Is it better to date someone that is more similar to you or opposite?

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And why? As in traits, etc

Princess199902 · Accepted Answer

I think both can be beneficial, being similar probably means more to agree on and maybe less arguments and opposites can sometimes mean more conflict but a lot more to learn from.
I think it really depends on how similar or different the person is. Like if it's a difference in hobbies or political matters, I have no big deal because it doesn't really affect me and I'm up for trying new things. But maybe if it were religion or living standards, I might be slightly skeptical on the relationship.
However, with that being said, opposites can really attract as they can learn thing from each other and totally hit it off because you can discover new things about yourself that you never really expected. Dating someone similar to you is no big deal either, they'd make a nice couple and would enjoy their similarities together.

Soft4u · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure what's best.
Someone similar we'd have the same interests, there would be a lot in common so there would be less disagreeing on things.
Someone opposite would give each other the ability to learn different things, it would open you up to learning things you would not have learned had it not been for dating someone opposite of you.

Hal2002 · Accepted Answer

You need some diversity in a relationship, it is nice to have a few things in common. But from viewing long term couples, I have seen couples that are so similar relationships turn into passionless friendships and seen them drift apart to find other partners. To get the passion, that their marriage lacked.

While couple that where the opposite of each other, while they hand more conflicts. You could still see the they had for each other, in their relationship.

The times I have heard women talking about how good their husbands where, than in the next breath saying how boring their relationship is.

noubigdumbdumb · Accepted Answer

I don't know how to put this but it's nice to have a balance in this sort of thing.

Like I'd say you have to be similar in some aspects at the very least to build your relationship on something, but having differing opinions/views on things allows the both of you to bring something new into the relationship.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Similar. I don't care what that old saying, "Opposites attract..." says.

You need some similarities with a partner to be compatible, otherwise you won't have much to discuss or share with them and your relationship will grow stale and boring.

Contrary to what the media and social media portray, you need more than sex and/or looks to be happy in a relationship.

ManOnFire · Answer

Similar.  Less conflict. More unity and agreement.

Logorithim · Answer

Mostly similar (for compatibility)

Desconhecida · Answer

Opposites do attract each other but it never lasts

BobSansMal · Answer

I don't think in terms of similar or opposite. I think it's best to date someone who's complementary to you. I. e strong where you're weak and you're strong where they are weak. And with similar overall life goals and at least a fair number of shared interests.

Frangipaniandlotus · Answer

More agreeing with each other. Healthier relationship. Feeling more at ease with each other. More inner peace. Less compromises because situations when they are needed occur less often. Its more pleasant longterm speaking. You get each other without need to speak abput your emotions and explaining everything for three hours. Better for longterm relationship intentions. More obvious empathy on daily basis.

Anonymous · Answer

Why isn't there a both option? People are very versatile. My boyfriends a conservative. I’m more liberal. Yet we agree on most things and understand the others view point on other things. The best person to date is someone who’s similar enough to be alike yet different enough to be complimentary.

the_lee1982 · Answer

Life is too boring if you only want to be with someone just like you. Being around someone that's not like me has introduced me to things I may not have tried and now fully embrace in life. Relationships shouldn't always be about comfort, but embracing something new and realizing things about you and your partner.

NoxWriter22 · Answer

Similar but not the same. I want to be with someone who is similar to me so we understand each other and communicate well. I want her to be different so we can introduce each other to shows, movies, games and other cool stuff.

ZestyWatermelon · Answer

It really depends honestly. If you're really stubborn, dominant and overbearing you're gonna want someone the opposite of you. If you're really kind and generous you might want someone more similar to you.

Finchie40 · Answer

More similar which most people think opposites attract , which they can but eventually you will miss the things you enjoy and start butting heads , so its best to find someone that has a lot of similarities so you dont get bored of each other

natashamk108 · Answer

My boyfriend and I are similar in values and different in talents and interests. I like it cause it adds some variety. He's an amazing guitarist and musician and I'm an artist and writer. Kind of similar in that way but in other ways like taste in music and stuff like that we are opposites. I like classic rock (The Beach Boys, The Beatles, Eagles) and he likes full-on heavy metal. It just makes things more interesting.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Never dated, but I think similar, as you should share some common interests and views, which should lead to less conflict and just being more compatible in general.

Mi2mi2a · Answer

similar in most aspects but opposite too. I have this weird attraction to guys who have an opposite opinion of mine and discuss with me with an open mindset of course. I'm a sucker for that. lol.

Massageman · Answer

Really needed an "other" choice. Anyway, thinking the same on the big issues, with differences in the minor ;things seems to work out. Having the same- or at least understanding the other's "love language"- is a big help.

Natural_Normal_Guy · Answer

Although an opposite partner will complete you and you will be happy. It will only be short term. You need a similar thinking partner to advance in life. Someone who has the same rythm as you and that is willing to follow the same objectives in life.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

I'll only date a guy who has similar traits and morals to me . The relationship just wouldn't work if we had different traits and morals

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Similar. Some people claim "opposites attract" but in the long run I think for most people, it is better if they are similar in most ways.

CJC1993 · Answer

Opposite because its good to have different opinions and leads to different experiences.

IsabellaIII · Answer

Similar core values but different ways of viewing things for the challenge.

TayTay21 · Answer

Similar, but different in ways that make us complement one another well.

madgoat · Answer

I would imagine a similar partner makes for a relaxed relationship but it means potentially that they won't add any strengths where you are weak.

_-M-_ · Answer

I think it's better to date someone similar, but I believe that: Too much similarities and the relationship will be boring, too much differences and the relationship will not be good.

crazy8000 · Answer

Doesn't really matter! It depends on how well developed your and the others mind are. Also most people always have something in common when it comes to it, it's a matter of noticing what it is.

Kiran04 · Answer

Similar. Opposites distract. They don't attract. You want to share interests and hobbies, because that gives you more time together that you enjoy. Anything else leads to resentment.

GirlGuy123 · Answer

Similar of course. We ain't magnets or proton/elctorns😂😂😂

User-M · Answer

I think that it is better to be with someone who is similar to you. It will cause less conflict and more agreement.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I generally match better with people who are the opposite side of the same coin ((Not to be confused with the opposite side of the opposite coin)).

Exterminatore · Answer

Similar. Opposite may be interesting at first but when you can’t agree on anything there’s going to be issues in the relationship.

walt0462 · Answer

Opposite to expand outside of each other's comfort zone and the thrill of find new things that you both might have in common

Dark93 · Answer

Similar in personality, but with enough differences to learn about each other and grow the bond.

StephenCF · Answer

Similar!  They say opposites attract. But they also forget we’re humans, not magnets

Crocuta_Hyaenidae · Answer

Similar, but different enough. Cover each other's weaknesses, but share enough principles to be on the same page in your heads.

ultimega · Answer

Like someone who is the opposite of me but share some common ground

Jax888 · Answer

I would date someone I am attracted to, similar to me or not.

IntuitiveMuffin · Answer

Traits wise I find I admire someone more if they're better at something I feel I lack.

boulshyte · Answer

someone i want to learn from and be more like them. i need a guy who is chill. need to learn to calm down tbh

Anonymous · Answer

Similarity causes less friction and is more likely to last.

Iron_Man · Answer

The opposite like they say opposites attract but similar to my views of moral values

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Had a relationship with a guy that was completely opposite and it worked out great

sundram2005 · Answer

Opposite is always coupled with a element of surprise and unknown... which i think is healthy for any relationship

SSuar19 · Answer

I prefer the "similar" it will make communication run smoothly and there will be understanding

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Opposite. Let me have my little bit of video game and NFL time apart!

Anonymous · Answer

I’d say you are different people with many differences but there are a few major similarities that you bond on

SkittleMayn · Answer

Similar in values, the rest doesn't matter.

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Similar, you have more things to do.

Anonymous · Answer

A little similar and different helps

Sincerelyhonest · Answer

Similar=less arguments

Anonymous · Answer

Overall similar I guess

AtomicMuseliBar · Answer

A healthy mix of both.

nsyprkr · Answer

Similar as characteristic and physical

legalboxers · Answer

similar is always good

Anonymous · Answer

Similar you have more things in common

Anonymous · Answer

50% similar 50% opposite would be better? I dunno

JimRSmith · Answer

Similar.

Coachtom · Answer

Very true unless you have a good time arguing

Anonymous · Answer

Probably similar for it to work

Kayla45 · Answer

Similar

heybooitsme · Answer

Similar please👏🏻

Anonymous · Answer

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