Why am I worried about my guy friend?

[Ofoceans]

I don't know why but I'm worried about my guy friend. He tells me he's not that close with his sisters and he even fights with them a lot, he also gets mad at his mother sometimes for tolerating his sister's vices so he ends up preferring to not go home to his hometown. He lives currently in a city which is two hour flight from mine but i do visit him from time to time.

Aside from his family situation, he also has no lovelife at all because he has commitment issues and so I'm left wondering how I can keep him company while still staying in my city. I have this feeling of wanting to hire someone just to check on him but ofcourse I did not tell him.

I dreamt of accidentally bringing his watch and when I found it, I brought it to where he was staying and he was sleeping at that time so he needs to be awakened and he did wake up and I said here is your watch.

Then, when I met him recently, we talked about business opportunities and he was excited to join me. He said he just wants someone to save him implying that it's me who can.

Whenever he talks as well of his colleagues at work, he says yes he has some friends but not as close as us because we were both bonded by tragedy or difficult times. He was there when a family member of mine passed. Since then, every two months I go to his city. But, I know sooner or later I should stop this but I'm just too worried for my guy friend and at the same I think I'm not healed yet.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, it sounds like you really care about this friend a lot. It's understandable to feel worried when they're going through family struggles and seem lonely. But you also have to take care of your own well-being.

A few thoughts:

- Keep being a supportive friend from afar. Check in regularly but don't feel you need to personally save him - that's not your responsibility.

- Suggest therapy/counseling if he seems really down. A professional can help him work through relationship issues.

- Invite him to visit you sometimes too for a change of scenery. Help distract from problems at home.

- Share your own feelings honestly - that you care but are working on healing too. Healthy boundaries are important.

- Suggest mutual hobbies you can share from different cities like online gaming, a book club etc.

- Have faith he'll find his way as long as he has people in his corner. Continue being that person from a place of caring, not codependency.

It's good you're looking out for him. Just make sure to tend to your own emotional needs too. Communication and balanced support is key here. You've got this!

[DarkLegacy]

Not really as siblings fight all the time. us boys of the family are always fighting with our sister. They can be annoying at times