If someone asked you to pick the spot for a first date, where would you go?

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Someone I’ve been talking to asked me to choose the spot for a first date, and now I’m overthinking it 😅 Do you go cozy and low-pressure, or fun and memorable? Curious what  you’d  pick.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Coffee is really the best place for a first date. If someone only wants to go somewhere expensive especially when you barely know one another…. It’s a red flag.

Number one no pressure. I want someone to feel comfortable and I want to feel comfortable. I don’t want to be stuck with someone or someone be stuck with me. Coffee…. Maybe coffee and a snack. Not bad. It’s easy to leave for both persons. If the date goes extremely well we can always talk longer or go for a walk as well as plan another date.

First dates are just getting to know one another it shouldn’t be pressured. You shouldn’t feel stuck with someone… I hate the feeling of being stuck or having to make a awkward exit. It’s bad for both people.

If someone is really interested in getting to know you….. they will go on simple dates. Someone just wanting expensive experiences or on the flip side only seeking sex. May go somewhere that’s too fancy. Now, some people are well intentioned. But. If someone asks to go somewhere high end I at least expect them to be able to pay their half. If they’re the ones that asked.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

If it's warm outside, I ask them if they wanna go on a hike. Maybe we'll bring a few sandwiches and a few beers or a bottle of wine (along with some water) for where we set up for a picnic.

And if it's too cold, I just ask if they wanna meet up for coffee, which technically means meet up at a cafe and get whatever they heck you feel for. No pressure.

Persephone02 · Accepted Answer

Personally for me I would choose an activity date just because I don't want there to be so much pressure on just the conversation and ending up being more of an interview kind of deal. I want us to actually have fun with each other while getting know one another better. Bowling, skating, or hiking would be an excellent choice.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

My first date with my SO was at an amusement park, wasn’t planned just happened. Personally I think activity dates are the best just because it has both of you interacting and it’s fun, coffee and walking is also good tho if you just want to test the waters/see how you feel about the person.

ohsheeT · Answer

Here is the thing about dating. Why pick one place im a very spontaneous person you can start out in a Cafe and work your way up to many things depending on the moment

for me I have never really liked the word date. Because then everything is kinda premeditated. I would rather just be real be me and what ever we are doing we are doing it together

AviatorTom · Answer

Just about every one of my first dates was at a restaurant, some more formal than others, depending on how much I wanted to impress her. 😎

Simslover92 · Answer

I love the beach so probably the beach if it was summer and I lived close to it.

DishLady · Answer

For a first date a little cafe or bistro and a walkabout.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Depends on the other person and the time of year. We have 4 seasons where I live and all of them are generally wet, LOL. Weather is a legitimate consideration. Also, is the other person an outdoorsy type or a delicate indoor prima donna? Somewhere quiet. So we can talk. Let's see if she can carry a conversation. Somewhere inexpensive. Not sure she's worth a huge investment up front. Let's see how materialistic she is. Somewhere interesting. Let's see if it stimulates her mind. Somewhere casual, no big effort required by either of us. Let's see if she can do casual with style.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It depends... There's a pier I used to go to a lot when I was a kid. You can either go to expensive restaurants or you could spend all day walking around and there's a secret spot under the Tappan Zee bridge which is beautiful. There's also a secret spot I know at the end of a street that leads to a really beautiful view at water level. You can sit on the rocks and your feet hand maybe 2 feet above the water.

It would make a good personality test because there's really nothing special about the restaurants. So honestly even though she would fail immediately for picking a boring dinner over an amazing adventure, at least I get to eat. 😂

Lilas · Answer

Coffee or a walk, is logical for me; great chance to talk, and get to know one another; dinner is too long in case I didn’t like the person I don’t want to be uncomfortable during dinner… unless I knew them before or enough !!
A nice spot is ideal for a second date, unless of course I previously knew him!

Movie, theatre, museums are ideal for later dates I feel like we don’t get to talk as much in order to know the person better !!!

RandomGirl42 · Answer

Oh, I'm so excited for you! I hope you have an awesome time! 😊

I personally get really self-conscious at restaurants and stuff since I always seem to somehow manage to dump food down my front or something similar or then I'm afraid I got something stuck between my teeth and just no one's telling me.

I'd prefer something really relaxed where you can just be yourself and not have to try to make impressions and all that.

miana · Answer

My partner wanted to do coffee for our first date and I wanted to do an escape room, one is talking to get to know each other, but the one is breaking the ice and doing something together, we ended up doing both, and a movie to end the night, really just depends on the type of person, and either way you'll enjoy it.

RavVid · Answer

A joint activity is good. Non competitive activity.

I've enjoyed taking girls to a boat house where I can row them up a river. It encapsulates 1/ coffee & devonshire tea 2/ scenic views 3/ joint activity.

It is usually a novel experience for them. Somewhat romantic, and a calm co-operative experience between you.

Partner dancing venues are good. It is the ultimate in joint non-competitive activity.

Phoenix98 · Answer

There is a particular coffee spot I like for that kind of stuff it's relaxing, jazzy and quiet, plenty of people perfect place for a first date and getting to know someone.

I don't do dinner for a first date unless I'm dating a friend or something, someone I've known for a long time. Because at that point I can kind of skip the coffee date getting to know you stage of things. So I'd probably do something a bit more intricate then just dinner.

MrChinaski · Answer

Coffee and a walk. Somewhere elevated with precarious safety: path along a a cliff edge, etc. Activate your sympathetic nervous system, adrenaline, heart rate, dopamine signals heighten focus, butterflies in the stomach. Et voila! You both think you are in love and have trapped yourself in a relationship that probably won't work out in the long term. That is the purpose of dating, after all, isn't it?

I'm in a mood this morning. Thanks for understanding.

Amy10223 · Answer

A cafe sounds nice. Even a walk is not necessary, unless you want to go to if you both click. This way, you can get to know one another a little bit and then if you wanted to, form a second date. A casual dinner also is nice, this way you can spend more time together.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Nighttime I always like wine in a wine bar, or a nice rooftop bar if the weather is good. Casual if it's coffee or something, it's got to be a vintage type coffee place, not a Starbucks or something where everyone is going to be working on their laptops.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I like activity dates.. something like an escape room would be fun cuz you have to talk a lot and work together..

snermcger · Answer

It depends on the girl. If she is a quiet, reserved girl I would say someplace scenic. You don't wanna overload her or overshadow her personality. Introverts are easily overshadowed in loud obnoxious environments.
If she is an extrovert then activities (Bowl, mini golf) where you can mix in playful conversation would be preferred as their minds can multitask and enjoy mass stimuli.

Hagar88 · Answer

My opinion that the first date should be a coffee shop, preferably a quiet one that you can both talk to. A walk in a park is good also or a bike ride.

I think Americans have forgotten how to date. They seem to think its all about an expensive meal, drinks in an exclusive restaurant but old school dates are the best like maybe simply getting ice cream or going to the fair. Line dancing is good too. Lazer tag, museums, rock wall climbing, them parks, car drive.

dragoblack · Answer

Honestly depends on who I'm going on a date with. I personally like activity dates, but coffee date is safer for both of us. Casual dining is usually 2nd date or continuation if the first is going well enough. Scenic is if we are both low on funds for a date and just want a picnic.
In terms of activity dates, i like crafting dates where we both make eachother gifts and talk about whatever.

LisaMariexoxo · Answer

Coffee and walk definitely. It can be during the day and there's no chemistry you're not obligated to sit through a whole dinner. If there is chemistry you can always set something up for another date.

realbiggrin · Answer

I think it would put a lady at ease a little if it were out in the public around other people. Walk through a day time jazz fest, painting or some other adult learning class. Something that provides a fun activity you do together.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

A casual dinner, with me getting black out drunk after... I think activity dates are terrible for a first date. The last thing you wanna do is compete against each other and it's distracting from having a conversation to get to know someone.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Coffee and a walk for most people, but it really depends on who you are dating.

uzumymw · Answer

For a first date definitely dinner, but a nice spot is good too if we've been chatting for a while

loveslongnails · Answer

Anguilla is great this time of year, but if that's not doable, get all dressed up and go to a swanky hotel bar and act like big shots.

FreyaRed · Answer

Bar with expensive drinks than a nightclub to see who knows him and to how he react to guys who know me. I don't like guys with gardener's dog paranoia.

slatyb · Answer

How long have you known them? If I'm dating someone I'm acquanted with, anything is fine except a noisy activity like bowling. Usually I will just invite them to dinner.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I was always totally okay with coffee and a walk, dinner and a movie, or something else low-cost and low pressure.

Tarifa · Answer

Memorable. I'd take her out for an early breakfast at the beach. Or at night on a clear hilltop watching the full moon or falling stars.

NessaEssa · Answer

Coffee and walk is perfect because I'd be to nervous to even eat. Walking would make me relax and not be to nervous.

beenherebefore · Answer

I've always been a fan of going to a nice restaurant. That was me and my Partner's first date.

queenofcardio · Answer

I love activity based first dates because I can get a better vibe of who they are.

msc545 · Answer

Someplace nice for dinner that was quiet and scenic.

Dargil · Answer

Coffee Date at Starbucks. Then, if she is interested, local sightseeing by car. I she doesn't want this. She's not the one.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Starbucks, in a secluded corner. It would probably take two sit down coffee dates to find out whether or not this woman interests me. A pretty face and nice tits are not enough.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Definitely the beach. Maybe Venice Beach or up by Ventura.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I could be sarcastic and say my bedroom. But kidding aside I like a hike or a walk around town and a cup of coffee to start.

YourExLover69 · Answer

First time would be coffee and walk. Second time would be dinner. Third date would be beach, park etc.

exitseven · Answer

I took her out in my little boat and we went fishing.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

D. or just a nice free walk and talk where the focus is based on getting to know each other initially.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Preferably a trail run.  Mountain biking is preferred

Staximus · Answer

Going on a hike with some dude you don't know is just stupid

AgentG111 · Answer

Easy and simple and if needed can walk away.

AydenHazor · Answer

I'd pick cozy and low pressure, somewhere that we can sit and chat and get to know one another for real

Alexalex92 · Answer

A hiking would be nice. I love hiking and cycling

lilBigPotato · Answer

Drink + walk at the beach.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Casual dinner... I use coffee professionally

Clyde_123 · Answer

Park near where I live.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

A sporting event, perhaps the rodeo.

robocop666 · Answer

Gloryhole restuarant.

Anonymous · Answer

I have no idea, I've never been on a date.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Pelican Hill

fish5505_87 · Answer

The Zoo!

MikeMcMansion · Answer

Sauna and gym

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