Who should pay the bill on the first date?

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who should pay the bill on the first date?

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

The question from me -- Have I met her previously but not been on a date?

If this is the case , I invited her out , so I should pay , this may well be partly old fashioned , but I would always go to pay the bill , if she absolutely insisted and virtually forced the money onto me , I would take it as a sign that I didn't impress her too much , plus I'm always going to be older , so chances are I'm more equipped to pay.

So , not first date anymore , but one that I see comes and picks me up , I drink alcohol , she does not , so of course I always pay , she lives nearby. In Australia , again always much younger than me , so I'd meet them in the City for first time , and of course Id always pay , I'd look pretty silly if I didn't.

So , with all of the above in mind , I'm going to say the man pays , but I appreciate this is to some degree an outdated view.

DextroShade · Accepted Answer

Here the rules I would go by if I were dating as a single man: If she looks different than her picture as in fatter then the date is canceled If the date went well, I would want to see her again, and I believed she felt the same way then I am paying If I didn't want to see her again for whatever reason then I'm splitting it with her If she's on her phone the whole time or I get the impression it's a foodie call then I am sneaking out and leaving her with the entire bill

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

Depends on what someone is looking for. I won't even consider dating a guy who wants me to pay on the first date or suggests one of those cheap cafe dates. Only men who are generous and enjoy sharing catch my attention. The rest get no date at all. Once they win me over I may pay for the occasional date to show I genuinely like them. Why? Because, I enjoy more traditional men who provide and care for their partner more than their self.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

It depends. For me personally the guy should always offer, if he doesn’t that is a strike. If I don’t know if I like him or not, or if I am sure I don’t want to go on a second date I pay for myself. So 50/50. If I like him I might offend 50/50, but ultimately I’d rather he paid for our date. If someone pays for me I feel obligated to them and if I like them it’s fine, if I don’t like them I don’t want to feel that way

OlderAndWiser · Answer

In my age range, a guy always asks for the date, and the guy always pays for the date. I've never had a girl stay on her phone during the date, and never had a girl who I suspected agreed to the date only so she could get a free meal.

I have had a girl show up and her profile photos looked like they were taken 100 pounds ago. There was just no second date.

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

The person who sent the invite, otherwise I think it's best to pay 50/50. Although I've heard about people ordering lots of cocktails when the other person doesn't drink, but then they still want to pay halves lol, in that case, pay for your own drinks! 😆

electromagnetic · Answer

Everyone pays for their own coffee as a first date. It’s always been my thing that way I can run if need be. If the coffee date goes well, I don’t mind paying for the second

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

whoever asked the other person. How tacky is it to come up to me and say "Hey want to go to the theater and this expensive restaurant tomorrow?" then expect me to pay take you?

Say you're a gold digger without saying you're a gold digger.

ohmyguy · Answer

The guy should... but no first date should be expensive.. it can make u without breaking u..

I'd rather a rejection over false sense of security.. so I prefer to be passed on than to be lead on.

I'm sorry if u lead me on n fake your way through. Then what u ordered is payable by u.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was younger it was the man who paid. But now as things have changed significantly, I think she should contribute to the bill so he doesn’t feel as though she owes him. But at the same time she may not have money, so if he’s ok w that than he could foot the bill.

Guanfei · Answer

Both pay for themselves. That way, if it doesn't work out, no one feels cheated. And it's 2023, ladies, time to be the independent women you wanted to be.

Unit1 · Answer

Split the bill. Gold diggers ain't for me.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If the food is bad I think the restaurant should pay the bill on the first date.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Whoever planned it, or at least offer to do so in case your date wants some of their own independence to pay for their part

Billlewis · Answer

The guy, all day every day, no exceptions. Heck, I even try to get her to let me pay for her dates with the other guys she's dating.

Sasha0426 · Answer

I say you should split the bill in case the guy wants to use you for sex even after insisting he pays the whole bill. It’s the smartest choice. Never believe a guy who insists on paying the bill himself.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

split for whatever you consume UNLESS discussed and AGREED BEFOREHAND.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I prefer to pay for myself, not to create any impression of obligation.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Who invited?  Otherwise, split it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I vote for each of your best friends. That way, they are invested in the relationship...

DaisyJH · Answer

Whoever instigated the date, if it was mutual split the bill

LiamJHayden · Answer

The first meetup should cost so little that it should not matter, but normally whoever asks should at least offer.

genericname85 · Answer

each their own. cause everyones time is equally valuable and everyone has the same chances to generate their own income.

integrale77 · Answer

The way I see it when the subject comes up you want to say "how much do i owe" 9 times out of 10 he will probably say he'll pay but the guesture of offering to pay your part will be appreciated.

HouseMoat · Answer

He ALWAYS pays BUTTTTTTT, she should never EXPECT him to. To show that she doesn't, she should at least reach for it, and then he'll say something like "nope, I got it"

Fireguy17 · Answer

The old school way was who asked, or the man pays. I really don't care at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

The guy unless the girl has no intention of it leading to romance ever, then it should be Dutch.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

The inviter is responsible to pay. Although taking turns is just polite.

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

As you can see i am old fashion and say the guy should pay.

Vegasrunner · Answer

This is why I advise guys to have a $10 max 1st date budget.

Djaay · Answer

If this is a monetary issue off the bat... date canced

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Split but first dates should be cheap like coffee or maybe a few drinks at a bar.

Anonymous · Answer

It should be split. Sorry ladies feminism did this.

Apple1996 · Answer

THE MAN SHOULD ALWAYS PAY

aceleon · Answer

everone should pay for their own.

WhitneySnow · Answer

The one who asks the other person out

exitseven · Answer

Thr person that extended the invitation.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

Whoever did the asking out

Anonymous · Answer

I think it should be 50/50.

Wise4myage · Answer

The guy should in my opinion.

admles · Answer

Whomever asks the other one out.

zagor · Answer

Both should pay for what they ordered.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

As a guy I always pay

Anonymous · Answer

The one with the fattest pockets.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Split

Kelly6 · Answer

Both 50/50

peedy · Answer

In these days with these prices... the bank

Anonymous · Answer

Any date the guy should do 👀

Iron_Man · Answer

The guy

fuddly · Answer

The guy

nefsiacizane · Answer

I can males

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