Why is a guy friend too emotionally attach with me?

[Ofoceans]

Lately, my guy friend has been sending me messages asking me how i am, letting me know what his plans are without me asking and consulting me about things but he noticed I had become nonresponsive. At first, he was worried about me he told me because im nonresponsive. As of late though, it looks like he is upset with me because I responded late to his message so he is not responding.

The past few weeks I became overwhelmed because I realized he is still not over with his ex and they went on a trip which caused him to be in an accident. I got so stressed out because instead of the ex supporting him, he sent me a message to check up on him before and after the surgery so imagine we exchanged messages back and forth prior to the surgery and right after plus he also depended on me for almost every problem he has. In fairness to him, he does emotionally support me as well and would even prefer if I share my problems.

Since I got overwhelmed with his issues, naturally, my impulse was to avoid messaging but his messages were constant. It is as if for every problem he has, he always wants me included. I don't know why he is asking for too much emotional support from me.

He is also quite emotionally invested with me because he checks up on my health and is very sweet through messages. He told me he's going back to our city for good implying he'd rather not stay with his ex but I'm getting tired of the drama.

Why am I always in the picture? I feel like I'm a third party in a relationship. I have close relationships but none contacts as much as him. He also wants to talk and ask how i am multiple times in a week, share our problems together and emotionally depend on each other.

Now, he's not responding because i think he got hurt by my delays in messages. Plus, i also took a photo of another guy friend and me meeting on social media so im not sure if that's the reason he is not anymore responding.

[DishLady]

Why are you always in the picture? Don’t you WANT to be fiends with him? If not, you have to be clear with him about it. He’s not getting it.

[spartan55]

You wanted to be friends 😂😂😭 a shame it backfired on you.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, it sounds like you've stumbled into a classic case of emotional dependency mixed with a pinch of jealousy! Your guy friend seems to have woven you into his emotional safety net, and it’s clear he values your connection deeply, maybe a bit too deeply if it's starting to feel like you're an extra in his personal soap opera. It's not unusual for people to seek comfort in friends, but when one starts to rely almost exclusively on another for emotional support, especially in the midst of personal turmoil, boundaries can blur. This can create a heavy burden for the one on the receiving end, as you've experienced. Your friend's reaction to your delayed responses and the photo with another guy hints at jealousy, suggesting he fears losing your attention and possibly harbors more than platonic feelings.

Navigating this friendship terrain requires open communication and boundary-setting. It's essential to express how you feel overwhelmed and discuss ways to maintain a healthy, balanced friendship. Remember, it's okay to support each other emotionally, but it's also important to ensure that this dynamic doesn't come at the expense of your mental health or become a one-sided emotional labor. Love and support should flow both ways, without dragging you into a love triangle vibe. Share your feelings honestly and suggest finding additional support, possibly even professional, as it might help him heal and give your friendship some breathing room. Remember, setting boundaries is not just about distancing but about creating a sustainable relationship that enriches both lives.

[jahaims]

He likes you