How do I choose?

[Simslover92]

So the military guy texted me that he's coming home tomorrow. I'm supposed to see the other guy on Saturday but I'm pretty sure military guy is going to want to see me Saturday.

I've grown sort of a connection with the other guy while military guy was in basic training. But now that he's coming home, I'm not sure how I feel.

Who do I choose?

Military guy

The other guy

Neither

Updates

11 h

So I told military guy the truth. That I am talking to the other guy and will be seeing him. So I've made my choice. Thanks guys for the advice and votes. It really helped!

[HawkPerception]

I'm not anti-military or anything, but I feel like normal civilians should avoid dating military peeps because of how often they'll be away. I think military people should date people who also have jobs where they'll be away.

I personally wouldn't date someone like a flight attendant, military, or any job like that.

My suggestion is to go for the non-military guy.

[WhitneySnow]

Other guy

[FishHunter]

@WhitneySnow

She already agreed to date the other guy apparently. Poor dude. He lasted one day.

[WhitneySnow]

@FishHunter oh ok! That sucks. But not every guy can be the One.

[FishHunter]

@WhitneySnow Especially not for this poor woman it seems. But now she dating people she not even met, which doesn't even last over a day and fucking exes who don't want her, so I get why it is hard to find the one for her.

[WhitneySnow]

@Simslover92 good!

[Simslover92]

Thanks! @WhitneySnow

[AviatorTom]

See both of them... And then choose.

[sage2021]

I'm sorry but the other guy already has you wanting to send him naked pictures of you and you haven't even met him. He sure is slick isn't he? He can talk a woman who he's never met into sending the most precious parts of her - her body! He's frickin disgusting sis!!!
Military guy doesn't do stupid shit like that. He's not nasty like the other guy, who is a pig 🐷 by the way. Military 🪖 guy has some class!!
I'm for the military guy!
The other guy is just your run of the mill guy with no class or he wouldn't want a nude picture of you.
Have you lost your self-respect over a frickin stranger. He's not building you up, he's tearing you down, piece by piece. A guy is supposed to bring out the best in his girlfriend. And he's probably going to show your pictures to his friends to see what they say. BIG mistake on your part.

[Simslover92]

You're right. I do feel very wary about the other guy because of that but military guy isn't innocent either. He's asked for me to send him a dancing video of myself and he's also been very sexual with me so it's like should I even go for either?

[sage2021]

I just don't see why they can't at least wait until they meet you before sexual things get started?
I'd be scared! 😰 😳
Ya know, women need to be somewhat mysterious and not reveal herself too fast. You need to make them work for it. Don't just give them whatever they want just because they want it!!

Please 🥺 keep your self respect in tact while you still can.
For some reason it doesn't sound like they have any respect for you, doesn't it?
I guess you lost it with both of them by agreeing to their desires too fast.
We'll just have to wait and see what happens.
"Quiet 🤐 on the set! As sis's world turns."

[Simslover92]

I will sis. I will try to be keep my self respect in tact.

[sage2021]

Good for you! He needs to respect you to make it work.
If you give in too soon he might use it against you one day. It happens.

[Zack-Bann]

Ah yes the old “dear john letter”


Honestly double dipping is a headache and never worth it


Just chose


And stick to it


If you can’t handle your solider boy being away for stretches of time take the other one


My best friend is a sergeant and his girlfriend is loyal to a fault
The only way it works

[egan3141]

Why do you have to choose? You can't see one earlier in the day and the other later? You aren't so close you are talking about going exclusive right?

[Simslover92]

They both don't live close. They both live far away from me.

[FishHunter]

She's already "dating" someone she never met. She agreed to be his girlfriend. Now thinking about cheating before even meeting him

[Simslover92]

I'm not thinking about cheating. I'm going to make a choice. And it may be neither.

[FishHunter]

You're thinking about cheating. You said to the online dude you're dating and because another dude calls you up, and you're thinking about ditching your "online boyfriend". That is cheating.

[FishHunter]

Have fun with the cheating.

[egan3141]

"dating" doesn't mean exclusive. If you are just "dating" there is nothing wrong with dating multiple people. You have to specify you want to be exclusive or boyfriend/girlfriend, as in commit to one another, before you can cheat

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I agree with @FishHunter

Definitely cheating. What else is new nowadays... You should at least tell Internet guy you are considering going with military guy and tell military guy you've already decided to be Internet guy's girlfriend, better yet how about one guy at a time, not both at the same time

[Screenwriter]

Visit with both guys before you make a decision. You can weigh their pros and cons more rationally then. Good luck.

[Simslover92]

Thanks.

[SixFootSexy]

So you were sleeping with the other guy while the military guy was away but now that he's back you want to switch?

[Simslover92]

Lol no. I haven't even met either one of them yet.

[SixFootSexy]

@Simslover92
Everything I've heard about military folks is a red flag. I went on a date with 2 military women and they were all kinds of screwed up.

[Simslover92]

Yeah I'm aware which is part of the reason I'm choosing the other guy.

[lightbulb27]

if you already set a date, then go with that. you cannot go on Saturday, you have plans. another day is an option.

Learn to make decisions and have value and self esteem. don't be a tumbleweed...

[NathanDavis]

why choose?

you're just hanging out with them, right?

[Simslover92]

Right. But I'm more drawn to the other guy than the military guy.

[NathanDavis]

based on impressions? or have you met them both well enough yet

[Simslover92]

No I haven't met either yet. It's just based on conversations with both.

[Simslover92]

I meet the other guy though Saturday

[SoccerPlayer99]

I guess the question I would have before answering is were you seeing military guy before he left? And to what degree? Did you go on a bunch of dates before he left?

[Simslover92]

No the thing is I have never gone out with him. He just asked me out before he went off to basic training. That when he comes home to go out with him which I agreed to but now that I've met and sort of fallen for the other guy, I don't think I will or want to go out with military guy.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Well then it'd be best to break that off now. Tbh you were probably one of the people he was looking forward to seeing when he got home. Do it today so that you don't make things harder for him when he gets back. Leading him on will only make things hurt worse for him, especially if you decide to do it the day of.

[Simslover92]

Right. Thank you. I will.

[SoccerPlayer99]

To give you some insight, I'm former military. If I were in his shoes I wouldn't want to be strung along. Especially, given how precious my time was on leave. It'd be better for him NOT to form a bond with you. Military guys are teased relentlessly about this very scenario in boot.

[Simslover92]

I understand and I'm not going to do that to him. He deserves better than that.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Wait... you're already sending nudes to the non-military guy? What are you, like 15? So you choose to date, and ahead of the date, send nudes to the "bad boy" because he excites you? Instead, of choosing to just go on a date with the guy who is doing something with his life? You realize that companies seek out vets because of the training they receive in the military? A big chunk of them, who aren't grunts, end up making 6 figures after they retire from the military. And if you get a good one, they are loyal to a fault because they've seen the worst in people and know what the best looks like. I'm really confused as to what your priorities are in this situation? Are you looking for someone to build a life with or just someone who wants to use you and then discard you? Because you made it super easy for non-military guy to get what he wants from you which is clearly some ass and not your heart...

[Simslover92]

I didn't say I sent nudes to the other guy and he's not like that. I chose him because he wants something serious with me where as military guy last night texted me that he was horny so that sealed the deal with who I chose. Military guy has always been sexual with me and he talks mostly about that.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Interesting. Your other post and the comment down below muddies that a bit. But sure. Do what makes you happy or what gets you the most drama to post here...

[rebelsunshine]

You never know until you actually meet in person.

Personally, I would tell military guy you're busy this weekend and see the other guy on Saturday. Then decide on military guy.

[Iron_Man]

Dating two guys at once never turns out Good. There’s gonna be a problem very soon down the road and you’re gonna lose both of them

[Simslover92]

Then I need to choose now and I have made my decision. I just have to let the other know and let them down easy. It's going to be hard but I must do it.

[Iron_Man]

Yikes, I agree with you. It’s time to do it which one will you pick the military guy or the other one?

[Simslover92]

The other guy. He's a year younger than me vs the military guy who is 9 years younger than me. The other guy is looking to settle down while I doubt the military guy is right now since he's going to school and doesn't have a car. Beyond that I've talked more with the other guy in less than a month than I have all year with the military guy. So it's become obviously clear who I should choose.

[Iron_Man]

Yeah, you better pick the other guy it’s up to you not the military guy

[Simslover92]

Right. I am going to. I am going to let him know as soon as I can talk to him and let him down easy like I said before. I hate hurting people but this needs to be done.

[Iron_Man]

I completely agree. I wish you the best on this.

[Simslover92]

Thanks!

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[bowenw]

Follow your heart. If you not certain, try to see both on different nights if you can to help you decide who you have the strongest connection with.

[bowenw]

*you are

[OneViewpoint]

You got yourself into this situation trying to date 2 guys at once. Now get yourself out of this situation.

[Nikki1989]

See both. That is what wise people do. Never limit yourself to one man; it increases your chances of finding that right partner.

[FishHunter]

Bye bye military guy. You're clearly not cut to be seeing/dating someone who is gone for periods.

[FishHunter]

Also, everyone knows you'll be whining about that ex of yours in no time again. Throw both out.

[FishHunter]

Congrats for telling the military dude you were stinging him alone.
Congrats on not going on with the cheating. Points for that despite of you thinking about it. I feel for the online dude, he be going to be switched out like military dude. Little busy and you be thinking about the next to cheat with.

[Simslover92]

I'm not a cheater which is why I told military guy the truth. And as far as the other guy goes he has nothing to worry about. I'm not going to cheat on him ever. If I don't think we're compatible when we meet on Saturday then I'll just move on with no one. I'm not afraid to be alone.

[loveyouoak]

You should choose military guy. I'm sure military guy is cooler and more charismatic than the other guy.

[dudeinohio]

You already have a date planned. Keep it. Schedule a date with military guy for Sunday.

Then stick to the guy you like best.

[Anonymous]

Do the military guy while he's around and the other guy when he's away. Everyone's happy as long as you don't tell them.

[Xawyx-2]

Choose the one you like better, it's quite simple.

[KostasKouvalis]

Go out with one in the morning and the other one in the evening

[PeterLegg91]

See them both , your neither of themselves girlfriend

[abc3643]

How is it that you got yourself into this jam?

[Simslover92]

I have no idea. I messed up. I was feeling super lonely and went on a dating app plenty of fish just to find someone to talk to and I ended up talking to the other guy who was on plenty of fish and now I've sort of fallen for him. I must make a choice and I know who I'm going to choose. It's just going to be really hard to do it.

[Anonymous]

I dunno i got a feeling you'll see whoever you want regardless of how we answer here lol.

[purplepoppy]

Choose one and politely decline the other.

[exitseven]

Use your gut. It won't steer you wrong.

[TonyMetal___86]

Follow your heart and mind...

[Jeff51]

Decline both. Military guys are sick too

[Bklynbadboy12]

Look at you having choices

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm so proud of you

[Raydergman26]

Have the other guy as your backup

[spartan55]

Just do em both.

[Grond21]

Aren't you dating?

[ABC1x1x]

They both deserve better.