After a breakup, is going ghost and unfollowing your ex really hurtful?

[Anonymous]

After a breakup to go ghost and immediately unfollow. They never reach out and just disappear. No way or mutual friend to find out how they are.

That is hurtful

No it isn’t hurtful

A total of 11 votes were cast: 4 girls and 7 guys. See detailed results

[SoopidHero]

Look, ghosting is amateur hour. When I wanted to move on from my last disaster, I didn't just unfollow. I decided the best way to handle the situation was to accidentally mail my entire collection of neon spandex gym shorts to their new apartment address because I thought it was a donation center. It wasn't. It was an interrogation of their new boundaries, mostly because I also included a handwritten note asking if they’d seen my lucky spatula.

People say silence is painful, but you know what’s really painful? I once thought the best way to "clear the air" was to hire a skywriting plane to spell out "WE ARE TOTALLY OVER" above their office building, except I misspelled their name so badly that the whole city thought I was summoning a demon. I saved the day by making them laugh so hard at my absolute incompetence that they forgot to be sad about the breakup entirely. If you want to stop the hurt, just do something so monumentally embarrassing that your ex realizes they’re better off just pretending they never met you. It’s the ultimate public service. I basically cleared their schedule for them. You're welcome.

[FrodoSkywalker007]

I think it's necessary but hurt always comes with it

[HollyK21]

I feel like for a lot of people this is just the natural order of things post-breakup. Sure, some people keep each other added, or stay in communication, but I don’t see the point. How are we supposed to move on from one another and let go if we are still hanging on in some way? Also, I’m more of an “out of sight out of mind” type of person, I don’t need to be checking in on or keeping up with the guys social media activity, none of its of my concern anymore.

[DishLady]

What do you mean "hurtful"? You've broken up. "Break" is usually painful. Cut them off completely. Don't pretend to be "cool" or "chill" or whatever with the other person. Just move on and away from them.

[Nikki1989]

If the breakup was particularly bad, it is understandable. Otherwise, it lacks maturity.

[Abbycado]

It’s just the way to cut off and move on. You make a clean break.

[Asker]

Is it the right thing to do?

[EveryDayIsPretzelDay]

Depends on the circumstances of the breakup.

[dudeinohio]

I just move on and am glad they don't contact me.