I told a guy I was attracted to him and his response puzzled me?

[Anonymous]

• I have a friend whom I have a massive crush on. We had been to a party and he was extra snuggly with me and there was what I thought was playful flirting. I have been put of the dating/flirting game for a while so I could have been mistaken. Well a weekend of flirting and playfully being around each other and a week or so later, I told him I was developing feelings for him but I was concerned I was going to ruin the friendship. I had to be honest with him as I am terrible as hiding my feelings. His response threw me because it felt l... open ended? He said 'I appreciate the honest, you haven't ruined anything. Stop stressing.' Was I being let down gently?

[Masie]

Hmm that is hard to tell. If you want a definitive answer I will lean towards that he is not interested and that was his way of politely rejecting. That is the tone I get from it and the way that I would have taken it.

You have to look at it as if he had the same feelings he would be telling you just like you told him and equally enthusastic. That is why I think it is his way of saying no thanks and that you can still be friends.

[Calyptomaniac]

Kinda sounds that way, yes unfortunately or he would have said something more flirty and positive; not something reassuring

[MrChinaski]

A 36-45 year old woman has 'a massive crush' and is 'developing feelings'...

It's not middle-school.

Ask him out ffs.

[bowenw]

It's hard to know from this short description, but he may mean he is feeling the same way about you.

[Nikki1989]

You are 36-45. You should be able to figure this kind of nonsense out by now.

[Abbycado]

I think that he was reassuring you that you didn't mess up the friendship.

[Alex-Snow]

I don't think you were being let down... I think most guys appreciate the honesty. Ask him out and see how it goes.

[slatyb]

Invite him to join you somewhere.

[Pretendingtobesweet]

Simple.. think of him as a dog. He is not a cat.

[Anonymous]

I suppose he was just being friendly.

[Anonymous]

He ain’t into you