Why do I suddenly keep thinking about my guy friend lately?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand what the hell is going on. I always told him I only liked him as a friend or hinted to him. I always chased after guys that were out of my league and they never paid any attention of me. I mean who was I kidding, what cute black brother is going to like a tall fat girl that’s over 200lbs? I’m a black girl that prefers black men or guys of color.
He always asked me to go to the dances with him or ask me out on dates but I refused. I went to the face with him twice but only as friends.

My crush that crushes on for four years was a jock. Good looking, so cute and seemed very friendly. He was a 9/10. I asked him to prom senior year but he just laughed at my face saying he wouldn’t go out with a fat retard (I’m autistic) if I was the last woman on earth.

My guy friend (also autistic) comforted me and asked me for the 6th time to go to prom and I ended up going with him AGAIN. He made sure I got home safe.
Every guy I’ve dated was a jerk, cheated on me and dates don’t last. I give up.

Anyways now we’re 29. I feel like everytime his name is mentioned, I get this feeling in my stomach and feeling weak. I don’t understand why I keep thinking about him lately and send my valentine card saying to the most beautiful girl. Send a dozen flowers to me and a poem he wrote and chocolates. That was sweet. My ex boyfriends never did that for me! I keep fighting that I only like him as a friend. A lot of people know he is in love with me. I refuse to believe it.

[ohsheeT]

First of all the guy that turned you down you really have to thank him. Because in that moment of time , he proved to you exactly who he is , that's who he is with everybody , so you got lucky there

I'm sorry that you had to go through that , but 1 day we'll all come back to him.\nBecause i'm sure you're not the first person that he has talked to that way

Okay. So with your friend, you're in a tricky position. Because your friends right now and let's say you guys did get together and let's say it didn't work out. Would you both be strong enough to remain friends? Or would one person get mad and not want to speak to the other person again?

That.\n's the bad thing about dating or going out with your friends and both become more than friends and if one person gets hurt , they're going to want to stop hanging out , so you're going to have to talk to yourself about that and talk to him about it because it goes both ways , but it's a starting point

You don't have to just jump into anything, remain friends? And through conversation, just ask more questions or see how he feels and just pull the whole thing. And if it feels right, maybe try it. But remember, if you do get together and you break up for some reason. Are you both strong enough to remain friends

[Anonymous]

You're realizing the reality. That no guy YOU consider quality is ever going to love you for what you are. So this is as close as you're ever going to get your emotional needs met.

[Asker]

What reality? Oh come on! I already have a crush at my college! I am interested in HIM. My best friend told me, “Girl be honest with yourself. You don’t really like your crush. You’re only crushing on him to cover up your feelings for your guy friend. Face is girl, you developed feelings for him. Just accept it. Make a move and take a chance in REAL love with a the man that loved you for YEARS! You finally realized what an amazing man he is. Just go for him.”
Ugh I can’t though. I don’t want him

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said, no guy you consider quality is ever going to love you.

[Asker]

What if they do? I’m allowed to date whoever I want too. I don’t have to date my guy friend. People keep asking me what’s the deal with my guy friend and I and said we must have a very special connection. I really do like my crush. I do! Really! My bestie said I need to face reality, drop this guy I’m “crushing” on and just date my friend. He loves me a hell of a lot more than my crummy ex boyfriends. They never loved me like he does. He made a great boyfriend even though he isn’t my type (good looking/lean and he’s chubby). He always stares at you with those dreamy eyes and he always tries to sit next to you during childhood and it’s amazing he still in contact with you. Stop PUSHING HIM AWAY! He Is in love with you and you like him. Live with it!
HE isn't GOING ANYWHERE

[Opinion Owner]

What I'd they don't? Because they won't!! And I'm glad you don't want to date your friend. Because at some point he's going to wise up and realize he should aim a little higher. And it going to save him the break up. Don't date your friend. He really does deserve someone better.

[Asker]

And I agree with you! I want him to be happy. I rather break his heart by being honest than lead him on. He deserves better.

[Abbycado]

You want us to tell you why you think about something? Right…..

@HollyK21

[Asker]

Well duh

[HollyK21]

This woman is so utterly redundant. Every week we have to hear about this guy friend😩

[Asker]

@HollyK21 oh fuck off!

[HollyK21]

Cope harder weirdo.

[Asker]

@HollyK21 that’s not funny. That comeback was LAME. Besides I told him I don’t want to be his girlfriend

[Abbycado]

Then why are you fucking posting about it?

[HollyK21]

Couldn’t be any lamer than your miserable existence or how you treat your “friend”. You get on here and bitch several times a week about someone that YOU won’t get rid of. Talk about literally not wanting to help yourself.

[Asker]

Because I need second opinions. Everyone keeps saying he is in love with me and I refuse to accept it. I can’t stop thinking about him and the guy I have a crush on I barely think about.

[Abbycado]

Muted the idiot.

[Asker]

Whatever bitch bye

[HollyK21]

Because she enjoys the drama Abby, that’s the only excuse. She doesn’t want second opinions she wants attention.

[Abbycado]

It is this user. She hit the wrong button and followed first before blocking XD

https://www.girlsaskguys.com/user/amazonchick171

[Abbycado]

What a moron XD

[HollyK21]

LMAOOO I KNEW IT WAS HER! I already had her blocked and called her out back when she had the nerve to post with her actual account showing. I guess she got tired of everyone knowing who she was and calling her out, so now she goes anon. What a sad situation.

[HollyK21]

Amazon chick my god girl it’s been like 2 years of this! I’m cracking up😂😂

[Abbycado]

@HollyK21 that’s epic incompetence XD I love it. Made my night.

[HollyK21]

Absolutely made my night lol see ya on the next one 😂💛

[StephanieChick111]

It sounds like you've got a good guy. Let him love you.

[Asker]

He is allowed to love me but I don’t feel the same way and I told him that. I’m sick of people saying give him a chance. I have a crush in college but my best friend said “Froget the crush and just go for the guy friend! He’s out of your league! Your guy friend isn’t going anywhere. Stop pushing him away and take a chance in having real love. He may not be good looking or the type you want be he’s a very sweet guy and many women wish they had that. Stop putting him the friend zone. I think you like him too. Let him be the man you deserve.”
People don’t understand I don’t have the same feelings! I don’t want him. I want to be married to a BLACK man!

[StephanieChick111]

Oh okay. It sounded like you liked him in the previous post.

[Asker]

Not anymore.

[Staximus]

Can you stop spamming this site with the same shit over and over?

[Shy-boy53]

Perhaps because he’s safe and dependable maybe

[Asker]

Yeah okay fine but it doesn’t mean I want him.

[Shy-boy53]

Oh no , definitely not saying that. You know how you feel

[Asker]

Okay then

[beefcakebradybatson]

You want his body?

[Asker]

Hell no! He’s no offense, chubby. Well he lost weight but still. I don’t WANT HIM

[beefcakebradybatson]

HOW "chubby" was ol' boy?

[Asker]

Hot obese but he is overweight why?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Just wondering.

[Asker]

Okay. He has the right to have feelings but I have the right to not want to date him! Even my dad said, “You better give this boy a chance! He is CRAZY about you! He LOVES you. He’s so much better than your loser exes. Take a chance and be grateful he stayed in contact with you.”

[beefcakebradybatson]

Your dad's a boy, and we lads of any age want to see each other get a lady friend.