How should I support my friend dating a controlling, possessive guy?

[Anonymous]

i just don't think the relationship is a good idea but realise its not my decision , i was not even aware they knew each other its weird around end of summer like suddenly with no warning her instagram changed and showed him name with a heart, it must of became instagram official like insanely quick as i didn't even know they were an item and i knew her really well and had never even seen them together.

i know he's controlling and possessive as i used to see him and his ex girlfriend at our gym he'd like be there with her and try and get her to only work out with him , wouldn't even allow her to say hi to me and didn't even want me to look at her and he has this car he's so proud of its like his prized possession , he's obviously the type of guy who's into his stuff and that type of person. and he won't even talk to me at the gym even though he knows i'm friends with this girl , been in this strange mood since they started dating , i guarantee he didn't break up with his ex he was obsessed with her she no doubt was one who moved on

don't know what to do , had hoped it would like fizzle out quickly and she'd realise it wasn't for her , she's very independent and free spirited type who does her own thing i don't see her being a good fit for him

[Alex-Snow]

If she is a close friend she may appreciate a few subtle comments about him. Let her know because you care about her. If she ignores you at least you tried.

[Asker]

its weird have yet to see them together so not able to judge if they have any chemistry or if she actually likes him that much or not

she may have jumped in this relationship quickly to get over another guy who she found out liked one of her girlfriend's although she was not actually dating him

[Katanyayaya]

He’s a cheater? Because he still obsessed over his ex while dating a new girl?

[Asker]

no he doesn't seem to care about the ex , just very possessive, controlling type, she is his new toy if you get what i mean

[Katanyayaya]

So he gets new toys one after the other?

[Asker]

well new girlfriend to replace other one that likely broke up with him and moved on with her life

[Anonymous]

“became Instagram official?” That's something an 8th grade girl would say, not a 45-year-old man.

[Asker]

just something i noticed on her page , was changed very quickly like they had barely even been dating yet she or him wanted everyone to know about it

[Nikki1989]

I stopped taking this seriously once I read 'Instagram official.'

[Asker]

it confused me too as to why they felt it was so important to make it instagram official as it seemed like they had barely even started dating when that change was made to there accounts

[Mariogirl09]

Good guys ALWAYS finish last

[Iron_Man]

Tell her to stand up for herself

[Asker]

she hasn't talked to me about the nature of there relationship yet or do i know enough , but i know him and from what i know i'd have deep concerns , she just doesn't seem like type of girl who would want to be with this type of guy