Is dating and relationships scary to you?

[Anonymous]

You can be a perfect guy and good to your girl and she can just one day randomly leave you: You do nothing bad or anything just argue a bit and that’s it she just pulls the plug.

That is scary. I’ve had it happen to me while thinking I was in such a good relationship and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get over that fear.

Relationships are scary

No it isn’t scary

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

🔷"You can be a perfect guy and good to your girl and she can just one day randomly leave you"

No way.

100% misconceived here. To everything there is a reason, in the context of relationships. People aren't random unless they're breaking apart, and if they are breaking apart it's not hard to figure it out because it's a medical issue.

Every single breakup is motivated and explainable. You can think you are good to her, or even perfect, and if she leaves you anyway then it's because you focused on what you thought of yourself at the expense of what she thought of you. It's because you didn't read the signs, or didn't know how to read them, it's because you didn't/couldn't/wouldn't pay enough attention to who you were with, her personality, her mind, her struggles, and everything that constitutes her experience in the relationship formed with you.

You can be a good guy in a vacuum, it doesn't say anything about her, only about you, you will stop fearing relationship when you'll listen to her and when you'll make sense of her experience she recounts. Because she recounts it all the time, like all of us, verbally and non-verbally. But steadily.

[Anonymous]

At this age, yes. When i was younger i had my heart to give fully and NOTHING to lose. Today i have everything i've worked for my entire life to lose, not enough time to rebuild it, and my heart is under lock and key. So, generally my response is "but, we can be friends".😆

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

This seems really one sided. You don't mention how a woman can be dedicated, good and loyal then just have a boyfriend cheat on her because he can't keep his dick in his pants.

That being said, no, it's not scary.. it just has ups and downs. Sometimes it works and others it doesn't.

[queenofcardio]

No, shit happens. You learn to deal with it.

[NathanDavis]

"you can be perfect..."

delusion right there... game over

[MrChinaski]

Life happens. Buck up.

[lilBigPotato]

Not at all.

[Anonymous]

Not at all.