Should I reply?

[Anonymous]

okay, so there's this boy. It's been one month since I've been going to a new school, and there's this boy in my class, and I've never actually seen him looking at me, and I never even noticed him until like two days ago. I didn't even know that he existed until my friend pointed it out. So what happened was, is that this boy, he's like been venting about me to one of my best friends at this new school. And he's like, oh my God, your friend,(my name), I want her so bad. Like she's so pretty. Do you think she will say yes? And then my friend was like, bro, she's really introverted and like she doesn't really talk to boys that much, and she's just not gonna say yes cause she's really focused on her studies. And he was like, I still wanna talk to her. And then he said, maybe I'll tell her at the end of the year that i like her so that her studies don't get interrupted. And then I told my friend to just tell him to come and talk to me, and then she told him, and then he was like, okay, I'm gonna message her. so today he messaged me, "hi". And I don't know how to respond. Apparently this guy is really shy, and he's down bad for me, or so what I've been hearing. My friend showed me the chat that she had with this boy, and it seemed like he was pretty down bad. And the thing is that I don't wanna get into a relationship, even if it was like a really hot dude. Like I would probably say no because I'm really focused on my studies and I don't wanna get off track. So I have to say no, and I have to make it very clear. At most i can be friends. So he sent me like a message request on Instagram, and I'm not sure on how to respond or whether I should even do it. I don't wanna be ignorant or rude cause I'm gonna be in the class for 1 year and it's a pretty small class so word gets around. Advice?

[HollyK21]

If you already knew you didn’t wanna get into a relationship then why did you ask your friend to tell him to come talk to you? For some guys it takes a whole lot of courage to make the first move, especially if they’re shy or low self esteemed, so that could’ve been hard for him to do and ultimately it’s just an unnecessary waste of his time. Your friend was already trying to tell him you weren’t available, you should’ve just left it at that.


Anyway, you aren’t obligated to respond but given the fact that you’ve put yourself in this position I think the mature and morally correct thing to do would be taking accountability, get yourself out of that and then never let it happen again.

[Asker]

I asked her to do that cause he was disturbing her all the time asking about me. She was rlly getting frustrated. The guy was relentless.
So I thought if he has something to say he can just say it to me instead of getting my friend involved in the whole middleman act.

[HollyK21]

Not sure why I’m just now seeing your response. I would’ve just asked her to flat out tell him I’m not interested, because sometimes people can’t catch a hint. In any case if your plan is to just tell him yourself so that she doesn’t have to keep speaking with him then you should definitely do that in your response.

[Mariogirl09]

I think you should reply but if he asks you out just say you're really focused on your studies and a relationship isn't something thats your priority right now. I bet he will understand 100%

[In_Trance]

You don't know how to respond to "hi"?

Wth

[Anonymous]

It is rude not to reply