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I don't know if this is normal life for all girls but I have 3-4 years I haven’t been on a date with a guy.
I been single & almost 30.
guys I met on dating apps lie about us going on a date. Don’t get mad at me for using apps, I used them cuz it’s hard meet people in person, people in public are all holding hands with their girlfriend and have baby & im alone. So that’s y I thought apps was easy to chat & state I want a boyfriend.
they all want meet in the car, tinted windows, share a drink, chat about their life, what they do for work, & then want sex. I thought we were going to the mall & no I denied him sex in the parking lot & he was sad. Kept saying please.
he did have comited relationships in past & a baby & knew I wanted a boyfriend once in my life. He was 30
next guy lied we were going on pizza date. Again hide in car he make me order food alone so he look single hiding in car. He pull his pants down. i cry & drop him off to his car.
he looked scared I was serious about denying him sex. He was 25 & seemed broke living. With parents. He would say by text let’s go to the zoo but never made real plans meet.
next guy was current guy I was seeing & he also make excuse take me for real date. He was only guy that called and texted me at 3am when I finish work & stayed up just to see me. He was first guy to hold my hand give me good bye kisses but only date we had was a hotel cafe lobby & he held my door held my cup plate. He would say let’s go on a vacay and see plane tickets together but no real plans his words don’t match his actions.
he was 20.
im at point I dont desire meet men anymore. I go food from a new restraunt on my day off and eating in peace. Dressed up for mylsef and actually having fun , then I would with any guy. I been single my whole life I just lost interest.
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I’m pretty sure I know exactly who this is, and my advice remains the same: keep saving. I know you’re sick of living in your mom’s small apartment, you’re tired of commuting and all that but look what’s happening to your life as a result. You are becoming desperate and giving any man a chance without making good judgment beforehand. I know what’s going on sucks, but right now is not your time for love. Also, why are you choosing to post anonymously now? You’ve been so open before with sharing what’s going on in your life.
I just want to know am I being toxic? Or I’m not wrong? I came to wonder if this is a real boyfriend, meeting in car or for sex only? Or I am right and im correct about wanting dates and it’s not normal for men want meet in the car only
What makes me upset is that these men lie to me. And then want cry when I deny sex and serious about driving mylsef about home.
I’m at point I lost interest meet or talk to men. I’m trying be a lead at work & have $200 finally saved for my studio, I want puppies when I move out as it’ll bring my life joy and make me busy. I applied to school and if I’m accepted will begin August.
I’m just sad becuz it don’t exist for a handsome guy that I want to be my boyfriend. And yes I’ve given ugly men a chance. But the guy needs be handsome cuz u cannot have sex daily with an ugly guy. It’s bull shit people say u need date someone ugly.
It don’t exist for a handsome guy I like to want same future I do. The wrist part is the last guy I liked a lot everything he acted was how I wanted my dream guy be. Minus the no dates part.
Am I wrong for wanting move out? It’s not against my mom I love her but she don’t care about me wanting my own room. I can’t spend forever just sharing the room. I need decorate , be excited buy my own furniture, quiet place to study , her apt is tiny it’s suffocating.
And I’m so tired of the commute I end up falling asleep daily Ina. Random city.
Staying with her is not an option cuz I’m depresed hallow there it’s not a big clean house where I can breathe and be excited come home to.
I hate that you’re having to experience all this the hard way, but I was trying to tell you this before — your life won’t always be how you want it to be exactly. I told you that the odds of you finding the love of your life, getting married and moving out before 30 while you are 27-28 would not be impossible but probably not likely. Not because I don’t think you deserve that, but because it’s unrealistic. It takes time to build love, to love in together and get married. Not one year. Most men you meet will be exactly like the ones you keep meeting now, and that’s one track minded guys or just not serious about relationships.
You aren’t wrong for wanting to move out, I completely agree with and understand your reasons. But your life just doesn’t allow you to move right at this moment, and you must accept this. No, it’s not toxic at all to think that a ma should take you on a date. It is not toxic to want more than sitting in the car talking, and not toxic to not want casual sex. I hope you’re proud of yourself for at least sticking to your boundaries and not giving those guys what they want. Still, I wish you would slow down on all these dating efforts and just focus on saving up to move out. I know you have your needs and wants but your biggest priority should be moving out. Then once you’re out, you can have a boyfriend. You can have your own place to invite him to like a real grown up woman.
My brothers wife’s sister was 27 never had a boyfriend and she finally got a boyfriend from church at 27 and married in one year so she’s 30. Now
I was dating one guy 5-6 years but he said he’s single used me for sex and I thought he was my boyfriend we never met family. Only my brother he has a first girlfriend at 18 and together til age 30 and got married at age 30. And forver together now 38 with 2 kids.
But for me it don’t exist a guy I want to also want meet family and live with me. I get same shit guys that date me but deny meet family and just want visit my studio for sex and that’s it no pics together no being in love no attending family events none of that.
Why are you going into a guy's car? Stop being a PICKMESHA... Raise your boundaries and you will get better men. Stop the dating apps. Go to a free music festival, you have a better chance of meeting a guy there. Go to the yacht club, where men will $$$$ are, not the assholes on the dating apps... STOP IT!!
The last guy had money and invited me to a yatch once but I cudnt go
What does pickmesha mean
Shud I just stay with that guy forever and just accept dates and meeting family don’t exist? A boyfriend is just have sex hide in car and that’s it? Talk in the car get food in drive through and girls go out alone to shop, beach, date Herslef alone?
You need to STOP all of the above!! Please do your research about the term PICKMESHA. You will find your answer. 🤦
I heard this piss in the dating pool. Things are so expensive now. Try exploring in your hobbies, go to church things of that nature... make friends. You might find someone special. Good luck
Am I wrong for wanting dates? The issue is I feel hiden in the car like as if they want seem single and hide in the car from other girls.
I know everything is expensive but these men don’t want take a simple 5 min walk to the beach. It’s free. They want look single for other girls.
Stay off dating apps I experienced the same thing. I got lucky and only met 1 decent guy. We've been together for 6 years but he's kind of a loser. Start going to places where men have money hope for the best? You're not wrong for wanting dates but men are literally fucking lovers now. No real men are really out there. Maybe get in the gym and start going places where men have money and hope someone catches your eye
And vice versa
I settled DONT SETTLE
The last guy had money.
Last guy was from a rich neighborhood and family.
So u go on dates now? Would u be able to handle hiding in car and being alone like no one ever see u and the guy together in public? Would u feel weird and single?
I would feel used. Id never do that now
That’s y I fight these guys cuz it feels strange. To meet them but then I’m alone out somewhere for fun and the guy don’t exist and it seems like I have no boyfriend.
But then I’m lonley and wonder if I shud just meet them forever hidin for sex in order to have them in my life as a boyfriend don’t exist
Yea it might be time to put it on hold. Even the super pretty girls I follow dont have boyfriends. They're bad bitches. Just work, gym and friends.
Now I’m regretting fight this last guy I was seeing cuz I liked him a lot even tho we prob would never go on a date and he would prob try only meet me for sex but I still miss him and cry 😓
So I’m confused 😓 I always wonder if I shud just have sex as meeting family and taking pics and dates won’t be real with a handsome guy I want.
But what did he have to offer? Nothing just sex. Even if he had money and handsome no people r seeing us together in a public date so what’s point? 😓 he has money but it’s. Not like we’ll go on a fun vacay trip together. He’ll go alone or with friends.
What is reason men don’t want pretty girls as girlfriend? I don’t understand. do they truly have sex with a random girl each week all year?
Nope.
would you be upset if the guy you were seeing only met u in the car and deny dates?
Nope