How do you know if you've already met your soulmate?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

First, abandon the idea of a "soulmate." It sounds wonderfully romantic, but it creates expectations that this person is going to be PERFECT for you. A PERFECT companion does not exist. Conflict and disagreement will arise in any relationship. If you are expecting perfection, you are likely to run at the first sign of trouble, because that proves that this one is not perfect. . . but you may be running away from someone who is a very good match for you. And it also creates the idea that there is ONLY ONE soulmate out there and, when you meet him, you need to latch on and never let go.

Next, realize that people are on their best behavior when they begin a relationship. You will not see what's beneath the surface in a relationship until you have experienced a few disagreements. The test is not whether you experience conflicts, but how you handle them when they do arise. Is there name calling? Blaming? Explosive tempers? Throwing things? False police reports? Or was there a mature recognition that you needed a few moments apart to regain your composure, followed by a discussion that actually kept to the current disagreement instead if dredging up the past?

When you meet someone who is a good candidate, you will come to realize that as you spend time together. ANYBODY can have fun on a first date or on that first weekend getaway to the beach or Disneyworld. . . but do the two of you have fun when you go to the grocery store on Tuesday night? Is he eager to meet your family after three or four months of dating? Does he introduce you to his friends? Do you find yourself wondering, 'Why couldn't all the other guys be like this?'

When you meet a good prospect for a long term relationship, you won't need to ask about the signs of a good match. You'll come to that decision all by yourself and then start telling everyone all about it.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

There is no way that you can definitely tell. It is sort of a feeling you get when you decide you do not have to look anymore.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It is usually a “quiet” realization rather than a loud one. In other words, you just know. I didn't know what it was until I met my husband and then 6 years ago my girlfriend, so now I have two.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

My guess is it is a deep feeling of simpatico and love by BOTH parties. You like each other, love each other, have similar values and acceptable goals.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't believe in soulmates, but to answer the question... think of the word  SOUL mate. A soulmate is someone who should  RESONATE  with your soul. Everything about them should just feel... right, like they were the missing part of your life.

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 I believe I did, in my 20's, and really screwed that away, in my hedonistic pursuit of as many sexual adventures as possible. Sad to say, many men do the same stupid things. Then a good friend told me the truth:  we will never know if our life with that person we later regretted leaving, would have REALLY been the soulmate me imagined them to be.

Angelo75 · Answer

First, stop watching media and romantic movies.
You don't "find" a soulmate.
You just find someone who is ready to fight for the relationship no matter what.
Once you find that person, you too fight for the relationship. And then the two of you make compromises in order to "become" each others soulmates.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Can't say that I believe in Soulmates.. I believe that you bond with many people throughout life, that you are probably attracted to.. Sometimes you'll come across one than one person in life that you instantly connect with and are attracted to and instantly know that you want to keep this person around.. But ultimately it's up to us to make it work and not "destiny" or "fate"..

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Already? As in they are who you are seeing now? Because no past relationship could be that individual. Exes are never soulmates.

rebelsunshine · Answer

If you're so attuned to each other you can almost read each other's thoughts. For instance, you might go to call your partner and they pick up the phone before it even starts to ring.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you're a resident of Earth, your odds of meeting your true soulmate are about the same as being struck by lightning in two different locations while on your way to claiming your 250 million dollar winning lottery ticket.

Sunshinelips · Answer

When your meeting feels like it was meant to happen and orchestrated by God. Then when you’re with them it feels right, easy, comfortable, familiar.

sage2021 · Answer

Patrick John was my soulmate and I was his soulmate ❣️

live2dance25 · Answer

You see him or her as “the one” and nothing will stop that feeling or get in the way.

JHNS98 · Answer

I thought I had once, but I was too... passionate... which she didn't appreciate.

Shiprex · Answer

You HOPE you grow together without changing much apart from aging

msc545 · Answer

Usually, this happens a few months before you ultimately are served with divorce papers or worse.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't, sometimes you just think so... it happened to me a few times, each time, it was unrequited love.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no universal answer to this question. Only YOU can know if the man YOU are with is YOUR soulmate.

Likes2drive · Answer

You can usually feel it when you’re with them but they are hard to find

dudeinohio · Answer

Not sure. You'll have to be in lots of relationships and gain experience to really tell.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

When my relationship works and lasts, plus feeling happy

AviatorTom · Answer

Soulmate is a myth.

jutletmego · Answer

I think i didn't meet yet because i can't i feel it

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have found 2 soul mates one is named Paige90 and the other one is not on here but the second one name is Rose Begin

WhitneySnow · Answer

You’ll feel it in your heart

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't idealize that much...

Zionne · Answer

when it is God's perfect time

loveyouoak · Answer

I don't even know what a soulmate is.

Anonymous · Answer

It is impossible to know for sure.

ABC1x1x · Answer

There is no such thing.

Bloodparadise · Answer

You know it in your heart

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I'll tell you in private

Anonymous · Answer

That’s just BS.

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