It's mostly me who plans and asks for dates. Should I stop and see what happens?

[Anonymous]

I'm seeing a guy and it's been mostly me who plans and schedules the dates. He is always very happy to see me and was the one who asked me out the first time.

He is bit insecure but I am not sure if this is the reason.

The other day I asked if he wants to go out of town and he said:

Sure! Plan it and we will go.

Should I keep on planning dates like this?

[Anonymous]

Yep, I would stop making plans, see what happens. It’s just lazy not to on his part and makes the effort look one-sided.

[Asker]

I think that would smart but I know I will start missing him and give in 😔

[Opinion Owner]

And when you have those moments, ask yourself why he isn’t missing you. Why is he ok with letting however much time pass until you cave and plan first. Putting your feelings for him aside, don’t you want a man that wants to put in the same work as you? I think because he usually agrees to go and is enthusiastic about it, you’ve sort of let his laziness slide. But now it is getting old and something needs to change.

[Asker]

You’re absolutely right. I have dropped couple hints this week for possible date ideas and I’m gonna leave it at that.
I need to stay strong 💪🏻

[Opinion Owner]

Yep! The other guy had a good suggestion, like if you haven’t already then you could bring this up and ask about him planning dates. Otherwise yeah, I’d leave the ball in his court. If he’s not asking you on a date then that’s a big red flag.

[Asker]

I’ve decided to say nothing this week. If he doesn’t ask me out, next week I will tell him what the other guy suggested.

[Opinion Owner]

I really hope he plans a date! If not then I’d be done if I were you, that’s not cool at all

[Asker]

I agree. Thank you for your support.

[jahaims]

Instead of playing games just directly communicate with him. Say something like hey I don't mind planning some/most dates but I would really appreciate it if you started planning some for us as well.