If someone rejects you, isn't it a good and healthy policy just to cut them off and move on with your life?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I would say a majority of the time, yes.

I agree with what @montblanc said. But the reality is MOST of the time people cannot remain friends after a rejection. @montblanc is right that moving on is not about punishing someone for rejecting you. But sometimes you don't realize truly who someone IS until a rejection happens. Most guys do not ask a woman out willy nilly. So if he does there is a perception that she WANTS him to ask her out. Again this does not come out of the ether. To put things bluntly. There are A LOT of women who flirt with men ONLY for attention. Why would he want to be friends with a woman who treats him like that. She showed him his quality. Now he knows. Now he's moving on. Now let's say they've been friends for some time. What changed? Guys don't just ask a woman out out of the blue. Again what sent him the impression she wanted to elevate the friendship? Odds are they were NEVER friends. She's been playing him for quite some time. This was a LONG con of hers. In this case he REALLY should move on.

Again, i'm not saying 2 people cannot remain friends. If it was just a misunderstanding and they can both rise above it like 2 adults then i say👍. But the reality is most the time that is NOT the case. Trust has been compromised and pride is in play. Most the time it simply is NOT possible to return to the previous state.

[canamlusciouslad73]

Yes.

[MontBlanc]

I don't think there should be a one size fits all rule.

If staying friends genuinely helps both people move on, that's great, but... if staying in contact keeps giving one person false hope or makes it harder to heal, creating some distance is probably the healthier choice.

Moving on isn't about punishing someone for rejecting you.

Sometimes it's simply about giving yourself the space to accept reality and move forward.

[Asker]

How is it "punishing someone" who rejected you? You owe them nothing. You had nothing before... and there's nothing now. End of story.

[MontBlanc]

I don't think distance automatically says anything about how someone feels toward the other person.

Sometimes, it says more about what they need for themselves.

The same choice can come from bitterness, or it can come from acceptance.

Those aren't the same thing.

[Masie]

That is what I would do. There is no need to keep persuing a person that has made it clear they aren't interested. That and you don't want to look desperate for no good reason.

[Asker]

BINGO!!!

[Masie]

Thanks for mho.

[LazerBean]

I don't see why you have to cut them off unless the interaction was toxic or something. There are many reasons why someone might reject someone else, not all of them are a personal attack or insult. One of my best friends is someone who my husband rejected a long time ago, politely of course. But they were friends for a long time before, and they never stopped being friends. Now we are all married, and we still hang out.

[Nikki1989]

There is an old but true saying...

[Alex-Snow]

You do not have to cut them off so to speak, but yes I agree, it is time to move on.

[loveyouoak]

Of course. But it's not easy when you still have feelings for her.

[Asker]

I have learned to master my feelings. I realized it's better for us both to just cut ties.