Is a relationship is much more likely to be successful by dating someone who is most similar to you?

[Anonymous]

my last relationship with my ex (who was the total opposite of me) that having common ground is one of the most important things to a compatible relationship. Things like having similar education levels, culture, having common hobbies, similar lifestyle habits is crucial. An over spender will never be compatible with a cheap skate. A low IQ person will never be compatible with a high IQ person. A dirty person will never be compatible with a clean person

[HighValue]

Having compatible morals, some hobbies/interests, and long term life goals matters a lot for a long term relationship to be successful. That is actually the main reason for the failure of most relationships or for them to even begin in the first place. The majority of women have terrible morals whether they want to admit it or not, and the majority of men (not all) have much better morals they live by. Even as a woman, I'd suggest you avoid most other women even for friendship because the majority of them truly are terrible people.

[Asker]

You sound extremely bitter and jaded.

[HighValue]

If you want to be stupid and listen to other women's life advice, go ahead. Then thnk of this when you are in your 40s and see how your life is based on those decisions. Ultimately, YOU are the one that will have to deal with the consequences of your decisions in life. If you choose to follow the wrong advice and ignore the obvious truth, that is your problem.

[Asker]

@highvalue

bro, why don't you look at how your life is like at 45? you definitely sound like you've lived a sad life filled with pain, regrets, and consequences.

[Asker]

I can literally feel the extreme pain reeking out of you with every word you spew on here.

[HighValue]

You sound like a typical ignorant person that would rather hear comforting lies than the truth. Not surprised. That is how the MAJORITY of American women are.

[Asker]

@highvalue

and you can't bear the truth about yourself.

[exitseven]

Yes, I dated mostly thje same type of girl except once when I dated somebody who was the total opposite of all the rest. It was fun at first but became a huge trainnwreck.

My wife and I have so many things in common you would not believe me if I told you.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[LazerBean]

Yes, of course. Enjoying time together is essential

[Nikki1989]

Absolutely. It is essential.

[Anonymous]

Yes, absolutely. So long as she has the good sense to properly vet him. This is where most women go wrong. They don't do the work necessarily to really learn their similarities and differences. She just uses hers feelings to proclaim they're alike. The reality becomes undeniable later on when he doesn't fall in line with those feelings. Then the most comical part is rather than owning her misstep she claims she was lied to. When thre realitiy is she just did not di her job of truly getting to know who he was.

[Asker]

yes, that is why love is overrated. You can only get so far with love, before the reality of incompatibility issues set in. People need to date people on their own level.

[Iron_Man]

if you dont support my football teams, that’s a big problem. It’s my passion and I like to go to them in person. Then what else do we have in common besides sex? If you don’t support my teams why should I support your shopping at the mall. And come along with you and pay for you? Its not fair if you don’t support my football teams 🐬 🏈

[Asker]

maybe that's why you are still single at your age.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not true every girl has supported my team. What do you have in a relationship if she doesn’t show enthusiasm or want to get involved in sports and all she cares about is shopping? That’s an extreme turn off. It’s like it’s her way or the highway and you want me to come along while you try on dresses and jeans and shoes and then at the end you want me to pay for it and then you tell me have a nice week. I’ll see you next week for the same thing that’s not gonna happen if you’re gonna be like that forget about it. And then when I’m going out too the football 🏈 game at the stadium or a sports bar with a friend or somebody else you become real jealous and complain. I don’t wanna get involved with women that just want to do what she wants do and they don’t show the boyfriend any compassion or the husband. I don’t wanna hear about the excuse well the man’s getting sex. Well, she gets sex to. There’s more to life then just having sex. What about having a close friendship and having things in common besides sex. i’ve seen plenty of women at the stadium that are very enthusiastic that yell and jump up and down more than the guy does at times that’s a kind of girlfriend that I want.

[Asker]

@iron_man

there are very few women who like sports. and most of the one who do like manly sports are bisexuals or lesbians, not feminine women

[Iron_Man]

Lol you are very funny. Who are you? Every woman that has a boyfriend that likes sports is ibisexual at a stadium with 75,000 people. I don’t think so. My last girlfriend supported me and my football team and we had a good time together and she wasn’t bisexual. And yes she is feminine.

[Iron_Man]

And her favorite football team was the Buffalo Bills and in basketball was the New York Knicks, but she still supported me and liked the Miami Dolphins snd the Miami hurricanes. And we went to baseball games and basketball games.

[Asker]

sports are a masculine hobby and interest. I can promise you your ex girlfriend was not feminine at all. Women are not largely designed to like sports. Men like sports because men are biologically designed to fight, compete and hunt. Women are not designed to do that kinda stuff. That's why girls tend to like dolls. Girls are raised to be nurturers

[Iron_Man]

Please make a question and mention me so I can see the poll results? Or just send me the question. Do guys want a girlfriend that plays with dolls or they want a best friend? If that’s all a girl wants to do then what do we have in common with them besides sex? My past girlfriend was feminine not manly. So you’re gonna tell me at a sold out 75,000 people at the stadium that all the women are bisexual and manly I don’t think so.

[Asker]

@iron_man

look at Ariesman81Nshiiit's answer to this question. he says it too.

[Asker]

im not saying there are absolutely no women who like sports. but they're just not feminine women.

[Iron_Man]

That’s one user what about the others in here? So you’re gonna tell me Sydney Sweeney is not feminine and she has a sports background and she likes it. Lol you are funny

[Iron_Man]

She’s feminine, but she just has character and strength

[Asker]

@iron_man

feminine women don't tend to have masculine hobbies. that's not the way women are designed

[Iron_Man]

They can have it and they do are you living in the United States?

[Asker]

yes, im in the US

feminine women don't tend to have masculine hobbies. that's not the way women are designed

[Iron_Man]

Then what are they designed to do cook and clean and that’s it?

[Asker]

@iron_man

because women are not designed to hunt or compete or conquer, go to war. that's what they do in sports.

[Asker]

the reason why men like sports is because men are evolutionarily wired to hunt, compete, conquer and fight. Women have not evolved to do that kinda stuff.

[Asker]

why do men have bigger fists, bigger bodies, taller, stronger than women? because men have been evolutionarily designed to fight and hunt

[Asker]

it's the same reasoning why boys tend to be obsessed with video games. Because video games are a simulation of hunting, competing, fighting, conquering. It's the same reason why there are so many men in martial arts fighting but not women. Women are not designed to like this stuff.

[Iron_Man]

So they ate design for sex and cooking and cleaning and that’s it? I’ll have to show my friend this question.

[Asker]

@iron_man

go google womens hobbies.

but what i am saying is true.

[Asker]

Ariesman81Nshiiit also agrees

[Iron_Man]

I’m going to show my female friend this question she may not answer but she’ll say what she has to say to me personally because she’s very private

[Asker]

learn something new everyday

[Iron_Man]

Hmmmm 🤔 lol

[Iron_Man]

Everything you said is totally wrong and not true. My friend saw this question and did research and she went over all the details with me and she proved you wrong and I knew it anyway the whole time.

[Anonymous]

I think you need a balance of similarities and differences. I want partner who makes me want to be better. I don't have a reason otherwise.

[Asker]

You need to date people similar to yourself. For example, really fit, in shape peolpe won't get along with someone who is fat. Not because one looks way better than the other. But because they have enormous lifestyle differences... one person might have an entirely different kitchen food choices... one of them might have different hobbies such as exercising at the gym while the other hates it. One of them might be super disciplined while the other is the total opposite. This will lead to clashed and disagreements.

If you are lazy while your partner is hardworking, your hardworking partner might stop respecting you once they find themselves work multiple jobs, doing all the dishes, laundry, cooking while you just lay around the house doing the bare minimum and not contributing.

if you are stupid while your partner is smart, they might hate you for not understanding their thought processes. They might hate you for fucking up on so many things due to your stupidity.

If you are dirty as hell, you need to find someone just as dirty as you. Otherwise, it won't work.

If you are lazy, you need to find someone just as lazy as you.

that's the only way it will work

[Opinion Owner]

When you assume, you make an ass out of u and me.

[Asker]

I learned all of this from a terrible relationship with an ex boyfriend. we were total opposites in so many ways, that's why it was so awful.

[Opinion Owner]

You are just assuming every guy is like him.

[Asker]

my point is... you need to marry someone who is similar to yourself and your lifestyle habits.

[Opinion Owner]

My point is you are incorrect. Ideally, a relationship will make both people better. Having some differences can aid to that. A fresh amd different perspective can be helpful. An important part of being in a relationship is compromise. If you aren't able to do that, maybe you should just stay single.

[Asker]

@opinion owner

most people are uncomfortable with being better. Tell a lazy person to work harder, they wouldn't want to. Tell a dirty person to clean everyday, they won't. Different people have different habits. And the vast majority of them don't want to change.

[Asker]

Differences don't build a relationship. They just cause two people to separate. Not saying two people need to be twins but both certainly need to agree on at least 75-80% of all things.

[Asker]

Differences leads to constant disagreements
Plus, someone who is better than you likely would not want to be with you

[Opinion Owner]

Okay?

[Asker]

someone who is better than you likely would not want to be with you

If you think a clean person would want to live with a dirty disgusting person, you're wrong

if you think someone who is smart would want to live with someone who is stupid, you're wrong.

if you think a hard working person will respect a lazy person, you're wrong

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not going to continue to argue with someone so dense amd unintelligent. You just sound insufferable from a male perspective.

[Asker]

you just sound like you know you are wrong but you can't admit you are wrong

[Asker]

usually when someone stays silent and can't argue back , it usually means they know they are wrong

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

Men and women don't have common hobbies. We have things we tolerate because the person we like likes doing them. The rest is true though.

[Anonymous]

That can eliminate some potential issues, yes

[Anonymous]

How were u different