Would you ever date someone who never complimented your looks?

Question

Like they always say others are hot but never even compliment you to say you are cute enough to them

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Yes, deeds matter words don't do and I have a mirror.
You can recognize on hand of body language of a person finds you attractive. Most simple sign is people stay totally frontal to you (chest to chest) and avoid to show their side or back. Crossed arms and legs without asking something is another sign but negative one. There are may more, just read a book about that.
Generally people who flatter a lot try always more to manipulate. If the say very often in your presence others are hot but they ostentatiously exclude you, they are very likely psychopaths who try to destroy your self confidence. Be careful with compliments, they are a weapon.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

That's a good question. You shouldn't date a guy who ONLY compliments you on your looks... that's not a lasting thing.

A guy who sees and compliments my thoughts and values... and looks at me like a guy who just found his oasis... doesn't need to compliment my looks. I can see he registers my looks.

A guy who always tells me how pretty i am and how nice my snug jeans are... is only out with me for one thing that I'm frankly unlikely to give him bc I'm holding out for the guy who sees ME and not just my looks.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

Maybe I’m just “different” in this area but I’ve never “needed” compliments in that sense but once in a while can be nice so i tend to treat my lady the same. The fact that she also doesn’t “need” to be served complements probably just makes us more compatible.

I don’t think it would really bother me that much if I never received compliments because every day she is choosing me , by being with me and assuming she shows me her love and feelings for me in all the other important ways then complements they can disappear… they are just words , it’s the action I’m really interested in 😇

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I want my partner to be physically attracted to me and words of affirmation are one of my main love languages. I don't think I could date someone who never said they found me attractive. It would likely make me feel insecure being in a relationship with them and make me assume they're only with me for personality.

HollyK21 · Answer

There’s usually more to it than that, and him never complimenting you is basically the cherry on top. Like if he’s telling you other women hot, yet you a never paid a single compliment, obviously it’ll make you feel insecure and that’s never ok.

Finchie40 · Answer

Probably not, my love language is touch and words of affirmation, so if she doesn’t come close to that, then she isn’t the girl for me

Bolt1104 · Answer

Honestly I don’t think I could. Everyone deserves to feel wanted and appreciated by the person they’re with. If they can call other people hot or cute but never say anything about their own partner’s attractiveness it sends the message that they don’t really see you that way. And it’s not just about looks for me either. I want someone who actually appreciates my values, my character and the way I think. Someone who sees me as smart kind and worth building something with not just someone to look at. I don’t need constant validation but I do need to feel desired and valued by the person I’m investing my heart into. A healthy relationship should make you feel secure appreciated and confident both inside and out. ❤️

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I had a “buddy” a number of years back who commented on a guy who was our server … “He’s totally my type.” were her words. A few days before Halloween we go to this corn maze and hay ride thing. The woman taking our tickets was, well, strikingly attractive and chatty. As we walk away I lean into my buddy and tell her, “now, she is my type.” Later we grab drinks and she proceeds to lay into me about my comment. I remind her she did the same a few weeks earlier. “I did do that, huh?” She shrinks into her chair apologizing. Later that night we transitioned from buddies to “f**k buddies” down by a local creek.

The first day we met she made a comment about my looks and not a word again till after that moment.

sage2021 · Answer

I can see why that would totally upset you.

I read most of the other opinions, but I hear what you're saying.

I believe that would hurt my feelings. Now if he just wasn't the type of guy who gives out compliments at all to anyone, then that would be okay.

But he does give out compliments, just not to you. Hmmm...🤔

Knowing me I would have to call him out on why he compliments other girls but not you. Put him on the spot about it and see what he says.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

Yes because I don't see it as a big deal. Looks don't matter THAT much in the end and you can't exactly choose how you look anyway.

And just because you don't say someone is beautiful it doesn't mean you don't think they're beautiful. Actions matter more than words.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

It’s best to accept your looks and not give a fuck about what men think. But that would make me sound hypocritical. Since I spend lavishly on myself with clothes, beauty products and spa clinics. So do the same girl. Don’t give a fuck about men not complimenting you, whenever you could take care of yourself.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I dislike when guys do that but usually it isn't cuz they aren't attracted to you.. they are usually just trying to keep you controlled and feeling less than them..
I have dated a guy and talked to a few guys like that..

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

I don’t need constant compliments, but I do appreciate someone who notices me and isn’t afraid to say it once in a while.  Connection feels warmer that way.

ariadneR · Answer

Been there. Done that. Not again. Granted I couldn't date someone who ONLY complimented my looks either. I have more to offer than looks, and if that's the only thing you see, or don't see then you're not worth my time.

FatherKnowsBest · Answer

I would take pains to compliment my date to give her that ego boost. We all need encouragement from time to time, so give her that satisfaction. How hard can that be? 🙂

EchoD · Answer

I had a girlfriend one time who’s love language was physical touch and quality time. She never really mentioned physical appearance but loved being close and together.

Tomislav7 · Answer

Women generally are repulsed by me, only times I thought a women found me attractive was when she would catch me checking out her butt then she would do things around me to draw my attention to her.

dislikesmath · Answer

I wouldn't mind I berly look in the mirror anyway, I would feel like if their trying to get me mad. wich I find hot

RxR0954 · Answer

Tbh no compliments during pre dating means there will be no relationship. I can’t deal with somebody like that

MJVillarama · Answer

Probably not. Compliments aren’t everything, but if they never notice or appreciate your looks, it can feel like a missing piece of connection.

AlJamie · Answer

I'm not attractive. That's just objectively true. If someone called me hot they'd be lying. So yeah.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

I couldn't tolerate that.  Could you @purplepoppy Welsh lilttle lady?

beenherebefore · Answer

I’ve never been in that situation so is hard to picture how it would be.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

I always had to ask my ex what she thought of the way I looked. I always told her how beautiful I thought she was but she never appreciated the compliments

Anonymous · Answer

I don't need a lot of praise, but I could easily envision being offended by the behavior listed.

zagor · Answer

Never complimenting my looks is fine. Constantly commenting on the looks of others not so much.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Yes maybe but it is nice to point out positive things and issues with each other.

Anonymous · Answer

How often do you think women compliment a man's looks? That is when the woman has GENUINE interest in him.😂 If a guy waits for that he'll be a pile of DUST before that happens.😂

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would. Girls need that reassurance much more than most guys do.

Anonymous · Answer

Considering how unattractive I am not much of a choice. Lol  I wouldn’t believe her if she did compliment me for real.

Anonymous · Answer

I only got 1 compliment from a woman in 20 years

Anonymous · Answer

No i would not. If they are into other go for it

exitseven · Answer

I know I am no prize looks wise so I'm used ot it.

loveslongnails · Answer

Why would you date them for very long?

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Nooo that means they’re not into me

351130827 · Answer

I've been looking at my feelings lately

shortster · Answer

Of course, my value isn't based on my looks.

DTH57 · Answer

Wouldn't be very happy...

Sebastian100 · Answer

Nope. That's a red flag.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if she's hot, yes I would.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I probably wouldn't even notice honestly

Eve996 · Answer

No i wouldn't

WhitneySnow · Answer

No..

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