Straight women who don't date, what would you want in a male?

[heruncommonsense]

[Summeroflove]

Well every woman is different people say all women are the same and this isn’t true. All women come from different backgrounds, make different choices, have different genetic lines, etc.

A lot of people don’t know what they want… They aren’t being dishonest they just don’t know until they find it and what people want can change and evolve.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

If I ever dated, I’d want a man with emotional clarity, someone who knows what he feels and doesn’t make me guess.

Kindness over charm.

Consistency over intensity.

A mind that’s steady, not scattered.

And someone who values respect as much as attraction.

I don’t need perfection, just a man who’s grown enough to handle honesty, communication, and real partnership.

The right person makes life feel lighter, not louder.

[blackeagle007]

We aren’t as emotional

[heruncommonsense]

@blackeagle007 You are. Everything you do is motivated by anger or horniness.

[blackeagle007]

I don’t have a crisis 24-7. Nor hold grudges unless someone seriously harmed me

[heruncommonsense]

@blackeagle007 you think you're a victim because you dont have children to keep as property and abuse

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I think both men and women feel emotions, just in different languages.

Some express it through silence, some through anger, some through control, and some through vulnerability.

But having feelings doesn’t make someone weak, denying them usually does.

I wasn’t talking about being dramatic.

I was talking about being aware of yourself enough to treat people well.

That applies to everyone, not just one gender.

[blackeagle007]

When did I say that?

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 Well, Brother, have a taste of the opposite of Trump. Feminist hellhole judging men for things they never did or even claimed. There is at least one thing to not like about Trump, but at least He is not this.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused I dunno what you mean? What does this have to do with him? Im not a fan of feminism one bit. I think its a reason why there’s a disconnect between men and women

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 Sorry if I went too political... It's just that no matter what Demo (n) crat You elect, they will do more of what You could observe from this girl. They will empower those crazy feminists even more. Therefore, the only way to stop it is to vote Trump and whoever MAGA picks once He retires, no matter on how many matters we might disagree with Trump or MAGA. They are the only ones holding more of whatever this is back.

[CalmUntilAbused]

I've seen You hating on Trump and MAGA a bit, while also having reasonable takes in this thread, that's what picqued my interest and made me bring Your attention to this thought.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused sorry but how Trump acts and he’s done things that’s despicable. Him being too much of kiss ass to Israel for one. Tariffs are another. Voting for him doesn’t make feminism go away. He can’t banish that movement

[blackeagle007]

Also, I have to stop holding myself back and start manning up. Many average joes have women in their lives. So it’s not impossible

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused I’m allowed to hate on Trump and maga. They are all scum. MAGA hates e style that isn’t them

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 I agree on the Israel part, and I am willing to debate You on the tariffs part (though I'd love to postpone such a debate for like a month, since I have some deadlines I have to work on until then).

I also do agree that voting for Trump does not make feminism go away on its own. Maybe in like 4 or 5 MAGA terms women would start dropping feminism en masse to reunite with men. One term or even two terms are not enough, especially if they are not consecutive. However, voting for Trump/MAGA at least staves feminism off. Once You elect any Demo (n) crat, there will be much more of it, fast. Trump will attempt to fight it back and this by itself will hold it off.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused I don’t love dems. But I’m only siding with them because of how I feel towards MAGA. I wish dems would straighten up don’t get me wrong.

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 The problem is Trump and MAGA do not want You dead just because You're a man (or for any other superficial reason - unless You are a Muslim, I guess, though not even this seems fully true - He was fine having Egypt as one of the mediators in the Palestine conflict, and Egypt is very much a Muslim country), the feminists who will be supported by the Demo (n) crats do. That's why I'm arguing He's at the very least the lesser evil.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused Well I’m my own guy. I’m against both MAGA and feminism. No one can make me ick one or the other. Sorry friend

[blackeagle007]

Pick

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 I get it. The fact still stands that one wants You dead (and it's not MAGA), the other doesn't. It's understandable to reject both.

The problem is, sometimes You have to pick one, like with the elections. And "not picking" means picking the winning side. Therefore, even if You are not picking Yourself, it is problematic if You criticize the side that does not want You dead publicly, potentially reducing their chances. The side that does want You dead will not spare You for criticizing their opponents.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused has the governor of my state ever threatened my life? No, dumbass. She’s a woman and a dem and she’s done nothing bad to me

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 She did not. However, some legislation she might have promoted/signed might have allowed feminists more freedom in hurting You. And if she has the support of the federal government, she might promote and sign some really anti-male legislation. It's not always a direct attack.

[blackeagle007]

Haven’t pick a side? You can’t me pick. There’s no stupid rule that says I have to pick. If dems were to kill me, then it’s murder. Ever heard of that charge?

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused I’ve yet to see any anti male legislation here. Try again

[CalmUntilAbused]

@blackeagle007 Well, if Charlie Kirk was assassinated under a Demo (n) crat admin, the culprit would have been protected and even if he was caught, the charges would be dropped per some excuse. You have seen the Demo (n) crats celebrating His death. That's the major difference. No matter how much it seems like it's the MAGA who love violence and death, they are actually the tame ones. If You got murdered by some crazy feminist under a Demo (n) crat regime, You would be reported as some "sexist, misoginistic pig" that was killed in self-defense by a sweet, innocent woman. That would be considered enough of an excuse to drop any charges against Your killer.

[blackeagle007]

@CalmUntilAbused gif your so Charlie Kirk obsessed. He’s a racist and very anti Israel. A total sellout. I’ve been to Cali, my sister lives there. There’s no anti man law. You MAGAs are conspiracy theorists. Just like vaccines don’t work. That is so dangerous to think like that. If you and I never had our vaccines as children, we wouldn’t be there. Your minister of health is an even bigger dipshit than Trump. He even looks like total shit, why would Trump pick him? It boggles the mind

[Bitter_Sweet94]

This thread wasn’t about Trump, MAGA, feminism, or politics.

It was about emotional maturity and how people relate to each other.

I’m not interested in fear based narratives, doomsday hypotheticals, or being pushed to “pick a side” to validate someone else’s worldview.

I can disagree with both extremes at the same time.

That doesn’t make me naive, it makes me independent.

If a simple statement about emotional awareness turns into accusations about genocide, politics, or who wants who “dead,” then the conversation has lost all grounding.

I’m here to talk about relationships and human behavior, not to be dragged into ideological warfare.

Let’s keep it there, or let it go.

[blackeagle007]

You’re right. That’s that’s main subject

[CalmUntilAbused]

@bitter_sweet94 Sorry to make a mess of Your thread, but the problem is, it was still kind of about the sexes relating to each other (and how to fix the current issues, which in my opinion lies in the MAGA for the sole reason of their opponents almost uniformly supporting the man-hating feminist ideology). You might have noticed I never attacked Your take, I simply summed up the man-hating, feminist comments of the Author of the question. For spiraling the conversation a bit out of control, I am sorry. However, feminists wanting men dead is very much an issue pertaining to men and women (not) relating to each other. Unfortunately, as Shoe0nHead would say, politics cares about us even if we do not care about it, and it very much seeps into our daily lives.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

I appreciate the apology.

I understand why you see politics as connected to how men and women relate.

I just choose not to frame human behavior through fear based or absolutist narratives.

When discussions shift into “who hates who” or “who wants who dead,” nuance gets lost, and real conversations about accountability, growth, and emotional maturity stop being possible.

I’m not here to debate ideologies or assign collective blame.

I’m here to talk about how individuals relate, communicate, and treat each other in real life.

If that’s not the conversation you’re interested in, that’s okay.

We can leave it here.

[Zionne]

Most want the same core things: a man who’s emotionally stable, communicates clearly, respects boundaries, and makes them feel safe. Add in reliability, kindness, a bit of confidence, and genuine effort — those traits matter way more than looks or money for women who are picky or cautious about dating.

[blackeagle007]

I hear otherwise

[Zack-Bann]

Confusing question
If they don’t date why would they want anything from a “male”?

[heruncommonsense]

That's why I said "What WOULD you want", not "What DO you want"

[Zack-Bann]

Oh.
So it’s what would you want if you were to decide to date.
Got it.

And I know what most women want when they date me.
So there’s definitely a pattern of an answer out there

[blackeagle007]

I can see why guys avoid you

[heruncommonsense]

@blackeagle007 males never turn down sex.

[blackeagle007]

Smart ones avoid you.

[heruncommonsense]

@blackeagle007 Yeah, you're right, and males never avoid women.

[blackeagle007]

You like trolling I see

[Anonymous]

Loyalty, respect, kindness, transparency, reliable, communication, non judgmental, easy to talk to about anything, being able to take accountability and admit and apologize if wrong and then actually change, humor and values that align with mine, attractive to me, mental and physical health, not afraid to commit, provide and protect mentality.

[Flower7]

For him to have no other women in his life outside of family.

[Anonymous]

Most of them want either rich guy, or extremely good looking guy. Average guys like me dont stand a chance.

[heruncommonsense]

This is bullshit. Males do not turn down sex. Literally every woman could date a male supermodel if she wanted to. I'm still a virgin because I know that males are nothing but sadists.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm still a virgin too, that proves that males do turn down sex, not all of us are horn-dogs.

Most women wouldn't be able to date male supermodel (especially if they are unattractive, fat, nerdy, or too old).

Men you are talking about are jerks.

[heruncommonsense]

If you are a male virgin, no one wants to have sex with you.

But even males who have sex claim to be "virgins". Males never tell the truth, do they?

Any woman could have any man.

All men are the same. I am aware that men are assholes.

[Opinion Owner]

No, the real reason is - All of my loves were unrequited.

Girls I like - Usually don't like me back...
Girls who like me - Are usually not my type...

On contrary, guys who are virgins usually claim they "had sex with many girls", because they think that being experienced will eventually attract some girl.
I would never do that because I want girls to know that I'm looking for a special girl, not just any girl.
Therefore - no, not all men are "the same" - I'm not desperate, nor a horn-dog, if I can't be with any of the girls I like, I'd rather stay single and a virgin.

[heruncommonsense]

You are obviously lying.
Anyways, the fact that males are such whores is part of the reason I don't date

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, it's 100% true.

[heruncommonsense]

Try making your lies a little less obvious.

[Opinion Owner]

Not lies, 100% true.

[heruncommonsense]

Schizo

[Opinion Owner]

Yes you are.

[SeekerOfTruth007]

I took a vow of celibacy. Sex is not worth the hassle.

[heruncommonsense]

Obvious lie. Males never turn down sex.

[SeekerOfTruth007]

There are lots of men who take vows of celibacy for one reason or another. Some do it because their religion requires them to do it to be a priest. Some do it because, like me, they realized women are not worth pursuing. Isaac Newton is believed to have died as a virgin, and I probably will too.

[heruncommonsense]

males are liars.

[AngryCarl2]

With all due respect, you don't want a partner, you want a therapist.

[heruncommonsense]

"A boyfriend who doesn't beat you is just a therapist"
Male moment.

[AngryCarl2]

No, you literally need a therapist.

[heruncommonsense]

"Please feel bad for not wanting to get lied to, cheated on, and battered"

[AngryCarl2]

I'm sorry you experienced such childhood trauma.

[Anonymous]

If they don't date then why would they want a man?

[heruncommonsense]

That's why I said "What WOULD you want", not "What DO you want"

[Ariesman81]

😂😂😂😂... too much

[Ariesman81]

https://youtu.be/IYStD5G3_xQ?si=D_DvioPCT9ZZlmpm

[heruncommonsense]

Yup. I want a male who is honest and gentle, but no male like that exists, which is why I've never dated and never will.

[Ariesman81]

Oh, I'm sure he does. He's probably just attracted to the fat skinny chick.

[Steve-the-lion]

Most women's expectations are too high.

[heruncommonsense]

I know. This is why I'm a virgin.

I want a male that is honest and gentle, but all males are dishonest and violent. The male "loneliness" (horniness) epidemic is self-inflicted. You deserve everything you've got coming.

[Simslover92]

Not me. Give me a guy with just a good personality and ok looks. I'm not hard to please.

[Steve-the-lion]

I'm only violent towards women who deserve it. If you behave yourself then I won't hit you.

[heruncommonsense]

Males unconditionally hate women. You all hit your girlfriends.

Males think that if their feelings are hurt, it's reasonable to batter a woman, and males are always triggered about something.

[heruncommonsense]

This is why women are opting out. Males are pieces of shit, and nothing but pieces of shit.

If a male is alive, he isn't "lonely" enough

[Steve-the-lion]

Actually, a lot of men are also walking away from modern women. Some women deserve to be battered. A lot of the time you bring it on yourselves.

[heruncommonsense]

Males never turn down sex. All males are mindless whores.
You males want to beat CHILDREN even more than you want to beat women.
You want to commit sadistic violence with impunity, and your excuse is "Females say things that hurt my feelings"
Shows you how histrionic and worthless males are. Males must be rendered powerless, and there is only one way to do that.

[Steve-the-lion]

There are plenty of women that abuse children. You are guilty of what you accuse men of. You are a crackpot.

[heruncommonsense]

This is obvious projection.
Anyway, I'm EIGHTEEN. I don't know how delusional you have to be to even think I have kids.

The male "loneliness" (horniness) epidemic is self-imposed. Males are parasites.

[Steve-the-lion]

If I get horny, I can jerk off to porn. If I want to fuck, I can just use my masculine energy to get a woman to comply. If you want to be single and sexless, I'm happy for you. I wish you all the best.

[heruncommonsense]

All males do is whine about women refusing to have sex.

[Steve-the-lion]

Not me. I know of plenty of women that love sex.

[heruncommonsense]

And yet you still bitch about your horniness epidemic. Goes to show how fucking bullshit "men's problems" are

[Steve-the-lion]

The only one bitching is you lol.

[heruncommonsense]

literally beats women, pretends to be level-headed.