Is it better to date someone that is more similar to you or opposite?

[Anonymous]

And why? As in traits, etc

Similar

Opposite

[Princess199902]

I think both can be beneficial, being similar probably means more to agree on and maybe less arguments and opposites can sometimes mean more conflict but a lot more to learn from.
I think it really depends on how similar or different the person is. Like if it's a difference in hobbies or political matters, I have no big deal because it doesn't really affect me and I'm up for trying new things. But maybe if it were religion or living standards, I might be slightly skeptical on the relationship.
However, with that being said, opposites can really attract as they can learn thing from each other and totally hit it off because you can discover new things about yourself that you never really expected. Dating someone similar to you is no big deal either, they'd make a nice couple and would enjoy their similarities together.

[Soft4u]

I'm not sure what's best.
Someone similar we'd have the same interests, there would be a lot in common so there would be less disagreeing on things.
Someone opposite would give each other the ability to learn different things, it would open you up to learning things you would not have learned had it not been for dating someone opposite of you.

[Hal2002]

You need some diversity in a relationship, it is nice to have a few things in common. But from viewing long term couples, I have seen couples that are so similar relationships turn into passionless friendships and seen them drift apart to find other partners. To get the passion, that their marriage lacked.

While couple that where the opposite of each other, while they hand more conflicts. You could still see the they had for each other, in their relationship.

The times I have heard women talking about how good their husbands where, than in the next breath saying how boring their relationship is.

[noubigdumbdumb]

I don't know how to put this but it's nice to have a balance in this sort of thing.

Like I'd say you have to be similar in some aspects at the very least to build your relationship on something, but having differing opinions/views on things allows the both of you to bring something new into the relationship.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Similar. I don't care what that old saying, "Opposites attract..." says.

You need some similarities with a partner to be compatible, otherwise you won't have much to discuss or share with them and your relationship will grow stale and boring.

Contrary to what the media and social media portray, you need more than sex and/or looks to be happy in a relationship.

[ManOnFire]

Similar.

Less conflict. More unity and agreement.

[newPython]

That sounds racist to me.. LOL...

[ManOnFire]

@newPython LOL. I guess it could sound that way, yeah. But no, that wasn't the intention. Lmfao.

[newPython]

No worries.. I am just fuckin with you that's all.. I am a loser with too much time on my hands. :)

[ManOnFire]

@newPython It's all good, man😃

[Logorithim]

Mostly similar (for compatibility)

[Desconhecida]

Opposites do attract each other but it never lasts

[BobSansMal]

I don't think in terms of similar or opposite. I think it's best to date someone who's complementary to you. I. e strong where you're weak and you're strong where they are weak. And with similar overall life goals and at least a fair number of shared interests.

[Frangipaniandlotus]

More agreeing with each other. Healthier relationship. Feeling more at ease with each other. More inner peace. Less compromises because situations when they are needed occur less often. Its more pleasant longterm speaking. You get each other without need to speak abput your emotions and explaining everything for three hours. Better for longterm relationship intentions. More obvious empathy on daily basis.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't there a both option? People are very versatile. My boyfriends a conservative. I’m more liberal. Yet we agree on most things and understand the others view point on other things. The best person to date is someone who’s similar enough to be alike yet different enough to be complimentary.

[the_lee1982]

Life is too boring if you only want to be with someone just like you. Being around someone that's not like me has introduced me to things I may not have tried and now fully embrace in life. Relationships shouldn't always be about comfort, but embracing something new and realizing things about you and your partner.

[NoxWriter22]

Similar but not the same. I want to be with someone who is similar to me so we understand each other and communicate well. I want her to be different so we can introduce each other to shows, movies, games and other cool stuff.

[ZestyWatermelon]

It really depends honestly. If you're really stubborn, dominant and overbearing you're gonna want someone the opposite of you. If you're really kind and generous you might want someone more similar to you.

[Finchie40]

More similar which most people think opposites attract , which they can but eventually you will miss the things you enjoy and start butting heads , so its best to find someone that has a lot of similarities so you dont get bored of each other

[natashamk108]

My boyfriend and I are similar in values and different in talents and interests. I like it cause it adds some variety. He's an amazing guitarist and musician and I'm an artist and writer. Kind of similar in that way but in other ways like taste in music and stuff like that we are opposites. I like classic rock (The Beach Boys, The Beatles, Eagles) and he likes full-on heavy metal. It just makes things more interesting.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Never dated, but I think similar, as you should share some common interests and views, which should lead to less conflict and just being more compatible in general.

[Mi2mi2a]

similar in most aspects but opposite too. I have this weird attraction to guys who have an opposite opinion of mine and discuss with me with an open mindset of course. I'm a sucker for that. lol.

[Massageman]

Really needed an "other" choice. Anyway, thinking the same on the big issues, with differences in the minor ;things seems to work out. Having the same- or at least understanding the other's "love language"- is a big help.

[Natural_Normal_Guy]

Although an opposite partner will complete you and you will be happy. It will only be short term. You need a similar thinking partner to advance in life. Someone who has the same rythm as you and that is willing to follow the same objectives in life.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

I'll only date a guy who has similar traits and morals to me . The relationship just wouldn't work if we had different traits and morals

[ArrowheadSW]

Similar. Some people claim "opposites attract" but in the long run I think for most people, it is better if they are similar in most ways.

[madgoat]

I would imagine a similar partner makes for a relaxed relationship but it means potentially that they won't add any strengths where you are weak.

[CJC1993]

Opposite because its good to have different opinions and leads to different experiences.