I'm 25 f, would I be wasting my time with a 21 year old guy?

[Lalalove11]

Be honest. I know guys tend to be attracted to younger women, right? The thing is he thought I was 21 because I look young. I told him I'm 25 , he doesn't seem to mind. I'm just not used to dating younger guys. What if when we are a bit older, I end up being too old for him? Like when he is 25 and I'm 29. Won't he want a 21 year old? Maybe I am overthinking. I just want honest opinions on what age I should go for.

[Master_Debator]

I mean it really depends on the guy. I remember when I was just barely 20 years old and had a 30-something girl... but I was just there for the pussy, I had zero plans to actually stay with her. If he's like me, then yeah you're wasting your time. You have to determine that though. Be real with yourself, does he value you and what you bring to the table or does he just enjoy the pussy? Like pay attention... is he only really having fun with you when you STFU and take your clothes off?

I mean your age gap isn't really all that much, so I have my doubts that he's just using you for some hot clam... but I'm not gonna rule that out either. I mean you're here for some reason asking about it, so I think you are at least having some moments that make you go, "hmmmm." at the very least. Something has you here asking this question is what I'm saying.

On another view... statistically because he's male, he'll stick with you unless there is you cheating or causing a mess in his life. Women are the ones that usually end a long term relationship. If you are decent looking and not packing on 100lbs just for the shits and giggles... if you bring more calm & peace than you do drama and 1 sided argument... shit nugga, I'd keep an older woman that did that.

At the end of the day though... I'm not a fly on the wall watching what you got going on. I'm just a retard on the internet that has been known to brag about how many hookers I've banged. I, and my fellow retards on the internet can't really give you a real answer. Best I can do is give you a line of questions to ask yourself and observations to see if you observe them too.

This retard, me, has maintained a relationship for over 20 years... I only bring this up because some of these other retards has yet to keep a relationship for over 6 months if they've even had one at all. I wouldn't take their advice as seriously as mine. I mean you wouldn't take weight loss advice from some 400lbs land whale that is activily gaining more weight right in front of you would you? Right? So put on your observation glasses and examine what you have through the lense of your own objective observations of what you have. It's time to stop asking us retards on the internet and access it for yourself... take it serious, because it's serious... more serious than a bunch of retards. This is your life... and how you spend it.

[Lalalove11]

I don't know if you'll read this cos I'm just a retarded stranger on the internet but I don't know yet cos he hasn't had my pussy. I am also interested in a long term relationship so I'm hoping he will be too. I'm teaching him piano and he finishes lessons in May. He is going to try get a job there so we I'll be coworkers and not have the teacher student dynamic. I really like him and I think I'm fairly decent looking. I'm told I am peaceful as well so hopefully that's not an issue. I think he likes me hopefully. He hasn't done or said anything other than one sexual type joke during our lesson. Other than that he seems decent.

[Master_Debator]

I'm reading... I'm a little perplexed that you're asking this and you two are not even bumping uglies, but I get it... I think. I think for long term, you're playing the game right, but nothing is really going on yet. You sure you're not overthinking something that might not even happen?

I mean you're trying to decide things about a thing you don't really have going on. Maybe take it one step at a time instead of overthinking it?

[Lalalove11]

Yes true, I get attached. He has shown signs of liking me. Other signs. Like asking if I was going out the night he was.. I don't know blushing, making a cheeky comment that I'll get to spend more time with him cos our classes will be longer after mid term. So I know he does like me but I guess it's not enough. It's just I can't do anything about it until May when I'm not teaching him. I don't know, I have a good feeling about him.. but maybe I'm a fool😫to get that attached

[Lalalove11]

Also I know It would be healthy for me to keep options open but I'm worried I'll find someone else which I know I stupid I guess I just really like him. Like I haven't even bothered dating other guys once 2024 although I took a break from that it was too draining.

[Lalalove11]

Last message sorry. I've been teaching him since September. He definitely wants to get a job there also.

[Master_Debator]

I mean yeah you're pretty attached, and i usually haven't had that kind of attachment applied to me unless I've at least had sex with the girl... usually. Some girls have gone off the deep end just for bullshit like I was willing to share a cigarette with her. So I'm going to tell you right now this is going to fail miserably if you make it cringe and try to "make" things happen.

So you're basically waiting until the teacher-student dynamic is out of the way, right? And then you're going to lay out the inventation? Pretty controlled if that's the case, it wouldn't scare off a normal dude unless he's timid.

All I can say is follow through with your plan, but be prepared if for it not panning out the way you think it's going to. I mean you've done a lot, and I mean a whole lot, of fantasy building on something that isn't even happening yet.

I mean honestly, I think you should masturbate... get it out of your system and then think about it realistically. You just seem worked up and horny. I mean you're building on so many "could happens" that you should just get the sexual energy out of your system and then look at the situation.

I'm basically telling you... this is good masturbation material, but it might not cut out to be the dream you've made it out to be. Expecially since you haven't even had sex with the guy, sucked his cock or anything. You're head is in the clouds about him... flick the bean about that and then think about it. You might even change your whole mind about the whole thing.

I mean to be blunt... I think you're just a really horny chick. And like the usual chick, you're overthinking it instead of just using it to get a good orgasim. I mean just look at how much dream making fantasy stuff you put into this already... rub one out already.

[Lalalove11]

I already have. I think the problem is I get too fixated on the same guy and I should try going on dates with other dudes or get an active hobby that makes me move more. Like dancing or something I don't know. And yeah I'm prepared for potential failure. It would hurt but I've been hurt much worse than that so it can't be that bad. It is a bit embarrassing though cos he's a lot calmer than me. Ugh 😅

[Master_Debator]

You should probe his thoughts, hint at or suggest what could happen after the lessons end. You know what I'm saying? Like, don't just fantasize about it since you seem to really want it... take some steps to make it happen.

Yes you could distract yourself with "other activities" , but that's equivlent to me drinking to avoid thinking about not doing leg day with the weights. Just don't go down that path. It will do nothing but complicate things.

But hell yeah... get something started. Like something for sure. Talk about what could happen after the lessons. I'm not even involved and I'm popping a boner about it by just thinking about it... sounds hawt to me. Pretty sure he'll go for it.

[Lalalove11]

It is hot.
Yeah it doesn't feel right to go out dating other guys right now cos I really like him. I'll try stay positive about it anyway and make some kind of move. I'm not a very direct person 😭 but I want to try flirting a bit. It's just hard cos I only see him during lessons for 30 minutes, but he always stays an extra 20 minutes if he can.
He joked that I'll get to spend more time with him because we will have longer lessons next week lol.

[Anonymous]

As long as it's all legal :)
And good for you for being able to have won the genetic lottery / good skincare or avoiding frying/baking in the sun 🌞 🌄
So many women and men ruin their skin to rubber 🤠 without hat, sunscreen, skin smart and maybe avoiding cooking out in the baking hot heat lol summer etc

Lucky you lady

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 I also have looked after my skin and for 31.5, I can still pass for even sometimes 24 or less

[Lalalove11]

Thank you yes I'm lucky I guess I still get ID'd a lot. We don't get much sun here in Ireland though haha. Well I'm teaching this guy piano so we aren't dating and I can't date him until lessons are over. He's also really trying to get a job there which would be September. Nothing real has happened yet. I'm a little too fixated on him maybe

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 can I ask though a personal question? One of your older opinions I was reading - is it true, i mean, maybe some women don't care as they walk along in a crowd or in a mall but - 🛍️🛒 👀 you mean women can usually tell even if a man ) or a woman) glances even briefly side eye or direct eye walking along or walking toward of checking out cleavages? Really? Wow. Who knew some women actually pick up on it - again this isn't a stare type person 🫣 👀 or glare.

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 stay classy lady and sunscreened 🧴🤠

[Lalalove11]

I'm hyper aware of it yes! My boss looks at my boobs a lot it's very annoying

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 oh that opinion was like a 1+y since posting claimed your GAG profile history yet okay. I'm sorry to hear that 🫣🫣👀.
Do you avoid tight or avoid low cut tops? It's what I'd do. Or as a woman, i'd just pack up and find another job. Always knowing the world is my oyster 🦪

[Lalalove11]

He's a nice boss though it's just weird. It's happened when I wore jumpers before but yeah I'll try cover it up more I don't know if it'll work. He's always really nice and especially quite old like late 60s so it's v creepy :') I noticed he mostly hires young pretty looking girls

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 you can always privately say or choose to say nothing at all ) lol Ronan Keating 🎵🎶 Irish) anyways - uh, are you very um, attractive? Aka pretty face and a tight body and - well gifted? Maybe it's just they're very umm prominent. Without sounding cringey myself. I mean hell - I saw one woman one time a stranger in her 20s walking with a surfer dude guy (curly blonde wavy hair) and I swear her turtle neck 🧣 🐢 was so tight as she and him were bobbing towards me 👢 🥾 bouncing along toward me - I'm glad I wore sunglasses. I half looked half avoided eye contact - they were bouncing intensely. And I don't mean his hair or her pony tail - crikey must've been DD

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 I've been haunted ever since by the couple lol. Never seen a slender couple be so well-endowed. The bouncing of the turtle neck surely couldn't have been no implants and no bra assist. Lol 😆🤣 shit to this day I'm like "how, why, and I'm ashamed to even look" - I really did turn my neck to my left as I thought holy hell these people are walking my way and I couldn't walk opposite

[Opinion Owner]

True story 🙃😅

[Lalalove11]

They are not that big 🤔but I'm not flat. I put up a pic of me there toucan kinda see them. Sunglasses good shout 🤣wish my boss did that

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 thank you. Liked and responded you look 20 and British. I see what you mean - umm, I don't know then hmm, maybe he just thinks you seem a pretty person or a doll-face somehow - shrug 🎎🪆 as they'd say. Anyways I do wish you well in

[Lalalove11]

Haha yeah maybe. It's still uncomfortable but sure. What can you do

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 true. Ah well - 😃 hopefully though on brighter notes 🎶, I hope you make your actual love interest happy someday, your guy who you may fancy. Hopefully you find your man if it's not him someday who makes you happy. And who of course appreciates you - and all of you, 😅👌😋
The world is your oyster, so enjoy life 🦪 as you do

[Opinion Owner]

@lalalove11 or you consider a sea change ⛵ new job perhaps. Take care & it's almost a new Lunar year 🐎 🐍

[Opinion Owner]

Cya 👋 no advice

[Abbycado]

Depends on the guy. He could be incredibly immature or the opposite.

[Lalalove11]

He seems fairly mature, I think.

[HollyK21]

I was just about to say this Abby lol. Mentally women are older than men and I feel like somehow it always shows eventually. Of course I don’t think this applies to every man under the Sun, and Lala could be dealing with someone more mature. I honestly wouldn’t even wanna risk it though. I just have zero patience lol.

[Abbycado]

@Lalalove11 If he seems mature, then I’d give it a shot.

@HollyK21 I have to admit. My boyfriend is 21 and mature. I’m the problem XD

[Lalalove11]

@HollyK21 I think I'll give him a chance. I really like him.. but maybe I should keep options open. We aren't actually dating yet. It's complicated/hard to explain. I'll spare you the details

[Abbycado]

Apparently on my own opinion, I’m not worth being addressed. Smh.

[HollyK21]

LOL Abby you crack me up 😂

[Lalalove11]

Shoot sorry 🤣 I think I will give it a shot. Give him time to show his colours

[Abbycado]

It’s okay, my opinions are rubbish (UK speak, woo!). I will resign myself to opinion coordinator. 🤔

[Lalalove11]

Haha no no they are good opinions I appreciate it thank you

[HollyK21]

Abby isn’t it bloody-rubbish? Bluh-e rubbish!😭💀

[Abbycado]

@HollyK21 do I dare post my vicarious of my English accent? 😭

[HollyK21]

DO IT lmao Grace the public with your accent 👏

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Abbycado some women may fancy a immature (yet not on cringey level 🎚️ levels) guy who's playful or at least not a boring bugger 😃👀 acting ones age is always key though too - within reason. Otherwise no wonder people's eyes wander for something better 🙃💕🫣🫣🫣

[NicholasofAustralia]

Perhaps two playful couples make a playful couple lol 🦦🦦😉

[NicholasofAustralia]

I mean two playful people make a playful couple 🦦😉🫣 of course, I never try to be on a level of "adults at Disney world - too much playful then, I'm 30s not still living my childhood lol" 🙃😅

[NicholasofAustralia]

Otter emojis lol 🦦 I'd rather racoon

[HollyK21]

Hey Nick, what makes you send so many comments without having a response? You’re being borderline inappropriate…

[NicholasofAustralia]

@HollyK21 you're completely right Holly and you know you're right. I'll be sure to reflect on this and stay in my lane appropriately. Thank you for calling this out, genuinely thank you 🙏☺️ sorry to you both and our good @Abbycado

[NicholasofAustralia]

And sorry to @Lalalove11

[HollyK21]

Nice of you Nick, take care.

[Avicenna]

Don't overthink it- if you like the guy, date him.

[Levin]

I think if I was your age I would chill out a bit.

If you vibe, you vibe.

Not all relationship has to be forever. You can have an amazing time for a few years and then move on.

As for that age gap, at that age, men don't care. They might even prefer older.

[Spencer10]

You are overthinking a bit The difference is not that significant. As you get older the difference will become even smaller. I have dated many women much older than myself and we have had no major issues.

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Lalalove11 listen to Spence 🥈 ☺️

[bowenw]

That is a relatively small age gap. If the two of you get along, there is no reason not to pursue it further.

[LiamS95]

I'm a 30 y. o. male and looking for a 25 y. o. female to date, interested?

[Lalalove11]

Yes but I think we live very far apart, I remember talking to you a long time ago actually.

[LiamS95]

Oh you're probably right, sorry I don't recall talking you before. However, if you'd like to chat until you find that close by date, I'm up for that.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Depends on the dude.

[Nice222]

No not wasting at all.

[zombiewoof]

Go for it

[Lalalove11]

I think I will. We aren't dating yet. I'm teaching him piano so I'll wait until lessons end. But he has shown interest

[zombiewoof]

You got this