Should I be worried my girlfriend has a lot of guy friends?

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My girlfriend and I have a good relationship going on but she has WAY too many guy friends. I'm a guy and in my head all these guys wanna do is get on my girls pants. I'm pretty sure a lot of females will disagree with me but I'm sure most guys willl agree.

I hate the fact that she hangs out with guys all the time. I absolutely HATE it. She has tried introducing me to a few of them. some of them are decent dudes but most of them are just douche bags. there's a reason most of them dislike me , they like my girlfriend and they know I know it then they play the texting her a lot game.

Should I be worried about this because guy friends make me ver uncomfortable I don't know why girls even keep them around in a relationship when No guy I know talks to a girl just to be friends

teinte31 · Accepted Answer

First off, don't listen to the female answers. They don't think like a man. Trust her and all that is crap, many men and women have trusted and got burned. Personally I'd be a little worried if she has more guy friends than gal friends.

Can I ask is she really good looking, or girl next door? Not to be mean. I just ask because my girl is a knock out, much prettier than any girl I've dated before. She gets looks from guys whenever we go out and that wears on me at times. But I get looks from women too so it balances out lol.

But kidding aside, I don't like guys undressing her with their eyes. It bothers me. The only thing I can do on my end is treat her better than any of those guys ever could. I also "take care of business at home" so to speak, so she stays satisfied if she ever has a doubt.

I also say to myself, "Yeah she's with me boys... I'm the man..." It's the only thing I can do to stay confident and sane really. Otherwise you'll drive yourself nuts man, that's the attitude you have to have with these d-bags, and you have to own it, or you have to move on because you will go insane.

If she is spending more time with these d-bags than you, tell her how you feel, that it bothers you, and if she gets defensive then she really doesn't love you. And be confident when you bring it up, don't sound like a pansy or whine about it.

Say that you don't text girls all the time or hang out with girls all the time, prove that you are being a good boyfriend and you feel she isn't being a good girlfriend.

Does she say she misses you at all? Or needs you when you are not with her? My girl tells me that all the time, that makes me feel like I'm the man. Plus she doesn't have a lot of guy friends either, and none that are trying to get in her pants.

Dude you can tell as a guy if these d-bags are trying to get in her pants or not. Next time you are around her friends study how they act, if they are joking around a lot with her, touching her in anyway, or showing you up they are trying to get with her. If they are respecting your space with her and not getting in your space then they are most likely cool.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

all im gonna say dont listen to these people "if you trust her no" you should be at least somewhat worried, some men have honor code and some men we both know are scum that will try and take a girl, its not that you should attack your girfriend, attack the people around her, show them you have balls , if they were to ever even try something funny they know not to mess with you, i always have done it that way, i act hard against them with attitude just so they can know im not there to play there stupid fuken games.

Mandycandy42 · Accepted Answer

Just let her have her freedom, you need to build trust with her and stop being so paranoid. Being overly paranoid equates to major insecurity on your part, which will become apparent to her if you keep harping on it. Doesn't matter how much of a tough guy "MMA fighter" persona you put on to these guys, you'll come off as the douche bag, to her.

I have a decent amount of guy friends and one guy I was dating who had a major problem with it, didn't stay my boyfriend for long, not because I cheated on him or anything, but because he was always paranoid. I don't want to be told who I can or can';t be friends with, but did try and compromise and held back to make him feel more comfortable.

You need to have an in depth talk with her, if she ignores your feelings and doesn't
take you seriously, perhaps you should break up with her. If you can't trust her, and you feel she's going to cheat on you, you deserve someone better.

Ninja97 · Accepted Answer

No I really don't. If she wants you to meet them then it should be 100% legit and you're just looking for something that's not there. Which is completely understandable. If my boyfriend has a lot of girl friends and hung out with them all the time I would also be super concerned.
My opinion? She's hanging out with them cause it's less drama. I have more male friends than female friends. Way way less drama. :) :)
Hope this helped

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

Dude, I'm a hopeless nerd, and my husband doesn't have a nerdy bone in his body. Not even a nerdy cell. Zero nerdy molecules.

I have a lot of nerdy male friends. Like, a lot of them. More than half my friends. Are dudes.

They just kinda think of me as their sister.

If there is a problem here, it's probably in your head.
In your head.

Triathlete · Answer

Run.
I mean that RUN. Seriously. You have invested way to much of your emotions in this pit as it is. I can tell by the way you are talking about it. No more,...
NOT good,... not good. She likes the attention and you are going along for the ride. You don't need the pain and aggravation. There are a LOT of really great girls out there that don't need to be surrounded by a lot of guys. It's an attention thing, she gets gratification out of it. Cut this one loose. FAST. This isn't a game, but she sees it that way. You are better than that.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you should be worried. To be more specific: You should be worried if she has close guy friends or a "best guy friend".

It happens all to often. Guys and girls are for the most part not meant to be that close as friends... something will happen. It's not a matter of trust like a lot of the women are saying below... it's a matter of changing circumstances. You fight... so she goes to her guy friend. Her parents are fighting and you're sleeping... she goes to her guy's friend. She drinks too much one night and her guy friend takes her home... well bad news...

She very well might not have any intent now, but people aren't able to plan for the unexpected because it's just that. They can only avoid the situations that will put them there.

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

I think you should tell her that 90% of her guy friends just wanna get in her pants. Because it's true.

flamogirlxoxo · Answer

it depends... is she flirty? if she is, then be worried. If not then u might wanna cool down a little be chill. If she notices how ur worrying so much she might take wrong

idkwtftoputhere · Answer

Your girlfriend is dating you and it may very well be possible some of those guys are trying to get with her so she should establish some boundaries with her guy friends.

banana5 · Answer

if she is faithful dont worry they won't get near her, but do not talk bad about these people about them being D bags because that will end your relationship very fast

LookatDuhDonkay · Answer

Most "guy friends" are just waiting for the rebound. It's not the only truth, but most of the time it is.

CoolSky01 · Answer

well i wouldn't accept that no matter what , iam a guy and i know what guys think about they all ( well most of them at least ) want her so why put yourself in such a situation?

Anonymous · Answer

In my experience I've only had 1 guy friend who was a genuine friend and never wanted in my pants. I hate when girls are act like all the dude friends are innocent, wake up.

MaiNameIsSunshine · Answer

No, about 80% of my friends are guys, they are harmless creatures, no threat at all.

pavlove · Answer

some guys don't care and I sleep with those guys girls lol jk if it bothers you and she won't compromise that's grounds for a breakup due to incompatibility

NerdInDenial · Answer

That's a big red flag. I would ask why she needs so many guy friends?

KevinFart · Answer

She's a whore. Fuck her for as long as it's enjoyable.

Anonymous · Answer

No, some girls prefer hanging out with guys over girls. The same thing applies to guys. Some guys prefer female company over other guys.

I would be fine with my girlfriend having guy friends if:

1. The guy she's talking to is not her ex.
2. The guy doesn't show any temptations of wanting to become more than friends (hugging is ok, sitting on the other's lap is not)

dudeman · Answer

she's probably boned lots of dudes. probably some of her friends.

Christoph82 · Answer

she just loves the attention. plenty others out there mate. if it bothers you, go get someone new

alliecheergirl123 · Answer

Nope don't be worried! If she wanted to be with one of her guy friends she would b! But, she's with you!

skeptic007 · Answer

you see all these horrible women answers lol yeah women lie more than men I wouldn't trust her

JakeTheShyBoy · Answer

WORRY!!! If your girlfriend has too many guy friends, she could dump you and have sex with all of them. Or worse. You gotta do something about it before she does. If not, you are fucked

chrisbigman · Answer

Not necessarily. Unless you treat her like crap. Then yes, you have a lot to be worried about.

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