Why did my “friend” add the guy I was interested in on social media when she never met him and I showed his profile to her?

[Novastarjessa]

I was talking with this guy and getting to know him. We connected on social media through a mutual friend. We were chatting about netting and he asked me to spend the weekend with him in New York, and a fall get away in the mountains a couple times. I wanted to meet him in person before I went away for a weekend. We even talked about him being my wedding date to a mural friends wedding. But then I showed his profile to someone I thought was a friend, she thought he was hott and added him on instagram. When I confronted, she took zero responsibility. Didn’t apologize or try to correct it. She then messages him. I asked him about it and she messaged him. He also didn’t offer to unfriend her or anything. Then I backed off and later see they added each other on Facebook. They were not respectful, this broke my trust. I backed away because I’m not going to fight over a guy - I’m worth more. But the friend betrayal hurts even more. This was a couple years ago and I saw she still had him as a friend. A true friend wouldn’t have done this. I stopped talking to both of them because I wasn’t sure if they were talking. Didn’t want to be in middle. I blocked both on my phone. I saw some old messages from him in my inbox. So I replied recently. I texted my friend and asked why she is still friends and never took responsibility and she blocked me. He just wrote me a week or so ago when I added him back on Facebook. But he didn’t reply again- I find it fishy because my friend (ex friend) probably said something to him. It just makes me mad she’s very narcissistic. I’m not wrong for the trust to be broken. I don’t go and add guys my friends have showed me that they’re interested in and talking to. That’s crossing boundaries.

[Desi_Butcher]

Honestly speaking it shows how pure hearted you are. Your feelings are so transparent for someone and someone you called your friend couldn't recognise that as a result ended up hurting you.
Truth is people these days are heedless. They don't spare a thought for anyone even if it's their closed ones. Hence, kind hearted people like u end up getting either sidelined or in worse cases, just isolated.
It doesn't take away anything from u though. You continue to be the beautiful person you are on the inside.

[Novastarjessa]

Wow! You could write a book! Thank you for your kind words. I was feeling bad about myself wondering if I deserved it. I would never do that to a friend, no. I also wished I weren’t as sweet and nice as I am and wanted to change my personality and I tried the sassy thing once but it just didn’t work for me. I don’t have to be sassy to be respected. I can stay kind but have boundaries and compliment them. Good boundaries and good byes.

[Desi_Butcher]

Ah thanks but I'm just being honest and sharing my opinions. Just because people do bad doesn't mean you have to stop being nice. The world needs more people like u.

[Novastarjessa]

♥️♥️♥️

[Desi_Butcher]

How's the weekend looking for you? Relaxing? Work?

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's some fake shit foreal, separation was the best choice and this is why I keep friends and interests separate, I never show my private life or love life with any friends, it's much easier keeping that separate.

[Novastarjessa]

Yeah none of my other friends have done that. I won’t ever do that again but just showed both true colors. I could be thankful that it showed me what the guy was like.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea exactly, see it as a dodged bullet, your eyes were opened by two worthless relationships and you saved a lot of time, I know it might feel somewhat disappointing and make you sad now but a while from now you'll really see the effects if you don't already

[Novastarjessa]

Thank you, very encouraging words.

[Alex-Snow]

Your friend is not really a friend if she did that. He also sounds like he is just into you for the sex by asking t spend a weekend with. I would block and forget both of them. Did your "friend" ever up having sex with the guy?

[Novastarjessa]

That’s what I was thinking. I’m not a hook up kind of girl but my former friend is so I’m sure they prob did

[Novastarjessa]

I would assume that they did but she would lie and deny I’m sure as she only cares about herself. This is like a 15 year friendship and there were other issues but this is the straw that broke the camels back.

[Alex-Snow]

I agree with you. I guess your friend and the stud guy deserve each other. I know you can do better. When you least expect it the right guy will enter your life. Until them make time for some solo fun if you know what I mean.

[Novastarjessa]

Thank you! 😊 ♥️

[beenherebefore]

Jealousy.

[Novastarjessa]

My mom said that

[DavyJ]

Probably has a spiteful vested interest in them.