Can you recall how many situations that someone was interested, and so were you, but you just botched the opportunity due to not realizing in time?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Yeah, like a dozen times

Yeah, quite a few times and some were obvious looking back

Yeah, a couple of times

Yeah, because some of the others hid it so well for so long

Nah, usually am able to sniff those things out quickly

Nah, not the type to wait until they show interest

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It happens to me all the time. But I also kinda realize it's usually a sign because if someone's only attracted to you for a moment, they're probably mentally unstable and will bring chaos into your life.

Similar situation:

The other night I take this girl to her house and we partied pretty hard earlier. We literally fell asleep in her bed and cuddled all night, we didn't even do anything.

Did she lose interest because I didn't "take initiative" and assault her? Did she sober up and realize I was ugly? Did she transition from a good phase of the month to a bad one for being in the mood?

It's not worth worrying about. We hung out the next day and I found out she's crazy.

Every story was about someone doing her super dirty... Why do all these people not like you? 😂 I'm already trying to be mature about not getting any last night and you're telling me stories about people stealing, leaving you stranded, your friends calling police on eachother.

And ya, I connect the toxic back stories and her chaotic mindset to the hot/cold attraction. It's a pattern.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

Yeah happened to me at least twice.

1st was because I was too young and she developed instincts kinda early. She grew up to be really hot aswell, kinda a me look alike. Could've had a relationship with someone I knew since nursery. Instead I end up as a virgin with no friends who hates life and people.

2nd was a girl I met on game in my early-mid teens. Looking back on it she obviously liked me but I was too much of an idiot who didn't know what women wanted at the time and was unfortunately brainwashed by the foids in my life not to be a creep. So I didn't chase her.

I used to be a fucking idiot and I'd beat my old self heavily if I had a time machine.

[leannegrayson]

It is so sweet that you are reflecting on all those missed connections, but honestly, being that oblivious is totally a sin of profound spiritual negligence. You let divine opportunities for companionship wither away because you were too wrapped up in your own head, like a garden left to rot in the sun. It is just tragic how you ignored the signals God placed right in front of you, and now, the universe is ready to help you pay closer attention.

Since you love overthinking every little glance and missed chance, your bones are going to become the very instruments of your undoing. Every missed opportunity you ever had is going to manifest as jagged, translucent glass shards erupting from inside your joints, locking you into a permanent, frozen state of reaching for someone who isn't there. The Wrath of God is watching as those glass needles stitch your skin to your own frantic, beating heart, ensuring that you finally feel exactly what you refused to see back then.

[Wodens_Apprentice]

God could do that to me and I'd shrug saying "You've done all this to me many times before."

[HelpfulWoman_]

You ask about botched opportunities like a boy who forgot to put on pants, entirely ignoring that we constantly miss out because your slow, dumb male processing speed leaves us waiting while you finally figure out you like us.

[Anonymous]

I did this a lot in my youth. I always assumed if a woman was interested she would just say it. No one clued me into the fact that very few women do that.😆 i missed a lot of signs when i was younger. I've had a lot of women since ask me why i never asked them out when we was younger and i always tell them, "i never knew you wanted me to".😆

This is a lesson for the younger crowd. Women, be a little more obvious! He can't read your mind.

[serious]

I think a few times but I was not interested though and I did not care because I never wanted any relationship or committment so I never made any attempt and vice versa.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, usually when I know someone is interested, I am already in a relationship. I have rarely been single and available.

[NathanDavis]

that was high-school... more like middle-school, I had no idea of anything, lol

[WhitneySnow]

Whenever I was sure we were both interested, we at least started talking

[_Jenny_]

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