I have a boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about another guy?

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I've been dating a guy for about 10 months, and I like him a lot. I'm comfortable around him, we spend a lot of time together, and I like and know his family well. He's really in love with me, however, I have a giant crush on a coworker, and find myself thinking about other men as well. I don't know if anything will come of the coworker, but I do find myself wishing I had a chance with him.
I'm not sure if I'm just attracted to the allure of that new relationship feel, if I really don't find myself staying with my current boyfriend, or if I'm just not ready to commit to anything right now?
I like my boyfriend a lot, but I always try to think if I'll be happier in another relationship. I always think maybe I'll find someone more like me, or someone that better fits my "type". I'm not sure what to do or if I'll continually find myself in this situation because I'm so easily attracted to guys who show any interest in me. I'm not ready to be alone and without a man in my life, but I don't know if it's wrong of me to keep this boyfriend around. I did mention to him having a crush on a coworker to be truthful with him, but I have to constantly reassure him that I love him. I do love him, but I can't lie that if this coworker came to me initiating something, I probably would push any thought of my boyfriend to the side. However, whenever I'm with my boyfriend, I'm usually happy and at ease. I appreciate him on many levels, but I'm just not sure what to do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Don't compromise or settle for something less. It will not last very long. You're doing injustice to your boyfriend too. Spare him much pain and get the fuck out of his life!!

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

You're really confused. I'd suggest changing jobs. It's OK to think about having sex with other guys, but not actually being willing to do it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hope he cheats on u

ImagineSketchy · Answer

I suppose it means that lust speaks louder than your will to fully commit. You're only human, and eventually you will find other people attractive, and if that's the case, you may have to leave whom you're with to settle yourself. Lust is a powerful factor in why a lot of relationships don't work. The love that was once there will disappear and you will just be wanting something else just because of appearances.

magic30 · Answer

It's not uncommon to see someone and have a little crush on them. Hell it happens all the time. However it's easy to be flirtatious. Be honest with yourself. Do you see a future with your current boyfriend? If so don't cheat !! If you don't then move on and be up front with you boyfriend. To be cheated on is a very devastating blow to anybody. Again be honest with yourself and you boyfriend. Good Luck.

SirRexington · Answer

This is not healthy. You need to decide what these thoughts are for. If they are serious you need to leave him out of respect for him as you are not good for him.

If it is just fantasy, then try to make it less appealing to yourself. Whatever you do, don't cheat.

butvolca · Answer

Hey girl,
Don't worry. You're a human being and it's common for us to get attracted to other people even after getting in a relationship.
I suggest you to ignore these thoughts and be happy with your boyfriend.
Even if you leave your boyfriend for the one who is attractive to you now, after some time your mind could distract you with some other guy. So just be strong enough to say no to yourself and be happy. 😄

madhatters4 · Answer

it sounds to me like you shouldn't be with your boyfriend. it sounds to me like your mind is always wandering which suggests that you aren't truly satisfied or fulfilled in your current relationship

That1tallguy · Answer

If you would leave your boyfriend for this other guy then just leave now. Get it over with

readywriter · Answer

If you are just dating and only thinking there is no reason to stop. But you need to start refining your taste and goals for long term partners.

Eligos · Answer

Do what your heart tells you, crush is sometimes coming from desires, but your heart knows better than your desires

ubansal27 · Answer

Sleep With Your Co Worker, We Have A Tendency To Not Satisfy Until We Have Achieved It So After That You Would Have Satisfaction And After That You Could Start New With You Boyfriend.

rskinney · Answer

It sounds like you're not ready to commit. Be honest with him as soon as you can.

rcg88 · Answer

I think you have to understand where the feeling is coming from : the allure of a new relationship or the lack of attraction to the current guy.

bigthrobber · Answer

Sounds to me like you haven't dated much, and if you aren't sure about him then you should listen to your heart. I'm not saying go slut it up but you need to explore men and more importantly yourself

LegateLanius · Answer

Be strong to resist your urges. We all have been there where we have had infatuation over someone.

Krumpir · Answer

Poor your boyfriend with you. He loves you and you dream of other guys. Disgusting!

Anonymous · Answer

How would you feel if you're boyfriend asked the same question and told you he had a crush on a girl?

jkamen3193 · Answer

This same thing happened to me with my ex girlfriend. PLEASE dump your boyfriend. It is so much worse for him now.

SumitKumbhojkar · Answer

please stop thinking about another guy please respect his love...

Anonymous · Answer

which proves guys and girls can't be "just friends", it just doesn't WORK

loveyou34 · Answer

Cheaters gonna cheat.

Joe12 · Answer

You only leave once, get with the coworker

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