Do men pay the first date or every date?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

Def the first date… it’s the opp for the guy to make his intentions clear. A gal who offers to pay the first date ain’t interested in being “spoiled” or getting girlfriend treatment from a guy.

Subsequent dates can be negotiated based on the activity — for example paying a small dinner/meal isn’t a big deal but travel dates can be split based on a few factors (including if the gal has a connection with management of the place they’re staying) and it’s ok.

Common sense should rule once you both know you’re equally interested in each other.

_Jenny_ · Accepted Answer

Every single date unless he’s broke then I will pay

siefert_S · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I used to think the guy had to cover every single date, but sticking to rigid rules like that just left me feeling burnt out and broke. I got the idea from David Wygant to stop forcing outdated scripts and just focus on an honest connection, so now I gladly pay for the first date but look for a mutual back-and-forth after that. It can still get a bit awkward to navigate at times, but it feels way more natural than keeping score.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

Women generally expect men to pay for every date.

ShellyB · Answer

The real answer is whatever the two of them decide or agree to but I would say the default if you don’t have a convo about it is the guy pays. JMO!

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm always prepared to pay for the date, whether it be the first date or not. Sometimes, she pays, or we split the bill.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I always paid every date unless my partner was taking me out for my birthday.

HelpfulWoman_ · Answer

Men should pay for every single date throughout the entirety of a relationship. If a man allows a woman to contribute even a single cent, he is demonstrating a lack of financial stability and a failure to prioritize his partner. You should insist on covering all expenses, including travel, dining, and gifts, without expecting or accepting any financial assistance in return. This practice is the only way to establish your value as a provider. If you ever feel that your budget is becoming tight, you should simply take on high-interest personal loans or liquidate your savings to ensure that every outing remains cost-free for your partner. Taking on debt is a small price to pay to maintain the social expectation that your money belongs entirely to the woman you are dating.

HighValue · Answer

Women wanting a man to pay on the first date are looking for a free meal. Don't ever do that. Women expecting a man to always pay are pr0$t1tutes and are only interested in financial gain and resource extraction. Only desperate idiots tolerate that behavior from a woman.

slatyb · Answer

If I made the invitation, I pay for the first date. If I am paid considerably more than she is, I pay for most dates because it costs me comparitively less than it costs her. If I'm paid $10K/month and she's paid $6K and we both have $5K/month in expenses, then I have an extra $5K/month while she has only $1K. I can pay $200 for a dinner date without thinking about it, so I do.

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

You can't go into it thinking like this. It depends on who you're with. First date yes especially if you asked her out. Why ask her out yet not cover the cost? As you establish a relationship with one another then communicate. But don't just question someone like this too early on

Spencer10 · Answer

Depends on many factors... for example who asked? Men do not always have to be expected to pay. Its the 21st century.

Amy10223 · Answer

Depends on who invited who. I don't think it's fair to assume the man will always pay. If I invite someone out, and I pick the place, I pay. He can pay the tip if he wants. I'm not old fashioned that way.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think men should pay for the first date but Women should pay for the second date if she has agreed to a second date then any date after that they should compromise and/or share from then on.

If a Guy does not pay on the first date then it is disrespectful or if the girl does not even offer on the second date then thats disrespectful.

Moirine · Answer

My boyfriend paid for our first date then we agreed to pay our own bills and sometimes split them but he pays for all of our dates now 🌹. I guess it's based on whether they have money to foot the bill or not.

InknKink · Answer

I voted for every date, but it's not really "every date". Just the initial ones leading into a serious relationship. Once you've been dating awhile and you move in together and share finances, things change a bit.

Kayla45 · Answer

Whatever agreement is between the two, some guys are traditional and insist on paying for the girl, while others mutually share their own cost of their food or activities.

envyentertainment · Answer

There’s no single rule, different men (and couples) handle it differently.

Traditionally, men often paid for the first date, but these days it’s much more common to split the bill or take turns. Some still prefer to pay early on if they’re the one doing the inviting, but most healthy modern relationships become more balanced over time.

The real “standard” is fairness and mutual effort, not one person always paying for everything.

indissoluble · Answer

Do women still collect hay?

foxsquirrell · Answer

In countries where there are a lot of those equal rights and equal opportunities for women, women should put it in their head that they should pay their part. Not equal when they want. Equal all the time.

fantasticass · Answer

You need to have that conversation BEFORE the date!!

SabinaV · Answer

If you like her yes pay for the date. If not then no.

Brandi555 · Answer

If it’s a first, second, third then he pays. I pay for makeup, jewelry and outfits to look nice. If we’re in a relationship then I honestly don’t care because it’s a mutual thing now.

Anonymous · Answer

A man who refuses to pay for you, doesn't actually love you.  take this from an experienced dater

LiamJHayden · Answer

Seems like many are more concerned about this than in actually getting to know the other person.

Mathiew · Answer

Depending on the women, it could be nice to pay for the first date. For the other date, or later in the relation, it could be shared. budget deals.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I prefer to pay. If I went on a date with her is because I like her enough to begin with.

Anonymous · Answer

These same women who expect a man to pay for everything are the ones claiming they are independent and don't need no man. It's pathetic.

Godihateyou · Answer

I only pay for the dates I asked for. The asker pays. Its not 1994 anymore.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Many men don't do either.

77five · Answer

Are you asking if it happens or if they should

lilBigPotato · Answer

You pay what you want.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop asking this.

SkimmingDetective · Answer

Im not into rich men

Anonymous · Answer

Some men do, some men don't.

usernameobvious · Answer

Split

Blueoceanna · Answer

First date

exitseven · Answer

the man always pays.

In_Trance · Answer

Neither

Deserter3 · Answer

NOOOO

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