Should a man pay on the first date or should it always be 50/50?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well unless doesn't like her sexually or is attracted sexually. Then he doesn’t pay. A guy usually asks a woman on a date to sleep with her. The least he could do is pay for the date  THAT YOU ASKED HER TO. Why the absolute f-k would the girl pay for the date when you’re the one who asked her out? you're the one who asked her for her time. And to top it all off you’re gonna say “ yeah I can’t afford it you’re gonna have to pay your own food ” 🤡 So why the fuck did you ask her out? 🤡To look broke? To show her how cheap and broke you are? 🤡 That’s what you asked her out for? 🤡 To completely turn her off and insult her? 🤡 Is that why you asked her out? 🤡 Ladies, do not pay some BS. You’re the one who determines wether the idiot gets to reproduce with you or not. You’re the one who determines wether that imbecile gets to be cloned or not. Wether the loser gets to go deep inside or not. Wether the degenerate gets to have access to your body or not. The only reason to pay as a woman. Is if you’re asking HIM out, instead. If you’re the one inviting him. Otherwise don’t pay. NEVER PAY. And leave. Block, Leave, never look back. Because he’s showing you he’s completely broke and has no resources whatsoever to feed you or your offspring that he’s gonna help create. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Zatsuma · Accepted Answer

He at least better offer and not push the bill towards me or there won't be a second date.
However, If he pays and there are more dates following, taking turns is better than the 50/50 and there is never a need to keep count unless it becomes very obvious you seem to be the only one always paying.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Personally I pay. But I'd like to say that more than 50% of the time the woman has offered to pay. In other words I think this is ideal. I think the guy should pay, but the woman shouldn't expect and always be prepared to pay her share if need be.

I really shake my head that so may people make this a thing on the internet. Like I heard a guy the other day go so far as to say, "I always assume she's currently f***ing at least one other person. And I don't want to pay for her meal then have her say goodbye, collect her leftovers in a Doggie bag, take it to her f*** buddy, he eat the meal I paid for and then he f***s her". And I'm like "really"? I'm like if this is a constant issue for you then I think you're really not learning enough about the type of woman you're asking out before asking her out. I feel like alit of guys have so much animosity towards dating (which in this day is kind of understandable). That they simply don't want to concede anything. Even the cost of a meal. And my attitude is if that's the way you feel then you probably shouldn't date. Because it appears it's all bottom line to you. And if that be the case just buy a prostitute. I mean then you can be sure about what you're getting.

Luopio27 · Accepted Answer

Ladies first :~)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Paying for somebody else should always be optional while paying for yourself should always be something you prepare for in case the other person does not pay. I think if you want to consider courtesy and not just basic rules - the person with double the net worth should pay for the person with half or one quarter the net worth of the person with high net worth. The rich person does not have to pay, but it's nice to pay. Just like you don't have to buy people birthday gifts but you do it anyway cause you think its a nice thing to do. I've paid for guys before, when they were still in school and jobless and and barely had enough to survive.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For my generation, the guy pays 100% on every date. We never had disagreements or discussions on this topic and there are never any misunderstandings. And I can afford it so I don't care.

AviatorTom · Answer

Whoever asks other person out should offer to pay. The other person can agree, or they can go 50/50. The old rule where the guy always pays doesn't apply anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

Only simps pay.. Chad and Tyrone gets everything for free regardless of what that may be. If a woman is expecting some men to pay, while some other men aren't... then you should be asking yourself why. Men will never learn!

Imagine men said 'Whoever is asked on the date is the one that pays' women would laugh in your face... yet women always say 'Whoever does the asking does the paying'. As long as men continue being simps and allowing all of this one sided crap to go on they will get taken for a ride. Also note that a lot of women only go on dates for free dinners... that's what you get for being a simp!

jshm2 · Answer

The initiator of the date should pay, be they man or woman is irrelevant.

it would be like your friend asking you to come visit them, but they're not paying for anything, nor letting you stay, and they might not even have time for you. Would you be happy to even go 50/50 in that?

EricSummer · Answer

The man should pay and make the minimum fuss about it. If she wants to pay you can say that she could pay next time. However, if she insists on paying or sharing you go along with that as this can be just too much fuss about small matters. Maybe she wants to assert her independence.

Some women say if the man pays they feel pressured to give him their favors, even sex. Not sure why they would think that way. Nothing has been promised and this is not a commercial transaction. In addition, would they really be available for the price of a meal? It's an absurd thought for any self-respecting woman.

dynamicyandere · Answer

If it’s a romantic context, I prefer to pay.

I like to take care of who I’m with.

It’s a wholesome gesture.

Now, in a non-romantic context, I follow the standard etiquette of whoever asks is the one who pays. (If splitting the bill is a hassle. If it’s not a hassle, we can pay for our individual orders.)

This is all personal preference though.

I believe in today’s age, it’s always safe to not assume the other person is going to cover you. So, prepare for pay for your own meal as to not appear entitled.

slatyb · Answer

It's up to the couple. If I ask a woman out, I'm happy to pay. If she suggests splitting the check I'll just tell her that she doesn't have to do that and there's no future expectations. If it's obvious there's going to be a second date, then I just tell her she can get it when she invites me somewhere.

libsaretards · Answer

50/50. MOST people are garbage, so finding love requires wading through garbage. Why waste money on garbage? Pay for yourself.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think a man should at least be ready to pay especially if he made the move and asked her out. It´s a nice gesture to show her that you´re ready to invest in the relationship so I don´t like splitting the bill.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

Unless preplanned and agreed, it should always be that you pay for yourself, women should not under any circumstances expect for the man to pay for the date, for two reasons:

1) If you hook up then you've effectively prostituted yourself.

2) If you don't see it leading to another date for whatever reason, then it's just common decency to pay your way.

KatherineJ · Answer

The asker should pay, unless previously discussed.

RobT312 · Answer

Guy should pay. I guess I’m a traditionalist when it comes to this

ShesRad80 · Answer

for me 50/50, i pay my own way on a date

Spongebobssocks · Answer

50/50  I've never been to a date but I dont think resturuant thing is good idea.. sounds super awkward😂

electromagnetic · Answer

I would not expect someone to pay on the first date. I’d rather do it simply because there will be no commitment or pressure to have another.

musicbrain5 · Answer

On a first date, separate checks. Same for any other paid activity on a first date. Pay for yourself.

sheikalana · Answer

If he's the one who invited he should be the one paying. If not he should either offer to pay or 50/50.

Anpu23 · Answer

I've come to the conclusion that it's the person who invited the other should pay regardless of gender, or gender identity for that matter.

Fireguy17 · Answer

To me it doesn't matter, it's more of a comfort thing for the woman. Then there generally aren't any expectations, I bout you dinner so now...

thatshydork · Answer

For the first date I think the man should at least offer to pay for it, as if it goes further then the first date then it should switch off as to who’s paying. That way paying isn’t just on one person but the man still acts like a gentleman.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Up to the guy but tending towards 50/50. Unless she orders something ridiculously expensive and then she is on her own for taking the piss.

worldscolide · Answer

If she's a feminist, she needs to pay 100%, if she is traditional, normal, and rational thinking, the man should pay.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I think the man should always pay when he takes a woman out on a date.

Anemone978 · Answer

The man should pay... if he expected me to pay half I would assume he isn't really into me.

SilviaPerry · Answer

At my age, it is somewhat the norm, but a woman should always offer to pay half. But nowadays, with a lot of people considering dating as a way of gaining advantage in terms of money or others... welll, i dont blame men for being cautious

RavVid · Answer

I would pay as an expression of my interest in her which I presumably am if I have asked her out and it disambiguates wanting to be friends.

I would her be interested in me or not interested rather than being friends bullshit.

Billlewis · Answer

I'm a firm believer that the guy should pay every single time -- on the first date, the last date and I even pay for her dates with other guys, if I have a chance.

angieeeeee · Answer

whoever idea it was to go on the first date, should pay.

Pistolshrimp · Answer

Not black and white. Shouldn't always be either option. in my opinion the one who initially invited should pay. But women rarely initiate so men have the raw deal here.

Slingblade1126 · Answer

Whatever happened to just being a decent human being? If you ask a girl on a date and are offended that she doesn't pay for herself, just fucking stay home!

Nikki1989 · Answer

Whoever does the asking should be prepared to pay.

genericname85 · Answer

entirely depends on what sort of relationship he's seeking. if he's looking for a modern equal relationship, he should go for 50/50 every time. if he's looking for a more conservative relationship, he should pay.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It’s 50/50 if you want to not see each other again.
The one who pays is the one who came up with the idea of the date. y'all really gotta stop with all this being on the man when women also invite men on first dates as well.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I would prefer to pay for myself, especially on a first date. It would make me uncomfortable to essentially let a stranger pay for me.

msc545 · Answer

Men always pay on every date. When they don't, she finds another man who will.

Anonymous · Answer

I think its okay for the guy to pay but what surprises me is someone of the women I met they just don't even offer to pay - I am not talking about the first date, I am talking about 2 3 4 5 etc even though she is an independent woman and earning more than me and even at a good position in a company.

How can 1 be so cheap?

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I don't think it's unreasonable to assume the person who invited someone on a date is going to pay. But as an adult, you should be prepared to pay for yourself.

ShellyB · Answer

Putting "always" on both of the only two options makes it hard to answer!

Exterminatore · Answer

Men and women are now considered equal, so they can pay their equal share for everything.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Men always pay BUT, and I stress the word but, women should at least reach for the bill. If they don't it shows they expect to be paid for and that's called entitlement. NOONE IS ENTITLED

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I am willing to pay my half and will genuinely offer to pay my half but I'm not a man who want 50/50

jwmiller95 · Answer

I think splitting the first date is respectable since you or her may not want to see each other again after that

LiamJHayden · Answer

The asker should at least be prepared to pay. Whatever people do, though, discuss it beforehand.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I don't date for commercial or economic reasons. I'm prepared to cover the ''costs''

Massageman · Answer

Man pays for the date. I'm old school- sorry.

Dkc123 · Answer

If he pays then he must bang. If no banging then its 50/50... Period

mandyfire98 · Answer

Always go dutch, always.

shades777 · Answer

I ain't no gentleman aka sucker so if your hungry you better hve aome money or your watching me eat

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

If we banging afterwards i'm down to pay if not bye.

Donald1_4 · Answer

I think that the one who asked the other one on the date, should cover the bill because they are the one who's offered to in the first place

elontesler3 · Answer

no. a hooker is cheaper. trust me, i invented the Tesler Sibertruck, SpaceseX, and i own Twatter.

Anonymous · Answer

Society said, the man should pay. I say, 50/50!

Anonymous · Answer

50/50. If the man foots the bill then she better put out.

exitseven · Answer

Thr man always pays , you better get used to it.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

in my opinion the guy pays. I have reasons

larry69 · Answer

Men need to pay for every date

Twalli · Answer

After the first date, it's more likely 50/50

OddBeMe · Answer

Chivalry will be around for a while longer.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

50/50

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