What is your view of attracting your type?

[jennifer_bloom]

Before I knew my boyfriend was on the market, I had a dream the visual options for my type of guy were elite and highly saturated. I am assuming he likes my personality because he seems extremely interested in me when I do not look extremely superior to any other girl he has met.

[fishcake_buttie]

Maybe he was alone before he met you and you were the one that hooked onto him and now he isn't alone and wants to take an interest in you. Looks are important, this is why all people should keep themselves in tip-top condition, but happiness is more important and that comes from forming a bond which comes from love and understanding and not so much from aesthetic attributes. Exercise, eat well and rest well and you'll be happy in yourself and your man will enjoy your happiness.

[Xawyx-2]

Unfortunately, I never had any luck in attracting my type of girls.

[Xawyx-2]

Thank you for MHO

[Cal4576]

I've looked at a few of your posts and you seem to be fixated on things that can be socially percieved to elevate some people above others.
Rich, superior etc. Pride and vanity can drive people but they can also be a barrier to seeing what matters. Put aside your perception of the things that you think elevate him and the things you think you lack which would elevate you. They are just a perception, look at what you both are and need and how it brings you together

[jennifer_bloom]

So the reason I post about these elevated things is the the bible describes the yeast as mixing with the 3 measures of flower and the yeast, is the drive for excellence, even at the expense of equitable excellence, this drive for personalized and independent excellence, moves the entire throttle of dough upward, even if the majority of the dough is not at the same elevated level as the upper curser of the dough, and I do not claim superiority at any major level, just that my vision and the one I visualize is superior.

[jennifer_bloom]

So I deleted his words because he had a sexual pornography word in his name, but I will respond to his statement that my pursuit of personalized perception is unrealistic, and my response is that the book of Deuteronomy and Psalms both talk about how you can actualize religious perceptions that begin in the heavenly realms and only the heavenly realms. It is not a believe many atheists have unless you are talking psychological placebo or chemical responses to stress management, but as a religious person, I believe you can actualize things that are not real by putting your dreams into practical application and honourable behaviour, if you follow real morals and real religious insights.

[Cal4576]

What in his name was sexual. Please don't delete things on my comments

[jennifer_bloom]

He had the word butt in his name and I think the word fish as well, leading me to believe he came on this site for derogatory social purposes, that are deliberately used to target those users he finds objectionable.

[fishcake_buttie]

I already done with this site, once again my comments are removed, this time because I have "buttie" in my handle. You seem to be alright but the majority of others are quite clearly INSANE!

And seen as I won't be here tomorrow and I am sure you have heard it before... Your eyes are gorgeous and whomever you end up married to is one lucky bugger!

[fishcake_buttie]

A fishcake buttie is a fish and potatoe sandwich... I cannot believe that is all it takes for you to remove someone's VERY honest and HELPFUL opinion! Why are you even here?

[Cal4576]

Jennifer a buttie is a bread roll with a filling and a fishcake is a cake of fish and potato. His name is basically fish sandwiche

[Cal4576]

If he worries you why on earth are you talking to me? I mean look at my profile. I'm trans, I'm promiscuous, I love anal and oral

[jennifer_bloom]

How you behave is not for me to judge or punish, and I am also not saying you deserve anything bad and I am not suggesting I want bad things to happen to you either, but when a person on this site tries to impose their unscriptural ideas onto my reputation and personal behavioural dialogue or when somebody tries to impose foreign moral terms onto my willful self-disclosure, I will rebuttal their efforts with unbiased dismissal and functional rejection.

[fishcake_buttie]

I would like to say this to you in a PM as all of this is highly offensive to 'jennifer_bloom'... But if you are trans, as in was born with a penis and I met you in a bar and you took me home and I was drunk enough... I think I would look past the dong and just go with whatever you intend to do with me!

[Cal4576]

You deleted his post because his name on here is fishcake buttie, meaning fish sandwich. I actually am something they might reject. He didn't try to impose anything on you and if you ask questions you are actively inviting input outside of your own. If you are dismissing someone's opinion as its different to you own moral terms then it is biased dismissal

[Cal4576]

Ok fishcake, really not the place to be saying that and 'if I was drunk enough' is pretty rude

[fishcake_buttie]

If that is so then you shouldn't really be saying what you said to Jennifer, I wouldn't have said that otherwise. I was simply stating that if you are guy then I wouldn't be able to tell unless you proved it.

I was just having a similar convo with someone who said I posted porno when I only answered a question about transvestism and wasn't pornographic, only honest and using terms any adult should be comfortable with IF they frequent a site that has such questions... That person then suggested I should go to porno sites. So it's okay to tell people to do THAT of all things, but it is not okay to be frank an honest with a question openly talking about transvestism.

[fishcake_buttie]

Excuse me here... But why are you not deleting Cals' comments that obviously would be offensive to you, but you delete my comment because my handle means "Fish Sandwich" but just so happens to have Butt[ie] in it?

I haven't been here long but it seems there's a double standard about the users and moderators. Very VERY confusing... NONE of you would last 2 seconds talking to the people in my town, even if they were going out of their ways to be non-offensive.

[fishcake_buttie]

I just read your reply to Jennifer... "You deleted his post because his name on here is fishcake buttie, meaning fish sandwich. I actually am something they might reject. He didn't try to impose anything on you and if you ask questions you are actively inviting input outside of your own. If you are dismissing someone's opinion as its different to you own moral terms then it is biased dismissal ".

Agree with what you said and I wasn't trying to be offensive to either of you and I CLEARLY don't reject you, I even CLEARLY questioned my own sexuality based solely on your looks, I still think your eyes are gorgeous and the drunk thing meant that if I was sober and saw your genitals, my dinger would be halfway up my colon while I run away and you MUST have some idea why I would do that BUT if I was drunk af I would probably forget myself for a bit and worry about it the next morning. <- THIS IS HONESTY, this is someone saying EXACTLY what they think and feel and if I must sanitise my own thoughts for those seeking answers, then this platform is pointless because people will be deleting entire paragraphs of honesty and posting nonsense answers instead. We aren't in a thread about crochet and knitting here and it is other users being explicit here and I am simply being explicit and honest.

[Cal4576]

Fishcake I'm not a 'guy' I'm a transwoman. Talking about how you'd run unless you were drunk enough isn't complimenting someone. It's just being rude. It's saying you'd be repelled by me unless you were to drunk to know what you were doing

[fishcake_buttie]

No it is honesty and you were offended by it and YOU don't repel me. It would be absolutely shocking to go home with what I am seeing as a pretty woman to then see a penis between her legs. Have you never been really drunk to realise that our inhibitions virtually evaporate and how our actions are often not the same as when sober? I presume you do know. This here is why there is such a division between your group and ours. You call me rude for telling you what I really think, do you HONESTLY want people to lie to you or obfuscate the truth just to make you feel better, if so then we cannot see eye-to-eye. If people from the communities I frequent decided to murder people like you, I would be trying to protect you from them but you will NEVER ever convince me (and please keep reading after this sentence) you are a female BECAUSE OF YOUR GENITALS and guess what... I've been there you know, I really believed I was in the wrong body, I still feel the envy that women can create another life inside them and feed it with their breasts and still cry sometimes because I can't and I hold on tight to my soft side and nurturing side and accept it as a trait shared by men and women, I STILL hate it that in the womens sections of clothes shops, they have all of those items, some of them very interesting and then upstairs in the mens section it is a fifth of the size every single time and what do we get, Hawaiian style shirts being as interesting as it gets, endless jeans, slacks and officewear - I just CANNOT ignore the penis between my legs, I am male and don't conform to what is expected of me just because of my genitals, you get THAT, right? This may be offensive to you, you just said to Jennifer that this will happen if she puts herself out on platforms like this, so you already understand the score here. By your standards, you were rude to Jennifer, talking about anal and oral... You don't see that, no?

DOUBLE

STANDARDS

AND

HYPOCRISY!

[fishcake_buttie]

And to add... You would call people from my groups as "right wingers" when I myself have put myself at risk to stand in the middle of you both. They appreciate that I agree with their views about how certain things should be hidden from children, NOT rammed down their throats in school when they are at the most vulnerable stages of development. They also accept me because of my honesty about people from your groups, although they won't agree completely. I am the bridge between your side and their side and if you EVER want peace then we have to be frank with each other. I have no hatred for you or them but I identify the hatred on both sides, a hatred being manipulated by a single group who benefit from that hatred. You have to understand that I am NOT trying to be rude, I just aren't programmed to sanitise my expressions for the benefit of others, you shouldn't either, we should be true to ourselves no matter what we believe, that means speaking what comes to mind directly. I hope you realise what I mean later on.

You having a penis would be as shocking as if you had a vagina but were hiding four breasts under a blouse. Drunk I would be "Woah, four boobs!", sober I would be absolutely shocked and would lose all my will to do it, maybe I would get over it later on but with my inhibitions vastly lowered, that shock wouldn't be present, it would just be a bit weird and I would be thinking "Wtf am I doing?".

[Cal4576]

You have every right to be rude to me.
No guy would ever get home with me before discovering I was trans.
Yes I went to far with Jennifer and for that I apologise it was a knee jerk reaction that was actually in defense of you.
It was a choice on your part to tell me you'd run with your dinger halfway up your colon as you put it if sober. And that I'd just be a worry the next morning if you were drunk enough.
You could have just said not for you, which is what both amount to.
Can you guess how many guys I get telling me everyday that I pass well enough that they'd lower themselves to sleeping with me.
This whole conversation never needed to happen. You could have just said hi, asked about my day. Do you just tell strangers day to day if you'd sleep with them or not?
Anyone I sleep with knows I'm trans and what that means. They'd also know me well enough to know that I don't drink and would never sleep with a drunk person

[fishcake_buttie]

All people that are good, no matter what was done to them or what they do to or with themselves, as long as they aren't horrible, dangerous and malicious people - I shall defend to my death!

You can say ANYTHING you think of, directly from your brain and into mine via HONEST communication and I will never find it rude or offensive. I am a loving person and I would love you more BECAUSE YOU ARE HONEST WITH ME. That is what I like best in people, saying exactly what comes into their heads. I find it repulsive and would say "rude" if a person wasn't being honest with me, I value honesty more than almost anything, I value loving-kindness above all else. I NEVER set out to be rude, I have no malice, it is other people that take offense to my honesty and frankness and that is a "them problem".
YOU would not be a worry, my own actions while drunk would be, you a assuming things that I aren't saying.

So...

Cal says> I'm trans and like anal and oral!

Fishcake says> Hi how was your day?

In a thread about a person called Jennifer asking about attracting her type/our types...

That would make sense to you... YOU brought up oral and anal and you expect me to ask how you're doing?

I'm glad that you have high morals.

Next time, don't talk about oral and anal in a thread like this and keep it in whatever sexuality section exists here... Then you won't get these conversations, but I HOPE you can derive some value from this one.

[MJVillarama]

Sounds like he’s more into you than just looks, which is awesome. Personality often matters way more than “type” when it comes to real connections.

[Mbains66]

I’m bainzn been with my wife