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I'm apparently a "stressor" for my boyfriend?

Almost every time my boyfriend and me are out running errands or on an outing in public, he snaps at me or makes rude comments in an argumentative way. We could be talking about bread, and he'll introduce conflict by using aggressive tones and short words. The comments can range from really subtle, to just straight-up rude. When he says these things, I think, "Did I do something to annoy him?" I ask if he's okay, but he always says he's fine.

Example: at the store, I asked if he needed bread because he bought lunch meat. He said no, he prefers to eat the meat on its own. He usually likes sandwiches, so I asked, "Oh why is that?" The conversation was calm and casual. He replies in a sharp tone, "Because I like it, you got a problem with that?" I was taken aback and said, "Of course not, why would I have a problem with that?" He didn't respond, and I stayed quiet.

Later, I told him this wasn't okay for me. He agreed, but apparently when I asked him what he remembers saying, he thinks he said: "I just like it, is that okay?" In a MUCH nicer tone. I said NO, you did NOT say it like that.

Then he says, "well, there were stressors that led up to that comment." So I asked what were the stressors. They were: 1. I was running a little late (which I admitted to and apologized for) 2. I told him we should get black beans at another store because they were cheaper there, and 3. While we waited a few seconds for an old lady to move out of the way in the soup aisle, I pointed out some flowers and remarked how odd one of them was (it looked like a honeycomb)

He gets into these moods because the littlest things I do annoy him. I feel sick, because my bids for attention and connection while out in public are often a "stressor" for him. This isn't the first time he admitted that something I did caused him to become stressed. Problem is, the "thing" I'm doing is just... being me. It makes me want to just shut up and not say anything.

I'm apparently a "stressor" for my boyfriend?
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