is a quick way to kill a relationship if you are not together. At least talk on the phone or something. Comes across as hot and cold. This doesn't video well of people marry and want to live together and that is the way they want to approach the situation. Why waste time? Just stay single at that point.

magiusX26 · Answer

this is a bigger part of why i dont even try to date anymore. for me it would only be randomly as i felt a need to be with them, be it sex or just soending time together. as well the communication outside of that would be sporatic at best. my past has left me without the ability to care or commit to anyone that deeply or that strongly. top all that off with tge fact that to begin to be intimate requires tgat deeper type of trust (ain't happening) , commitment, and care which, as previously stated, am unable to do and that is not including the trust etc required for some of my kinks.

Pink2000 · Answer

I’m so used to seeing my ex man everyday and talking on the phone everyday. Now that I’ve gotten older I realized that we each need our space and I’m good with just seeing them on weekends.

Mark987 · Answer

If it's the early stages I would say at least 3 times minimum during the week. You don't want to go all in and exclude friends and family. You don't want to smother the person also.

Keene13 · Answer

It really depends on the couple. I myself can be pretty introverted and value some alone time. Too much of anyone can sometimes lead to friction.

Hithere4567 · Answer

I've always been a bit of a loner. I find that I don't mind hanging out with someone I have feelings for on some days but not everyday. My sexual fantasies are also kind of jaded so I prefer masturbation rather than sex, so that might also have something to do with it.

worldscolide · Answer

Honestly, ideally once or twice a week, hopefully more. I actually changed towns to be closer to my wife when we were dating.

belle_kai · Answer

About 4 times a week, maybe 5. I need at least 2 days a week to myself

justJoshua555 · Answer

If it's a long-distance relationship, I would say a VC every day would be nice but I know life is unpredictable so even if she or I skip a few days, it's fine I guess.

and talking about close relationships (living not too far away) I guess whenever someone is free and can travel and meet is fine.

but one should arrange a "date" every week or once every 2 weeks just for fun and for spending time.

Christoff92 · Answer

Well. A lot of my ex-girlfriends which are now friends of mine. Keep in touch once a while. But never had an exclusive relationship to be honest. Basically they went away for college and careers across the country and overseas. Am not really a fan of exclusive relationship anyways. But do accept their friendship.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It would depend on how long we've been exclusive. If we just started being exclusive I'd say 3 days a week. If we've been exclusive for a while at least 5 days a week. I'd want to see her more often the longer we've been together. It's on the path of living together

Jamie05rhs · Answer

If it was long-distance, then I would say at least every 3 months.

If we lived in the same area, then I'd like to see her at least once a week. (I mean, I wouldn't WANT to see her. Because I'm shy introvert. But I still think I SHOULD. Because it would be good for us.)

nawtee_me · Answer

I am sorry but,” I just can’t get enough of you babe….” I don’t mean all clingy and stuff. Just let me hear your voice or FaceTime me. We can get together a few times a week in person.
now once we get to the sex part, well I can’t have sex over FaceTime so we got to get together daily…..

Gramkabir · Answer

It depends on the situation. Like if you are working, then finding time is difficult rather keeping in touch with each other through your cell phone is a everyday task.

But if possible meeting each week at least once is good for a relationship.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Very early on I think normally like on the weekends. Then normally every other night. Then eventually basically living together.

Simslover92 · Answer

Being in a long distance relationship, I would want to see them everyday if I could. It sucks only seeing them once a month if that.

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