How would you handle this situation? I'm trying to move on?

Question

My guy friend and I had been friends for 4+ years (our relationship became complicated) when he decided that he was going to date my friend after we had gotten close basically dating but he never asked me out and tried to make me seem like I was the one pursuing him and that he was not interested. TBH he let his insecurity get the best of him because he thought I was ignoring him and betrayed him with (one of our guy friends I was talking to and spending time with cause his parent died). Instead of being mature about the situation and communicate he decided that he was going to ignore me and basically find someone to date and build his ego. Honestly I feel like I dodged a bullet with him cause I was spending majority of my friendship with him trying to be everything he wanted me to be that I wasn't. He would constantly talk about girls when I was around him and his friends like what he wanted and it wasn't me. Im not the jealous type so i just always felt out of place and confused (there were many red flags) he would soft argue with me because he wanted someone he could control and I am my own person. It just hurts because 4 years basically went down the drain cause now we are strangers I'm not his second choice I made that clear. We still hang out in group settings but I am not the same with him and I make sure he feels it. I have no beef with his girlfriend we are legit friends she is innocent. He tried to make our friends think I was the one obsessed with him and pursuing him and that he was letting me down easily he moves away "I need a fresh start... something new" I'm sure he does after breaking my heart and making everyone think I was obsessed with him. Lowkey I feel like he is trying to get over me cause he was so obsessed with me and now that he has a girlfriend it would look weird for him to still want to be with me. I am so confused not only that I feel like I am owed an apology. How should I handle the situation? Advice since we still see each other.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Some people play games you really tried being his friends and…. If someone’s parent died you seem like a good person.

Look, some people have a complex about them. That they need to reject you before you reject them… That’s probably exactly how he felt so despite you never doing anything wrong. He tried making you jealous and doing all this weird stuff. To someone who isn’t mentally ill…. Finds weird and strange.

Seems like you cared about him and he acted like that. Don’t expect yourself to just simply…. Get over someone. Because it takes time. I wouldn’t put yourself back in that situation with him. But take time to let yourself grieve.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

It's time to face up to the fact that you're the one who wasted 4 years of your life on a guy who was not even your boyfriend

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

If you’re able to you should avoid being around him at all that way you’re both able to move on or at least cut down the interactions. I wouldn’t wait for an apology from him since you’re probably not going to get one and honestly who cares how he tries to portray you, the people around you should know both of your characters. He wasn’t a good fit for you. Hopefully you’ll learn what didn’t work with this guy and grow from it so that you end up with the right person and it’s a healthier relationship