My ex-neighbour (who flirted with me) just called about work—should I text her?

[Anonymous]

So long story short, a young couple moved in across the road from me, I noticed after awhile she kept on looking at me giving off strong signals of wanting to chat. I have spoken with her once or twice but not much and she came across very confident. And very forward talking. Any way they have sold the house and moved on. I’m self employed and I do up properties and a year later after they have moved I get a phone call who I think it’s my neighbour talking to me about buying a house that needs some work. I am sure it’s her because of the WhatsApp pic she has on WhatsApp.

should i tx her asking by any chance did you live on such a road? Because we were neighbours? Or should I just leave it? after all she definitely wanted my attention and fyi she has a partner.

[HollyK21]

Are they buying the house or not? I see you commented to someone saying that they didn’t bother buying it. In any case though, I wouldn’t respond. Your motive sounds much more romantically based than actually wanting to take on this job.

[Asker]

Job has gone, they didn’t buy the house

[HollyK21]

Well, if the job is gone then there’s no reason to message her

[Asker]

Even tho we were neighbours and spoke a few times?

[HollyK21]

Yes, even though you were neighbors and spoke few times. There is no good reason to risk being a home wrecker, and if you’d happened to be married, you would not appreciate another man trying to sneakily move in on your wife. It’s just a miserable fest when there so many other women to pursue in this world. You may feel like you got certain vibes from her, or that she was flirtatious, but there is always the chance that you were wrong and misread her behavior.

[HollyK21]

**feat

[Asker]

They didn’t buy it no, but being neighbours for 8 years and hardly talking but she wanted to chat. Is it a bad move just to reach out and being polite?

[Asker]

Of course but no wrong in pointing out we’re were neighbours and such a small world. I’m obviously going to be polite and not rude or flirting.

[HollyK21]

She didn’t reach out to casually chat though, she reached out about renovating a house since you do that professionally. You already know that you are not contacting her just to have a casual conversation. You want to pursue her romantically because you were under the impression that she was interested and flirting with you. That’s all this is.

[Asker]

But she wasn’t interested? In your opinion?

[HollyK21]

Respectfully, based off the context provided I’m not sure how you even got the impression that she was romantically interested in the first place. For example, I don’t understand how her being confident or forward talking would translate to flirtation. Even when you talk about the flirting, this is in reference to (maybe) two very brief exchanges, how could there have hardly been any time to flirt? I don’t know if you have much experience with women, but if you did then I highly doubt you’d make so much out of so little. I also doubt that if you had access to other women, you would be stooping so low as to pursue a married woman based off the ideas you’ve gotten in your head vs what was actually going on. If you aren’t an egotistical guy then nothing I’m saying should come off as an insult, I’m just being honest.

[Asker]

Lol okey give me an idea where she was interested in me based on what I’ve said? Would a strange invite themselves over to your house? If this case what does it mean?

[HollyK21]

You’ve never gone to introduce yourself to a neighbor? I sure have, even invited them to events I’ve held at my home. It’s better to be familiar with who you live around, in my opinion. Also, I don’t see anywhere she “was” interested, like at all, and that’s what I’m trying explain to you.

[Asker]

Give me an example where someone is interested?

[HollyK21]

What’s your dating experience like with women?

[Asker]

Answer my question please

[Chayce]

Then ask. Either they'll say yes or no and it'll push you closer towards what you ultimately want.

[NathanDavis]

if you got a call... just call back to that number

[Asker]

No i don’t have the job the house they were going to buy they didn’t bother buying it. I wouldn’t call her but tx her maybe

[NathanDavis]

so you don't even know if it is her...

[Asker]

No but looks like her on WhatsApp and sounds like her on the phone

[Anonymous]

Take the job, be professional and if she recognizes you then converse

[Nikki1989]

You are 36 to 45, right?