Who generally is expected to pay for the first day these days?

[MerryMaria]

My question is complicated for a complicated world. The rules of dating are not what they once were. Who usually pays for a first date these days? Do you split it? Does the woman pay if the woman does the asking (which does happen some). Does the man always pay as a traditionalist? Does the person who is in better financial shape pay, and how would you know that?

The Man Pays

Woman pays if she asks.

It is split.

Something else. Please explain.

[loveslongnails]

I don't care if the woman asks me out or if I ask her. If a accept the date, I'm going to pay. Why? Because I'm not some cheap mf who's going to think she just wants a free meal. And, I want to show her that the measly cost of a date doesn't mean a thing to me, even if it didn't turn out to be a great date.

My strong advice is that if a man asks YOU out on a date, and then expects you're going to pay your own way, walk away. In fact, if you can easily afford it, pay your share and when you're saying good-night/bye, give him his share back and tell him "I think you need this more than I do. Use it on your next date with someone else, since there won't be one with me".

[Alex-Snow]

I think it is expected for the guy to pay. But if the girls asks him out then maybe splitting is best

[Nikki1989]

Because we are living through a transition between “traditional” and “equalitarian” values, there is no longer one single rulebook. Sadly for many people, dating has become a series of “negotiated moments.” These are people who are generally walking red flags and should be avoided if possible.

[Subgurl]

Who ever extends the invitation should pay. You wouldn’t invite someone over to your house for dinner and expect them to bring their own food.
Same rules apply.

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[Subgurl]

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[Fireguy17]

now it might be something you have to discuss beforehand, but depending on the age, probably the guy just because.

[Anonymous]

There is literally no reason men should still be expected to pay for the first date other than female entitlement and sexism.

[bowenw]

Whoever did the inviting.

[sirderpsalot123]

Men.