How fast should you get intimate with someone you just started dating?

[Pearl222]

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7 mo

Edit- how long should you wait before getting intimate if you have already made out

[Simslover92]

I don't think there's a specific time on when you get intimate with someone you just started dating. When it feels right for both of you, that's when you do it. But both must feel ready for it. Don't feel pressured to do it just because he is ready. It must feel right for both of you.

[WhitneySnow]

If you mean actual sex, wait a long time. Have it just be making out for a while. Players have no patience for this, but if the guy really likes you he’ll wait.

[HawkPerception]

It's whenever you're comfortable. I have nothing against making out or even sex on the first date. If anything it just shows me they were comfortable enough to be that intimate with me that soon, and that would make me feel great. We'd have to have a lot of chemistry though. Similar views, interests, sense of humor, goals align, both physically attracted, and find out we're pretty sexually compatible. We'd also need to have flowing communication

[DishLady]

It depends on how they make you feel and what you're comfortable with. Don't rush into anything if you're not ready.

[Finchie40]

Depends on the passion and chemistry and connection we have for each other , some girls’ I ended up having sex the same night we met
, so there really isn’t a time limit

[AviatorTom]

It's not a race. When you two are comfortable with each other and desire each other. That could be 15 minutes, days or months.

[Zack-Bann]

My best relationships began in a bedroom


Some even ended there


Not saying you should get naked as soon as you’re done introducing yourself of course
(Although I’ve seen women do that)


I think they are logical steps that come in one after another


If you’re making out already that means you enjoy his physical touch and vis versa


I don’t think you should put a timer on it just be honest with yourself about what you want


You’re not giving him sex
You’re sharing something you both can enjoy
That’s the only way it works

[Pearl222]

I guess you’re right, I’ve just never been so comfortable with someone so soon…maybe that’s why I’m second guessing myself. Till now, it feels right and he respects me; but I don’t want it to just be all about physical intimacy.

[Zack-Bann]

I understand
You’re worried all of it will go away once you guys have sex and he’ll turn into this passive guy who barely cares about you

Unfortunately that’s something you’ll never be able to anticipate for sure

All you can do is make sure you always do things for the right reasons

That way you won’t end up feeling used if things go bad

Do you desire him physically? Does your body react to his presence? Do you feel you’re holding yourself back from ripping his shirt off?
If the answer to these kinds of questions is yes then you’re doing it on your own terms

If you have doubts about that specifically don’t do it

[Pearl222]

Yes, I enjoy being around him and his physical touch, but I could also be perfectly happy just sitting beside him holding hands.
However when we do make out, things start to escalate pretty soon. Nothing feels uncomfortable or forced though.

Also, I’m not sure if he’s inviting me over to his house; if he is even looking for anything serious…. although he does make efforts outside the bedroom too and makes sure I’m always safe and comfortable, and he also said that he sees me for long term but I’m still a little confused.

[Zack-Bann]

For some reason you still have doubts
That much is clear

I don’t know what you’ve experienced in the past, if this has happened already and if so how many times

But you will need some more soul searching before you commit

If you rush into it now these doubts could cause you problems very soon

[loveslongnails]

That depends on how serious a relationship you want. If HE is serious, he won't push you. If YOU are serious, you won't give it up for a while, like several months. There certainly have been relationships where the couple had sex quickly and it lasted, but they are few and far between.

[Pearl222]

I agree, that’s just not something I’m comfortable with right now and he does not force me and is willing to wait.

[Screenwriter]

Tough decision. Humans desire sex. So this is the basic problem. But, having sex with someone you don't know well is never a great idea.

I think you have to spend time with a person, listen to what they say, watch how they act around you and toward you and see if you develop trust WITH that person.

AND you have to get to the point where you can discuss sexual practices that you want to have with each other and whether you want to be mutually tested for STDs before having sex, and what your birth control practices are.

THe START of dating doesn't seem to be the time where all of this can be unpacked and all parties feel comfortable.

[NathanDavis]

as soon or rather, till you're both ready for all of what that implies...

and that will go differently for everyone

[Curiousboy01]

Well there’s not really a time limit for that in my opinion. It’s just something you kinda feel out and you could even talk to them about it but it just needs to be a mutual thing

[slatyb]

Whenever you like assuming you are taking the usual precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy and STD transmission. But have sex only because you want to have sex, and enjoy it. Keep in mind that you can't trade sex for love or commitment. Most relationships don't last, whether or not the couple is intimate, so your choice is to have sex early knowing that it likely won't last, or to wait until the relationship is more established. There's no right answer, it's your choice.

[CountryWanderer]

For sex, personally I'd say once married. If you've already made out, getting more hot and heavy as you get more serious I'd say would be expected. Frankly, if you're already making out, some butt and boob squeezes from here on out would be expected as a minimum. Once/by the time you're serious, probably your bra comes off, too.

[Alex-Snow]

It depends on the chemistry and if both involved are ready for the next step. Sometimes at least for me it evolved into getting naked, handjobs/fingering then oral before sex. But a few times it went straight to sex. What have you noticed with your boyfriends?

[Nikki1989]

When it feels right. It could be a few days; it could be a few hours.

[Proudblondewoman]

You should wait until you're married to her intimate. I waited until marriage to get intimate with my husband and made it clear to him I wasn't going to get intimate until we were married.

[Paige90]

I have none a lot more people that waited until marriage that are divorced than people that had sex prior to getting married.

[CountryWanderer]

I did the same. We waited for marriage for sex. Got heated with making out, though, in the meantime.

[ArrowheadSW]

It is best to wait to get to know the person on a little better basis than just casual. For me it usually seems like it is about 2 months, although I've been intimate sexually with a new girlfriend in as little time as say, a week and a half.

[Chloe1808]

It all depends on the person, I've had relationships and not been intimate with someone and other relationships when I've got intimate on first date

[itsannalee]

It was in the first date with my husband, but we already knew to each other for months. I rejected him several times when he asked me for a date before.

[AgentG111]

As fast as possible! Find out if they are sexually compatible. Otherwise get out and move forward!

[Little_Bumblebee]

That's up to the couple involved.
When both are ready and want to.

There is no time period for when couples "should " have sex.

[snapkingmatt]

It all depends a bit on the character and intentions. However, if she's very cute and pretty, I wouldn't be afraid to give it to her that same night!

[OneViewpoint]

Depends on the 2 people and the mutual attraction. It's hard for anyone who doesn't know you to give meaningful advice. What you'll get is every opinion from horndogs to Jesus Freak prudes.

[Lliam]

Second or third date if you get along really well with each other. It depends on when you both feel comfortable.

[MJVillarama]

Move at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you. there’s no “right” timeline. This is what I learned fromJared Pysch Lawrence.

[bowenw]

There are no rules. Do what you think is best for the circumstances.

[whiskeyontherocks]

It always took me 2 months to get lad but I normally dated girls with “modest relationship standards”. Could call it higher morals but I think it just took girls longer to warm up to me I’m not that attractive and socially awkward.

[queenofcardio]

Thats a personal decision. Whatever feels right. There's no timeline

[Angelbabylips]

Hey, I don't think there is a particular time. Whatever you are comfortable with.

[jahaims]

Intimacy should wait until a healthy connection has been established

[YourExLover69]

If we already had our lip kissing then afterwards quickly. 😊

[Redbeardviking]

Depends on the connection and the importance of sexual compatability.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That depends on you and the person you seeing and how comfortable you are with him and the chemistry you to have

[msc545]

As soon as you feel comfortable doing it and they desire it.

[Anonymous]

10 years. If they're still interested after 10 years they're probably genuinely interested.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure, I never had a date, and I've never been intimate with anyone.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how quick either of u are ready for more at the time.

[Unycorn]

It is your choice...

When there is magic

[elizamichale1]

If i like him I would do it on first date

[exitseven]

As fast as I could manage.

[dudeinohio]

No later than third date.

[ABC1x1x]

You shouldn't get intimate until after marriage

[Raydergman26]

Wait until the first kiss

[hafinjun]

Maybe a few minutes?

[cavedweller1973]

Couple weeks